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Reyali

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    is feeling disrespected reason good enough to change jobs?

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  • Yeah I’m sure I could have gotten more a bit faster and I’m pretty sure I’d make more with my title at many other companies, but environment and quality of life are worth more to me.

    The company’s culture is fantastic for many reasons. It’s a well-known brand with ~2k corporate employees and while others are mandating RTO, my CEO has gone on public record multiple times to reinforce that we are a work-from-anywhere company. Also while there have been constant layoffs in the news over the past year, our last layoff was in 2021 (and relatively small). Layoffs under our CEO aren’t a fact of life while our prior CEO relished the twice annual layoff and is still doing that at the company he runs now.

    Plus I genuinely like the work I do and love the people I work with. Now that I make money well beyond my means, I care way more about culture than chasing another buck.

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  • Comments like yours remind me why I’m so damn lucky and grateful for my job…

    In February I’ll have been there 10 years, and my salary is almost 150% more than when I started (which was above $50k for context).

    I’ve gotten annual ~3% “raises” each year, as well as one role change (+11%), two promotions (+25% and +13%), and a raise I pushed for (+12%). The first promotion, my boss literally called me on a Tuesday and said I had a new title and my raise was effective as of the Saturday before.

    I share this to remind people these kinds of companies do exist, even if they’re the exception.

  • The funny progression of getting promotions at work

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  • My guess is they work across multiple locations (Market) and manage personnel (People Lead). Everything up to that title seems likely to be related to just the one location.

    Field offices for my company have team leads oversee 3 locations. Not sure how it would work in fast food, but that’s what I’m drawing my guesses from.

  • Why Conservatives Are Now Obsesses with Raw Milk

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  • Ah, the abbreviation here is great. Since a family friend of mine is named Pat and had been buying into this shit more and more over the years. He even got a doctor to give him hydroxychloroquine during the peak of covid!

  • Absent US congresswoman has been dealing with ‘dementia issues’, family says

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  • More arbitrary but less abusable. One is applied evenly to all people, regardless of people’s opinions or views. The other can be changed and manipulated in a way that knocks out political opponents.

    I agree that cognitive ability is more important to me than a person’s age. I live with that observation every day with my parents. They are both around 80, and I would argue my mom is almost as sharp as she ever was; I have no concerns about her decision making. However, my dad is struggling more and more all the time; he’s shown decline for many years now and is at the point we’re not comfortable with him making many decisions or taking on complex tasks. A rule applied to one would not be equally appropriate for the other.

    However, if we implement something, I would rather it be a rule that we can apply to all. I don’t trust the government to consistently and reasonably apply cognitive tests that don’t introduce bias.

    Edit: autocorrect typo

  • the warm rush of actually making a dent in thousands of people dumber and more wronger than me...

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  • It’s a setting that’s off by default in Voyager.

  • Syrian mass graves show the worst abuses 'since the Nazis,' top prosecutor says

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  • So contact NBC with your concerns. Arguing with people who can’t change it just makes people who might otherwise agree with you frustrated with your point of view.

  • Syrian mass graves show the worst abuses 'since the Nazis,' top prosecutor says

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  • You’re angry about a headline that abbreviates the actual story.

    The very first paragraph of the article:

    Mass graves uncovered in Syria in the days since President Bashar al-Assad wasoverthrown are exposing evidence of some of the worst abuses since the Nazis, a top international war crimes prosecutor said. [emphasis mine]

    The article agrees with you. It’s only the headline that doesn’t.

    This kind of anger and engagement at headlines is exactly what the media thrives off of. Don’t let them win by doing just that.

  • how do I become the dullest, most boring coworker so this needy man leaves me alone?

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  • If I may rephrase what I’m reading: You don’t want to tell him to leave you alone because you would be upset if someone told you that.

    Here’s the thing: you don’t know that will upset him. TL;DR of the rest of my post: he probably won’t take it the way you would, and I highly recommend being straightforward with him.

