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Jul (they/she)

@ irotsoma @piefed.blahaj.zone

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  • Windows 11 has a new Start menu — here's how to unlock it

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  • The start menu became useless when it started getting difficult to find the full list of apps. I often don't remember exactly what an app is called to search for it since the search requires the exact name and only displays a couple of option from the app list for partial whereas the rest are web searches, etc. I gave up on it long ago. Now my desktop has to be covered in icons, which I hate.

  • Tastes like enshittification.

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  • Steam is almost a necessity due to it being hard to get physical copies of games these days. The others I have totally avoided, though. The one I'm having trouble getting away from is Portainer for maintaining Docker Swarms. And I really wish Acrobat was less needed. One of the few things I have to have Windows for is Acrobat Reader so I can fill out documents. Even their website chokes on a lot of forms I've needed to fill out lately.

  • Republicans want to jail pharmacists as two new bills targeting gender-affirming care advance

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  • Pharmacists don't generally provide a reason for prescriptions and neither do doctors provide a diagnosis to pharmacists, so how they're "committing fraud" and "coding" I have no clue. What this will mean is that any minors that require hormone supplementation to get through life such as those with PCOS or who are intersex for example, will likely be unable to get it.

  • SSH Client for Linux Desktop and Android - Alternative to Termius

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  • The primary issue is I don't always access devices from only those 3 systems. If I'm traveling or I wipe my device or get a new one, I would have to add the new key to many servers as authorized keys, and I'd need to have password access enabled in order to add the keys in the first place. Also, I want a key backed up in case of disaster since all of my devices are in my home most of the time. A few people use these systems, but only I maintain them.

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    Jul (they/she) @piefed.blahaj.zone

    SSH Client for Linux Desktop and Android - Alternative to Termius

  • Is this something you're good at?

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  • I'm good at picking up on a person's general trustworthiness almost immediately after I watch them talk to someone they're comfortable talking to. That's about the only skill I have in that area of things, so if it's a room of people who aren't strangers conversing, then yeah, usually I can pick up on the people to avoid as well as if everyone is to be avoided, lol.

  • If my birth state won't allow me to change the gender marker on my birth certificate, what do I do?

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  • It's not sufficient in my state. They specifically need the birth certificate, passport, or equivalent proof of citizenship to match the name. Or for a marriage certificate or divorce decree to prove name change. Right now at least, court orders for other purposes than marriage or divorce are not accepted. Not sure if it's something new, but it's the current requirement.

    Passport also requires gender match between document used for identification and the one used for citizenship proof, so I didn't look at if that has the same name change documentation requirement. But either way, the birth certificate changes are holding up my ability to get either of them, currently.

  • If my birth state won't allow me to change the gender marker on my birth certificate, what do I do?

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  • It's not the gender that's the main issue with the state ID, only the passport. I asked when I updated my driver's license and they said I had to separately reapply for a Real ID and that had to follow federal guidelines which includes proof of citizenship or legal residency which would mean a birth certificate or passport (which requires a birth certificate for people born here) with my legal name. I no longer have a valid birth certificate with my legal name until my birth state agrees to update it. It's shitty, but the federal government won't acknowledge a legal court order for name change on top of the old birth certificate like they do for name changed with marriage certificates, and so the state doesn't allow it for Real ID. And my current driver's license has no connection at all to my Real ID license in my old name, so there's no simple way to prove I'm a citizen right now in a way that's acceptable to the silly requirements despite my picture being on my ID and passport with my old name and still having the same last name. Cruelty is the goal.

  • If my birth state won't allow me to change the gender marker on my birth certificate, what do I do?

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  • I'm on the other side of the country, so kayaking may or may not be possible for someone without experience through the straight. Maybe around Victoria/San Juan Islands? Anyway, it's something I've thought about, but land crossings in rural areas may be easier. Otherwise, there's the mountains, but I'm not good in the extreme cold, lol.

  • Pentagon Threatens To Cut Ties With Scouts Over Gender Inclusion And Social Justice Values

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  • The original purpose, at least unofficially, was to raise boys to become soldiers, teaching skills needed like survival and propagandize for the military.

  • If my birth state won't allow me to change the gender marker on my birth certificate, what do I do?

