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Admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada@blahaj.zone or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • Are there any self-identities which you would consider invalid?

    I just want to be clear. Blahaj lemmy does not allow invalidating of other folks identities.

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • That particular episode was one of the final steps in breaking down my own internal resistance to accepting myself.

  • I have an Nvidia GPU, can I game on Linux?

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  • In the last 18 monts, they're enabled explicit sync, which was pretty much the turning point in making NVIDIA drivers/GPUs usable. On top of that, they've open sourced the kernel modules.

    It's very very different to what it was even 2 years ago.

  • I have an Nvidia GPU, can I game on Linux?

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  • Is anyone running Wayland with NVIDIA drivers?

    Yep! It's been largely trouble free for a year or so now.

    but I'm getting bad flicker in Wayland.

    I had some issues the specific combination of NVIDIA card, Wayland running Plasma and VRR. But I disabled VRR, and it went away.

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • Right, but if your wife was yelling at people all the time, and writing emails to co-workers in all caps, and constantly getting on peoples bad side, you wouldn't go "Oh, she's hormonal". You'd probably assume that there is something else at play.

    Same assumption applies here.

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • No one has my birth name. My parents made it up by combining their names!

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • Unrelated to being trans (well, at least I think it is), but I have aphantasia. Written erotica is basically useless to me, because I can't visualise!

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • For me, it looked like doing voice training. It was largely self guided, watching videos here and there. This was in the time when trans instructional videos were far less common than they are now, so it was a bit hit and miss. But, I got my voice to a point where people didn't know how to gender me by voice alone, and looked for other cues and clues.

    Ultimately, I ended up getting vocal surgery to shorten the length of my vocal cords.

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • I'm a trans woman. I've never been feminine. No one picked on me because I was "girly". No one secretly thought I was gay. My interests were geeky, but they were "boy" geeky.

    I don't believe in gendered personalities. People have genders. Personalites don't.

    it does seem like those with body dysphoria actually feel uncomfortable in their bodies, and want a different body

    That's often a part of it, but it's not universal. There are many trans and gender diverse folk who don't experience things through this lens.

    if there were no gender norms or societal expectations, would you still want to transition?

    Yes, but it would look different. The social part of my transition was important to me, because it influences how people see me. It shapes whether they see me accurately, or see me as someone I am not. My appearance can cause them to stick me in the wrong gender box, and that is something that I needed to change.

    But if we existed in a world where there were no gender boxes, where gender was as diverse as people themselves are, then my transition would have looked different. I'd still needed to have addressed the physical aspects of my body. But socially? If my birth name didn't automatically carry a gender with it, if my clothes and my presentation didn't automatically carry gender with them, then my social transition would have looked very different.

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • The way to approach this is to make it absolutely clear that you're supportive. Use "they/them". Tell your neigbour about your friends kid and how happy you are for them etc. And then just follow their lead. They'll tell you what they need when they're comfortable doing so, but you've just made it a lot easier for them to get to that point

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • Are there cis people that are angry and emotional all the time for reasons you don't understand?

    Well, it's the same thing when you see it from trans folk...

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • dysmorphia

    Dysphoria

    At what age do you think it’s appropriate for someone with gender dysmorphia to make a decision to go through the medically assisted chemically induced transition process?

    This is another one of those questions that exist as a wedge tactic designed to make trans people sound dangerous.

    The reality is, the only medical option offered to young trans kids is the option to pause their puberty until they're old enough to be responsible for their own decisions, at which time they can choose which puberty they want to experience.

    And what time is the right age for that? Whenever they need to do it, because going through the wrong puberty is a traumatic experience.

  • what questions do you have but don't feel you can ask trans people?

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  • It's a non issue. Broadly speaking, trans people are far more afraid of rejection and violence from cis people than cis people are of seeing unexpected bits. Which is to say, this idea that trans people are just wandering around bathrooms flashing their bits at people is nothing but a narrative designed to stir up fear and anger aimed at trans folk. In reality, we tend to do everything we can to make ourselves small and invisible in spaces like that, because there is no safe way to navigate it

  • Are you a feminist? (If so why, if not why not?)

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  • At the end a gender, any gender. Is a sum of behavioral characteristics.

    This doesn't really align with my experience of gender. Which is to say, I think what you're describing here is a large part of gender, but it doesn't encapsulate it completely. I'm trans, yet I've never had a strong sense of "femininity" or "masculinity". I don't really "get" gender expression, except in so far as it's a tool to have people see my gender. I certainly don't have a sense of it being tied to my internal experience of my gender. Yet for all of that, I've always had a strong sense of gender.

    In a genderless world, I don't think we would all be genderless in the strict sense of the term, but more, our internal experiences of gender would be assumed to be unique, and as such, not really something that can be grouped in to labels and compared to other folks. In this world, what we now call gender expression, would just be self expression.

  • Are you a feminist? (If so why, if not why not?)

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  • Feminist as fuck!

    Feminism is the fight for equality, with a particular focus on the needs of women and folk perceived as women. Men are included in feminism, but indirectly, in that improving equality for women necessarily requires addressing systems, norms and issues that negatively impact men as well.

    Sure, it's easy to say that you're "egalitarian" or believe in "equality for all", but those sound bites, whilst heading off the anti feminist folk, completely fail to address the fact that inequality is not equally spread between men and women. When everything else is equal, women still deal with more inequality than men, and feminism is exists because of that fact

  • Why are some/most of the links on this account broken?

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  • Blahaj piefed ignores downvotes, so you can be safely assured that has nothing to do with it

    If I had to guess, you probably saw that when we were playing around with our CDN. We found the blahaj zone CDN on this list here https://lemmy.ml/post/34374544, and made some changes to try and reduce scraping. Some images weren't loading whilst we were getting it all ironed out.

  • Leaked list shows Facebook training their AI on multiple Lemmy instances

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  • They are scraping the blahaj cdn...

  • Leaked list shows Facebook training their AI on multiple Lemmy instances

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  • Our cdn is there... Joy...

  • What do you hate about linux?

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  • Yep, it's sandboxing that I don't like. They feel "tacked on" and don't integrate properly.