There might just be some history on her side too that makes her act like this. That still isn't an excuse to be this uncooperative. Do you have any other colleagues that could support you in these arguments?
I love you, sweetie, and you deserve so much better than all of this
What I do know (only from experience, can't point to any studies or medical reports) is that fibroids can and do cause infertility. Arguing that you have those combined with a lot of hormonal issues because of your thyroid history might actually be argument enough to get the hysterectomy approved. You may have to be very adamant to get this solution, but I believe in you.
The hysterectomy will definitely help with a lot of the fibroid related issues, and on top of that with your irregular periods. I hope the doctors help you out
While I absolutely share your frustration and am glad you shared this post, I wanted to ask you to put a CW for ableism in your post as this is some very dark stuff and it should be marked accordingly.
Hey sweetheart, first of all I'm sorry you have to deal with your mother's behavior on top of the chronic pain. I think it's amazing how much you managed to accomplish in spite of it all, and I hope you can feel proud of yourself, for your accomplishments as well as you being you.
That said, I don't think there is a clear way of making your mother understand how you feel. There's a few things you can try. If your mom is inclined to listen to you, maybe try to tell her how you feel and how your disability affects you on an emotional level as well as a physical level. Make sure to not compare yourself to others, and stop her from comparing you to others. Say something like "This isn't about other people, this is about me, how I'm feeling and how I'm struggling." You need to be very patient but firm while you do it, which is always hard when you talk to a parent. I hope this way works out for you.
If your mother refuses to listen, however, I'd suggest getting that parking permit regardless of what she says. You're an adult, you have a right to ask for these things and to receive help, whether or not your mother agrees with it or not.
Having a cane is good if it helps you, but it's also a good opportunity to customize it and make it your own. Make it look unique to you, if you haven't done so already, and color it, give it some racing stripes or flames, whatever you like and makes you smile when you use it. It's your support, and I think it makes it easier to wear it with pride.
More sturdy is definitely true here too, but unfortunately they're not all cheaper. Still need to find the right one. Hope I can find a better store in the near future, don't think I'll return to this one.
Exactly! And this preoccupation with assigning colors to genders is something I've disliked ever since I was a kid, urgh. The most frustrating thing really is that glasses are a medical aid, and apart from being ridiculously expensive, now I also have to put up with this.
Thank you for your reply, I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way
While I haven't made much progress over the last few months, a couple of days ago I continued sowing my newest plush animal, a dragon with cute little wings and legs. It will need an extensive overhaul still, as there's some proportions that don't fit at all, but it's currently looking at me in its unfinished state and seems content to be half-done. I hope to post a picture of it once I get around to it again.
I have been confronted with the most absurd thing today: Gendered glasses. You know, I already thought the kinder surprise egg in a "girl" and "boy" edition was strange, bc some cashiers wouldn't sell boys the pink ones or girls the blue ones, but now I was told while looking for new glasses that I should look at the "female collection". I'm afab, I present as a woman, but I still felt fucking insulted when the salesperson told me so. I wish people would put effort in being accommodating and more open to people's genders, but instead, they just coat things in archaic binary gender colors and just direct you towards "what you look like". I don't know, maybe I'm just overreacting, but it felt demeaning. When I was younger, there weren't even gendered sections in the stores for glasses.
There might just be some history on her side too that makes her act like this. That still isn't an excuse to be this uncooperative. Do you have any other colleagues that could support you in these arguments?