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  • Yeah my state doesn't care what I put, but my birth state is being an ass. Without a birth certificate I can't prove citizenship and so can't get a Real ID or Passport, so for me the real issue is travel. And I need to travel for some surgery which means I can't get the surgery.

    I have my SSA name change (gender can't be updated anymore but it's not that important) and my driver's license, so I can still work for now. But the ultimate goal by the far right, if the Epstein files are to be believed, is to make trans people dependent on illegal sex work to criminalize our existence (and make money off of us for Epstein as a "pimp") and from being able to flee the country.

  • If my birth state won't allow me to change the gender marker on my birth certificate, what do I do?

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  • Yeah escape plan is the hard part for many since without proof of citizenship you can't fly anymore and it's a large country. I live close enough to Canada and have a car that I could drive in a few hours, just getting across the border will be difficult without a valid passport, which also requires a birth certificate.

  • How do you come out to people?

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  • I did it very slowly over a few years. Friends already knew I was non-conforming and considering a new name from a limited audience Facebook post I had made talking about names I was considering. And when I decided to start hormones I let some friends know that I had, and they asked if I was using a new name. Acquaintances kind of picked up on it and asked if I hadn't or a friend hadn't already told them.

    My family I sent text messages, I live far away and don't really do phone calls much.

    The hardest was work. I didn't change it for a couple of years. I work 100% remote and never use a webcam, so people didn't see my physical changes. I have a lot of connections across the company who know who I am from meetings and asking me questions that I'm an expert on.

    I actually ended up telling a few people I work with closely last summer and then putting my name into an avatar picture (it's short) in every company website, messaging app, etc. I left that up for a while and told people who asked about it. Then I went on medical leave for my bottom surgery for 3 months. I scheduled my legal name change during that time period. I somewhat recently got back and with the legal name change going to HR, my name changed on a bunch of places automatically (email, WebEx, HR sites, Confluence, SharePoint, etc). So, that was the hard cutover. It's gone pretty well. My coworkers spread the word for me for the most part to people I don't really talk to. I'm sure a lot of people didn't ask me directly but asked my coworkers which is fine, I know it's an uncomfortable subject for some.

  • What do you mean it's not $139.00 for an OS?

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  • I paid once for a full license for Windows 98, not an OEM one that comes with a computer. They then gave free upgrades indefinitely since technically it was always the same computer, so I only needed one copy. Simplified it by avoiding a lot of the pirating crack issues and risks. Every other computer than that desktop has always had Linux, and now it does too since I dont really do much gaming anymore.

  • traveling time at the speed of one second per second

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  • Yeah the right speed is key. Too slow and you get sleepy. Too fast and you get sick. Have to get drunk and then sick and sleepy so the drunk distracts from the constant body feeling and you dont notice the sick and sleepy anymore...for a little bit...

  • traveling time at the speed of one second per second

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  • Could also be allergic, or just drinking stuff too fast or that's too strong. Moderation of intake speed is key. But yeah, for you sounds not worth it.

  • Anyone find this?

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  • Yep. I worked im a factory for a couple of years. The repetition for 12hrs/day caused extreme anxiety. It's not just "boredom".

  • Meet UpScrolled, the anti-censorship TikTok alternative

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  • Agreed. Some censorship is good. Just like some regulation is good in any industry. Otherwise, the worst of the worst will destroy it with propaganda and hate. Censorship of things that are meant solely to hurt others or to spread misinformation are needed.

  • Which are you?

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  • Socks in winter because my body temperature regulation sucks, but they have to have good soft seams and be breathable. But no socks any other time. In fact I'd rather not wear any shoes or socks at any time if there wasn't broken glass, nails, hot asphalt, and such to deal with.

  • Can someone be trans but feel .. somewhat ambivalent regarding gender?

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  • Glad it's helpful. Gender is complex despite the propaganda from the far right trying to demonize gender-non-compliant people. Deconstructing things into their base components and analyzing them separately helps me a lot.

  • Human Battery Saver Modes

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  • Yeah, same. When I've been able to find them. I just have a hard time meeting people. Apps suck, I don't drink a lot so bars aren't my thing, and I'm not super into kink. Too old for school, and I work remotely. Seems like that's where most people I know tend to meet.

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    Jul (they/she) @piefed.blahaj.zone

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