    I suggest reading about the difference in Ask Culture vs Guess Culture. Those of us who grew up in a guess culture manage our own actions based on what we think will be acceptable to those around us and won’t even initiate something if it would be deemed inappropriate, so it’s rare we have to be told “no”. Those in ask culture will just ask and be totally fine if told no, because they haven’t already done the pre-work to figure out if their request will be approved.

    One of the best lessons I’ve had in the past few years is that other people don’t respond like me. I mean, that should be obvious. But it came up in the context of being a manager at work with an underperformer. I would be devastated if my boss told me I was not doing well at my job, and so I was terrified of telling my direct report that. I communicated the gaps in her specific actions for months, but we finally got to a point where I needed to have the conversation that I didn’t think the role was the right fit for her. It was one of the hardest days in my career. And she thanked me for it!

    I was so scared because I was imagining how I’d feel hearing what I was going to say. But she’s not me! And instead of being upset, she felt relief to hear someone else say it.

    You’re afraid of being rude, and that shows you have compassion and care for others. But I bet you that this coworker of yours just needs to be told, and not communicating with him is actually less kind.

    A quote from a favorite book series of mine is a take on our “golden rule” through an alien culture: “The Iron Rule: Treat others less powerful than you however you like. The Silver Rule: Treat others as you’d like to be treated. The Golden Rule: Treat others as they’d like to be treated.”

  • Simple spelling rule.

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  • I prefer spelling it with an ‘e’ so I always do that (probably because my name has two common spellings, one with an A and the other with an E, and mine is the latter).

    But if forced to identify which is which color-wise, I’d say “grey” has cool undertones while “gray” has warm undertones. Really no reason to think that, but it’s right in my brain.

  • Last Night our Momo crossed the rainbow bridge. She loved to carry around her toys and chirp.

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  • I got my cat while I was in high school. She was by my side when I was diagnosed with chronic illnesses and was there with me nonstop as I healed from a couple surgeries over the years. She lived in every home I’ve lived in and has seen me through nearly every heartbreak and other challenge I’ve had in my life. I had to put her down at 20 years old on October 5th.

    I told people for years that I didn’t know what I’d do when I’d lose her, except that I’d be a mess. And that’s true. Just reading the comments in this thread has me crying again, and I’m not sure if I’ve had a day without tears since Oct 5. But I’m alive. Losing her has left a hole in my heart and soul, but I’m starting to feel like I can breathe normally again most of the time.

    It’s gonna suck, and there’s no way around that. But the love and joy you share now will be worth every moment of the grief you will feel. After all, grief is just love without a place to go.

    I recommend taking lots of pictures, videos, and even sound recordings (I have many recordings of her purring). I get so much comfort from watching and listening to those. It’s not the same and it’s not enough, but it still helps.

    I wish you all the best, in your health and his. I was so lucky to share twenty years of my life with my girl, and I hope you get as much time with your boy.

  • Woman admits she lied about Duke lacrosse players raping her nearly 20 years ago: ‘I made up a story’

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  • Yeah, it’s a great idea. Because innocent people are never convicted in our justice system.

    Because people never abuse the legal system with bogus lawsuits.

    Because police aren’t more likely to be abusers themselves and therefore more likely to take the side of another abuser against a victim.

    Because someone who is willing to rape someone isn’t ever likely to try to exert more power over them.

    Because laws are always applied evenly and justly across all races, sexes, social classes, identities.

    Because sexual assault victims feel totally empowered by our legal system and society as long as they’re telling the truth.

    Oh wait, none of those things are true.

    So no, it’s not a great idea. Not until we fix a fuck ton of other problems in our society and justice system.

    Libel, slander, and perjury are already illegal. Let’s use existing laws rather than introducing something new that can make it even harder for real victims.

  • UnitedHealth Group leader breaks silence on CEO murder, says health care system is flawed

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  • (Not who responded to you, but) I agree with you when you put it as “the worst of human nature.” I take issue with the idea that all of human nature is trash.

