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quickenparalysespunk

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  • Anyone else who understands sarcasm, but gets bothered with logical inconsistencies?

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  • that's really "generous" considering many of them (very possibly most of them) would ostracize or ignore us because of our careful communication.

    if they saw this thread, it's indeed less than smart of me to call them dumb, but it's really an expression of desire for retribution, at least socially/intellectually etc, as opposed to sincere intent to stroke them all with the same mental deficiency brush.

    speaking of poorly employed phrases, ⬆️there's a bit of round-holed square peg for y'all, plus a hint of misplaced innuendo.

  • Anyone else who understands sarcasm, but gets bothered with logical inconsistencies?

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  • I've come to believe the biggest problem with humans' speaking is that most NTs and verbally avg ppl are super sloppy with grammar and semantic logic when they speak because theyre dumb/lazy enough rely solely on others empathy or intuition for their meaning to get across.

    I'm constantly noticing others' doing things like:

    • transposing names of people or objects in comparisons not once but multiple times during the same conversation
    • using precise terms when they mean something general like: "this animated film was based on that live action film because they both use multiple POVs to retell a single event" based on -> similar to
    • etc etc

    making mistakes is not morally wrong but doubling down on them is.

    "it's not that deep"/"don't overthink it" type of responses are a type of gaslighting and even victim-blaming because you were at least inconvenienced by their mistake.

  • news media claims Proton mail helped FBI unmask anonymous stop cop city protestors:

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  • Proton didn't break any privacy promises.

    Proton never ever promised to hide anyone's Proton payment info from govts. not even for Proton crypto wallet.

    privacy ≠ anonymity

    privacy ≠ security

    they are not the same but they intersect. do web search for a venn diagram.

  • BYD launches world's most powerful 1,500-kW EV charger, plans 20,000 stations by year-end

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  • BYD Reveals the ‘World’s Longest-Range EV’ as American Auto Industry Struggles to Keep Pace

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  • exactly

  • Missing Florida man found over a week later trapped in shoulder-deep mud

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  • did the world need another "Florida man"? especially the type who get stuck in mud, not to the ankle, not to the knee, to the shoulder...

    the goal should be to decrease them. that would be uplifting for the quality of human society. and for abortion rights, LGBTQ rights in Florida.

  • The only based path

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  • stop normalizing molestaches!

  • Problems shopping

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  • that is f***ing creepy and an assault. that woman should be hung by her toes and tattooed "personal space invader" on her damn stupid face!

    i would audibly berate her while walking away without giving her a chance to reply...

  • The bank wins again

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  • sorry this is too much interaction for me. can't read your reply. hope it works out!

  • The bank wins again

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  • that really sucks. sorry it didn't turn out in a way that matches your lived experience.

    are you by chance also high IQ or INFJ?

    i read and heard in autism podcasts that people with certain above average perception sometimes begun masking so well and from such an early age that it seems to others (and sometimes to themselves) that the mask is part is their core nature, as opposed to simply second nature. this is part of the effects of 2E ("twice exceptionality"; the name is problematic, try not to fixate on it)

  • Any relationship Advice?

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  • TL;DR - even if you're both Neurodivergent, you each have different neurotypes with actually different needs and brain workings. if you really can't find meaning and purpose in please/thanks/etc, your partner's need to receive such social niceties(or appreciation in a different form) is just as valid. both things can be true, and it's possible to find workarounds if you both examine what is at the root of those needs. it often comes down to figuring out how to show care daily in some way that is both sincere and is perceivable by the other person.

    example: my partner likes origami. i don't like it that much but I'm good enough at it that they find it impressive. so when i can, i give them an origami flower or animal and they feel a lot of affection from me through that.

    about being called an abuser, there definitely are autistic abusers and non-autistic abusers, and autistic people who are misunderstood as having abusive intent.

    just yesterday i was listening to the Divergent Conversations podcast (old episode) and they were taking about how certain autistic people who are NOT narcissistic can be mistakenly called narcissistic by others and their behavior is received as abuse by others.

    the gist is that some autistic people are not particularly introspective and not curious about their own inner world, hence not curious and inquisitive about others' inner world and feelings. this is not inherently wrong or cruel by itself. this doesn't mean the person doesn't have feelings. we all express and discuss feelings in different ways, which makes it sometimes don't look like feelings at all to others' eyes or our own.

