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  • Good and true words

    ::: spoiler spoiler Im sorry your world is so financialized and you have to make those decisions

    its really hard and i hate needing to do that financial calculus. I scrimp and save every drop of color corrector, every stroke of eyeliner, and it fucking sucks. That new color corrector pallette costs the same as a meal (or more if im making rice&beans) that pack of razor heads that i can only use 2-3 times before theyre too dull for my face costs a couple meals, it all adds up so quickly.

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  • The universe must have been listening, cause i got randomly she/her-ed today!!!!! That never happens! Last time it happened without the person clocking me and stumbling a bit before saying correct pronouns was over a year ago, and god it made my day. It was a really shitty day cause ive reached the point of precarity where i need to apply for the jobs that have a far higher risk of like dislocating my joints (i have bad joints and probably bad connective tissues in general), and that random comment from a guy unloading stuff as i was walking into a store just made my day so much better. I passed for the first time in forever and it made me so happy to just be seen as a woman for once, and not as trans first and maybe woman second. I always get he/him-ed by that type of person, and today i didnt! I just got seen as a woman! I wasnt even wearing makeup, just a fresh shaven face and a simple outfit. On the one hand, fuck passing, but on the other hand, i was seen as a woman without any asterisk next to it or anything!!!! Ahhhh so happy!

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  • 100000% the validity stuff isnt just trans, thats just where i personally run into it the most cause, well, gestures vaguely at body

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  • Yes to both, but laser for legs is iirc not covered by insurance and is like $700/session. And for fancy products, well, tbh im broke af and like maybe 6-12 months from living in my car and cant get a fucking job cause noone is hiring except in jobs that will quite literally destroy my body. The jobs im able to do are all saturated and noones hiring and ugh i hate this shit so bad.

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  • ::: spoiler kinda went off on a tangent here. Its kinda mindfucky cause on the one hand, i know im a pretty gal, people are attracted to me and its clear. But at the same time, its just constant he him sir etc. Or asking pronouns. People rarely gender me correctly automatically, and its really frustrating. Fuck i even had to ask my sweetie to stop using explicitly and only they/them for me when talking about me in the 3rd person. Like, wtf? Shes trans, she should get this! I get that lots of trans women also use they/them, and she said she uses they/them for people by default, but like, thats still misgendering and idk like shes addressed it to a degree but its still frustrating to even have to bring that up... Like i have bonus pronouns that ill share if i feel safe, and none of them are they/them.

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  • ::: spoiler same context

    I find my best cis friends and allies are the ones who forget I'm trans even though I'm not passing who will bring stuff up like their period or pregnancy scares or whatever, then realise oh shit and apologize.

    I want cis friends who forget im trans. I only really have one cis friend. The rest are all nonbinary or trans. And even there, theres always something that makes things difficult (generally around my experience of autism running counter to either their experience of autism or their perception of autism if theyre not autistic). Idk, just feels hard to find people. But ive got people around me, thats what matters.

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  • Ive got an eiplator, it just has a bit of a rough process for me cause my hairs are super curly, so i end up with suuuper ingrown hairs. I have big red dots (like, half the diameter of a penny) from epilating 6 months ago. Theyre ingrown hairs that are so far beneath the surface that they cant be squeezed out

    but right after epilating everything is very smooth and nice, and it stays that way for a while. Its just the process a month down the line where things start getting bad.

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  • ::: spoiler jealousy i think? I keep seeing the shorter trans women in my life have affirming experiences and it makes me kinda sad, like, im very happy theyre being seen as themselves, but its a little frustrating to know that will rarely be me, and when it is its often from a pity perspective or a concious choice instead of just the automatic "that person = woman" subconcious process. I wouldnt trade my height i dont think, i love my long legs and my body in general (when im not having dysphoria or dysmorphia incidents), but it would be nice to, when in non-transfemme spaces, occasionally get automatically she/her-ed instead of he/him-ed or the dreaded "what are your pronouns"/glances at me "ok lets everybody share our pronouns!"

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  • I feel you

    i shaved my legs cause i couldnt handle the hair anymore. Now im paying for it, and will be for a good while

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  • ::: spoiler spoiler Idk, like the way the word is used definitely changes it from being ok to not ok, specifically the statement that my existence is valid is upsetting. If theyre talking about my reaction to something then thats fine, cause my reactions can be valid or invalid. But my existence isnt any more or less valid than other peoples. Idk, my guiding thing to validity statements is like "my thoughts and feelings are inherrently valid cause im having them, my actions taken and words spoken may or may not be tho".

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  • ::: spoiler vent about misogyny/transphobia I hate when people tell me my existence is "valid". Like, wtf do you even mean by that? My existence isnt "valid", or rather all existence is inherrently "valid" because it is. Saying im "valid" just reeks of "youre performing femininity in a manner that i dont find immediately disgusting or wrong" and just, fuck that so much. Just be honest and use the word "acceptable" or say "comforms enough that i dont have to challenge my deeply held misogyny", embrace your self-appointment as arbiter of femininity and womanhood and own that youre a gatekeeping asshole.

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  • Urxvt has been solid for me for terminals. But really, i just use vterm in emacs lol. C-u M-x vterm and im in my comfort zone

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  • Queer movie Sunday - Wildhood (2021) and Bottoms (2023) - starting 13:00 EST, 18:00 UTC

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  • Thankyou! Id love to be added to the big taglist

  • Helping a friend get started with gaming on linux - how to educate myself?

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  • Ok! I got bazzite set up for another friend who just wants to play stardew, so im familiar with the process (although the partitioner in the install program was hell lol).

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  • Heard, ill look into all of these, ty!

  • REVEALED: THE CIA-BACKED NGOS FUELING THE IRAN PROTESTS

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  • Goler T. Glorious Butcher medal for democracy promotion prevention

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  • ::: spoiler sh

    My approach to selfharm has been less about being "free" from it, but more about the time between incidents of it. I cant make it go away forever, i just dont think thats possible, but i can make the incidents really far apart, and choose methods that dont leave tons of psychic damage behind. Even if you relapse with it, it doesnt mean you will the next day. And fwiw im proud of you. Idk if i ever went multiple years.

    The most empathetic thing someone has ever said to me about selfharm was "i get it, sometimes you have to meet intensity with intensity".

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  • Omgyessss more people should use these emote/stickers!!