    The systems we live in absolutely bring out the worst in people because it drives desperation. Desperate people will do what they must no matter how they hurt people, and the whole “hurt people hurt people” then runs rampant.

    But human nature also contains the helpers, community, love, and so much more. We need systems that encourage those things, not to write off all our problems as just how we are.

  • UnitedHealth Group leader breaks silence on CEO murder, says health care system is flawed

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  • Or “the rest of,” as if insurance companies aren’t the primary driver of those flaws.

  • No one showed up to his party

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  • Requesting one small caveat to your thinking: your friends with chronic health issues (physical and/or mental) may bail more often than others but still love you.

    My partner has lost friends over them thinking he uses his migraines as an excuse to not show up to things. They feel hurt because he bailed one too many times for them, and he feels hurt because they diminished his disability and didn’t believe him. It’s hard to see the additional toll it takes on him.

    (I also have my own chronic issues but thankfully have been able to suck it up often enough to not have it come in the way of friendships. Sometimes he and I are intentional about making sure at least one of us attends something even if we both feel like shit in order to not alienate people we care about.)

  • When leftists say "landlord are parasites" or similar dislike of landlords, do they also mean the people that own like a couple of houses as an investment, or only the big landlords?

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  • I appreciate you breaking it down this way. It helps me understand the stance so many hold on landlords.

    However, I think you’re missing a lot in your distillation that everything above mortgage + handyman salary is making money for nothing.

    Owner also pays property taxes, insurance, all maintenance costs, all upgrades, and possibly utilities or yard care. The benefits for the renters include having a maintenance person on-call all the time, not needing to vet each tradesperson, not needing to get quotes, no expenses when an appliance breaks, no liability in case of a disaster, and more.

    If I didn’t have a handy partner and the market was reasonable, I’d love to rent. I don’t want to deal with maintenance and I like having a consistent monthly fee rather than suddenly having to spend $2k on a new water heater like I did last month, or being afraid that our heat might die suddenly this winter because we weren’t ready to spend >$20k this summer to replace the air handler when it went out and needed a new part. Plus my partner took 3 half days off work to get 3 quotes for it. They each told us significantly different things that we needed to do, so we couldn’t decide if we were comfortable doing business with any of them. That shit is stressful! Having the assurance that I can call just one person and someone else will take care of it is worth a good price.

    So the cost of owning some units is more than just the mortgage, and the benefits of renting are more than just a maintenance person’s salary. Distilling it to just those two things is an unjust comparison.

    Should a person get stupidly rich off of being a landlord? No. That’s exploitative. The cost of renting should match the cost of the property and maintenance (as averaged out over time) plus the cost/savings of the additional benefits of renting. That’s all. But that’s a lot more than just mortgage + handyman salary divided out over however many units the landlord owns.

    (Also this assumes the person is actually a good landlord, and we know there are many landlords out there who aren’t.)

  • Florida introduces anti-chemtrail bill

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  • This cirrus-forming phenomenon could account for around 35% of aviation’s total contribution to climate change—or about 1% to 2% of overall global warming, according to some estimates.

    I had absolutely no clue that they had an impact, much less such a significant one. Thanks for sharing!

    Also interesting:

    A small fraction of overall flights, between 2% and 10%, create about 80% of the contrails

  • crulevids

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  • Ah, actually that seems likely! I’ve only ever seen bright red mouths on baby crows, so this being pink was a bit of a surprise, but it seems pink is normal for fledgling ravens. The feathers extending onto the beak also do indicate it’s more likely a raven.

    Thanks for the call out!

  • crulevids

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  • Fun fact: that’s a baby crow! [Edit: or more likely, a baby raven.]

    Only young crows have pink/red inside their mouths. Adults have black mouths. I learned this after we started feeding crows at our house and in the summer I noticed some had bright mouths. It’s the only distinguishing feature because by the time the babies are out of the nest, they’re as big as the adults!

    Though the way they followed the adults around and begged to be fed also distinguished them a bit!