    the problem is when it doesn't match the emotional interaction styles and attachment styles of other people we care about.

    because the less curious person can't, at the time, take steps in understanding and fulfilling their partner's emotional needs, the partner end up having to live in the less curious partner's pov reality which is a non-native environment for them. because it contradicts their other experiences and relational environments, it can have an effect like gaslighting. ways to fulfill the needs can be learned and the specific forms of filling the needs can often be negotiated.

    the confusion with abusive/narcissistic is that the abused partner is also forced to live in a "hostile" reality which gaslights their lived experience.

    so it's important to acknowledge the other person has needs that we can't fulfill necessarily in the default way society tells us or the way that seems easiest/most direct for the person. this is true in most relationships, and in both directions, partner a<->partner b. but the needs usually can be fulfilled in another way. or depending on what it is, it can be fulfilled by friendships/family.

    regarding please/thanks specifically, i think a perceived lack of appreciation/consideration (which this words are generally associated to) can trigger RSD. if you don't know that term, definitely look it up. it can be a HUUUUUGE part of ADHD. in the 1960s it was called "atypical depression" or sth like that because they didn't yet really know what ADHD was.

  • Tragic Titan submersible’s $62 SanDisk memory card found undamaged at wreckage site

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  • Frustrated with Proton Email

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  • yes!!

    i always save the boarding pass or concert ticket, whatever, in multiple formats:

    • starred email
    • downloaded local pdf
    • screenshot (not in proton mail directly)
    • etc

  • Song Lyrics... Does any app (preferably FOSS) actually work on Android?

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  • oh yeah this is a fantastic language learning tool

    (although it can bring up problems with tonal languages like Vietnamese, Thai, Mandarin, Cantonese, etc where the lyrics often abandon the words' inherent tones and follow the song melody instead. )

  • Crunchyroll Faces Cancelation: Why Anime Fans Are Choosing Piracy After Latest Update

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  • crunchy was criminal since the get go. their earliest releases were unauthorized reposts of fansubs, for which they already charged subscription fees!

    so they started their existence by pirating while making money through stealing fansubbers' (volunteer btw) work.

  • Removed

    New Yorkers Are Defacing This AI Startup's Million-Dollar Ad Campaign

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  • Frequent Lying

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  • people do whatever they have to do to feel safe. there's no problem with that.

    maybe you deserve more trust and autonomy than your parents are giving you. if the reason for asking your grades is "dad wants a treat", it sounds like they are asking for their own pleasure, not out of concern for you.

    so maybe it's a really good thing that you're lying to them to make space for yourself to feel emotionally safe.

    every one deserves to feel safe, no matter if the feelings of danger are caused by parents or strangers.

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    Help finding games

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  • Introducing the new Proton Mail apps for iOS and Android

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  • oh my G** this is so desperately needed

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml
    quickenparalysespunk @lemmy.dbzer0.com

    hypothetical: after Google sells Chrome, new owner f***s up, users flee to other browsers. Can Firefox step up and attract+keep a significant qty of users?

  • Lemmy Support @lemmy.ml
    quickenparalysespunk @lemmy.dbzer0.com

    Re: Blocking/Disabling DMs, I see the feature is "complete". Can I use this yet? If so, please give instructions.

    github.com /LemmyNet/lemmy/issues/3640
  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    quickenparalysespunk @lemmy.dbzer0.com

    Multilingual people all must have experienced YouTube's f**kery with auto translation. Still no workaround?

  • Privacy @lemmy.world
    quickenparalysespunk @lemmy.dbzer0.com

    India Tax Agency will gain access to citizen email, social accounts

    archive.ph /kJ9tf
  • Privacy @lemmy.ml
    quickenparalysespunk @lemmy.dbzer0.com

    Gboard safe to use with network permission revoked?

  • DeGoogle Yourself @lemmy.ml
    quickenparalysespunk @lemmy.dbzer0.com

    Gboard safe to use with network permission revoked?

  • Free and Open Source Software @beehaw.org
    quickenparalysespunk @lemmy.dbzer0.com

    correction: Briar chat desktop client "expired". No update timeline yet. (was: Briar chat desktop client "expired". Still an active project?)