WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]

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  • I’m not sure I’m getting the full picture though. The cudgel was like “we can’t run popular ideas, they’re not electable like kinda-republican purple candidates are!”

    But then theoretically El-Sayd wins, right? People love Mamdani, they’d love El-Sayd.

    Then someone else comes along and campaigns on the idea of trying to make tomorrow better than today instead of the opposite, right?

    What’s the Dems’ radical response? “We can’t elect them because they’ll be soft on Islam”? I feel like a Republican is an existential threat. You can’t explain the ratcheting mechanism of a two party system because it’s all nerd shit. But what is Islamaohobia compared to healthcare and gas prices? “We know it’s electable and we know it’ll make life better, but it’s not racist enough”? Seems like a really unraveled response.

    But then again, they can’t do something new because politics is nerd shit, people aren’t educating themselves, and dema need to be understood anyway. But what ridiculous spin you’d have to have when people care about treats



  • If el sayed gets that W then I’m so deeply curious what they’ll say without electability being so easy to flaunt around. They’ve reneged in LGBT, abortion, healthcare, climate change, everything. If it’s popular they don’t like it. If it’s good they don’t like it. Zorhan does stuff like make sure water fountains work and all they can ask is if he likes Israel.

    Is there a single thing in the country that Dems are going to do a counteroffensive on that isn’t going to sound completely detached?




  • Being a BJJ black belt is really cool. After over a decade, reaching that goal is a deeply satisfying feeling. I would do things like

    Wearing the belt to the restaurant we went to celebrate afterwards

    Washing it immediately after use so I could keep it by me

    Sleeping next to it

    Keeping it at my work station

    Holding it when I get anxious

    Comparing things in difficulty to getting a black belt

    Thinking of things in relative difficulty if 1% of people get it

    It’s funny the way I feel accomplished in the sense that I have the thing itself, HAVING a belt, while the people around me celebrate that I HAVE BECOME a black belt.

    I feel a sense of liberation and I think that’s how I metabolize being enduringly happy about it. I can go do other sports that I left up on the shelf because there’s an air of completeness. I did that thing that was supposed to be the equivalent of Naruto becoming the hokage. Only thing that’s crazy to think about is that when I first stepped on the mat Luffy wasnt just on his journey too, he was IN THE NEW WORLD ALREADY. The series is unfathomably long



  • I recognize those points. You’re arguing against the news. The person is little more than a proxy at that point. I don’t know what to do about it because I struggle to do sales at that level, but I know it has to be some form of pathos. To change hearts and minds you’re not going to win via conversation about the point. There’s some kind of meta-point. There are people for whom this is quite natural, but I’m not them. I’ll debate that point with dogged determination, look up, and see that everyone else has moved on.

    It has to be like “Do you feel safe when the police are around?” And then if they offer up their gooey core (which is a massive if) then undoubtedly, because of their good nature, it’s going to be something like “I don’t feel comfortable gambling with the safety of these minorities who spoke out on the news in support of the police.” At which point you’d actually have a ball game to be played. That’s the arena where you could use your theory and change someone’s mind.


  • I remember talking to my dad about defund the police. His first objection was “well, what would we do instead for emergencies?” And I talked about the other types of responses you could have for emergencies. All well and good right?

    His second objection, naturally, was “well, what would we do instead for emergencies.” Weird, but I talked about how they don’t need all the military equipment and its maintenance.

    His third objection… “I just don’t see anyone offering any alternatives.”

    ??? Don’t pmo

    But that’s also on me because I can’t go 3 words into anything related to business, politics, or fantasy without people frothing at the mouth about how complex it is to listen to me. I haven’t been asked a follow up question in years and I hear “that’s above my head” dozens of times. I spend a great deal of effort trying to simplify myself everyday but I think it’s exceedingly rare to find anyone open to listen about anything.

    And I say that to assert that your experience may not just be liberals listening to a leftist the same way being a loser isn’t just men <-> women, it may just be people in general. They absolutely loathe listening. They’d much rather you appear on their favorite TV show in a suit, bowtie, and thick glasses to make the same point so that they know, through proxy, that you’re a Smart Person Worth Listening To ™️ as you make the point “you know how you don’t like this thing? But you don’t want to replace it with a different thing that sucks? there is an alternative to this thing that sucks. It has been functional elsewhere. That’s why it would be… le good!”







  • It’s disconcerting the way that being a scientist is villified.

    Also the way I have never seen an educated person upset about religion or the debate thereof. It’s like if I proposed a business idea that sucked to my most temperamental and argumentative friend. they’d just kinda shake their head and go “nuh uh. No. That won’t work because…”

    And then personally I’m disgusted and upset with society writ large the way that someone could give you something wrong on its face, you can’t just deboooonk it and it’s actually a complicated relationship between people who are intensely sensitive to criticism and will only do worse if you point it out without wearing the right outfit and speaking with simple enough words. 1% of snowflakes collect 80% of the grace

    And then also how the whole dynamic breaks down if you go “why are you proving the bible to me?” And they’re actually thrilled to confirm to you the stupid part of the argument.

    And then when I write all that context out I’ve hurt my own feelings and don’t even want to talk about how hilarious what he said is.



  • Can I talk about myself to try and relate to you? I don’t have anything insightful to say but I’d like to talk to you about the subject.

    of course, WDYMP, you're so chill and cool (just kidding, it ended up being a rant); thanks for asking

    I often times wish I were ace. I feel weak to sex. Like I can know it’s not a particularly good idea, but if I have a prospective partner who’s interested I can’t fucking help myself. At some level all relationships are FAFO, right? To me it’s a miracle that anyone gets along with anyone else. So it becomes this moment of “look, I stumbled into this rare, special thing that feels good, I wonder if they will also honor it with the reverence it deserves.” And of course they don’t. Why would they? For the grand majority of people that talk to me like that, romance and sex are something so meaningless or unimportant that it’s not even worth presenting oneself as interested in knowing me.

    I wish it were meaningless and unimportant to me too! Rather, I wish I didn’t want to interact with them at all. I wish I could focus instead of getting horny. So saying I’m ace feels like saying I’m straight if I were to constantly seek out sexual interactions of people of my same gender. It just feels like it doesn’t describe the situation very accurately or communicate anything meaningful. A gay person might wish to be straight but that’s more trivia than predictive to who they’re going to get with.

    Like I don’t know if I’m aro or if all the relationships I’ve been in have been with losers. Like maybe I’m the loser because I believe people can talk about things, contribute to discussions with more than receiving information, and ultimately communicate back anything besides verdicts about things they didn’t talk about when I asked. Maybe I’m a secret fucking genius because I behave as more than a glorified relationship compiler. If the focus is on things that work or are cool, then I excel. If the focus is on any kind of prolonged caring about someone I’m dead in the water because they just get bored. Like there’s some consistent unspeakable horror that comes from intimacy with me.

    I aspire to one day be asked a follow up question IRL. It’s a bit of a hyperbole, but a couple years ago I was on a first date with someone who I naively shared some pages of my writing with. They asked me a question about it showing that they at least opened the file and read a page or two. Though they didn’t want a second date, I think about that moment more than some people I have been in a relationship with.