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Reyali

@ Reyali @lemm.ee

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  • Costco shareholders overwhelmingly reject anti-DEI proposal

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  • I got my membership as a 20-something living alone and have never regretted it. Purchasing contact solution alone made up the cost of the membership! Then if I got gas there a couple times a year I was definitely saving.

    The one thing I dislike about Costco is that I have to psyche myself up to go. I hate shopping in general because it uses up a lot of spoons for me, and Costco tends to take even more. It’s usually crowded, there’s so much stuff that I typically want to wander, and then everything I buy is huge so loading up the car can be a pain. By the end my back hurts, I’m tired, and I’m sick of people.

    And yet I still haven’t even considered giving up my membership in over 10 years.

  • FCC reinstates complaints against ABC, CBS and NBC for 2024 election coverage

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  • The statement was 1% of the US population is watching it on any given night. Some quick searching I found the most-watched cable news show is The Five from Fox News with 3.57M viewership.

    335M people in the US, so that number is actually a bit greater than 1% of the entire US population.

    • 36% of eligible voters didn’t vote last year(I know this is not equally representative across all ages but I’m trying to keep it back-of-napkin)
    • 60+ accounts for 24% of the population (80M people)

    335M * 24% * 64% = 51.5M

    If the all their viewers are >60, then about 7% of all >60 people who care about politics could be watching that one Fox News show.

    That’s not quite 2/5, but it’s still significant! And again, that accounts for only 1 show’s viewership. I couldn’t find easy numbers for how many people watch Fox News in a given day or week.

    Sorry, you probably don’t care but your comment made me curious.

  • [Gamers Nexus] Investigation: GamersNexus Files New Lawsuit Against PayPal & Honey

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  • Gotcha. Thanks for providing the additional detail! It is comforting to learn why it’s unlikely this could affect ad block.

  • [Gamers Nexus] Investigation: GamersNexus Files New Lawsuit Against PayPal & Honey

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  • You’re looking at it from an end user perspective. “I want it to do this, so it’s ok” for an ad blocker, but “I didn’t know it was doing this so it’s bad” for Honey.

    But the LE/GN cases are that Honey changed URLs and cost them the sale revenue, no? That’s not the end user experience. Seems like that could easily be pivoted to a website who claims lost revenue was stolen from them because ad blockers are manipulating their site/URLs, end users’ desires be damned.

  • Mom hit her with “K”

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  • I am wondering too, and I’m kind of worried it’s an awful spelling of Zoë?

  • There Is No Safe Word: How the best-selling fantasy author Neil Gaiman hid the darkest parts of himself for decades.

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  • It’s been a while but I think it was some of the individual prose that seemed more like Gaiman, mostly like scene setting/ambiance. I only noticed in on a reread I did shortly after reading one of Gaiman’s. On the other hand, all of the memorable stuff like characters, plot, and humor were all very typical Pratchett.

    GNU Terry Pratchett <3

  • These 12 major companies caved to the far right and stopped DEI programs

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  • Better resumes are good, but there are plenty of studies showing bias towards the name alone on a resume and that a white-sounding name gets more bites than names more associated with a minority race.

    People have biases, conscious or not. Did you know that women’s positions in orchestras increased greatly after switching to blind auditions? And I can’t find a legit source in 2 min of searching, but there’s also been indication that the sound of high heels affects hiring outcomes even in blind auditions.

    Example studies on names and hiring outcomes: 2004, 2023, 2024 (even the “best” companies still showed a 3% bias towards white candidates vs 24% for the worst), 2016

    So yeah, there are a fuckton of steps to addressing systemic racism and starting early in the process is a critical step. But the narrative that an equivalent resume is all that’s needed to close the gap is false and dangerous.

  • There Is No Safe Word: How the best-selling fantasy author Neil Gaiman hid the darkest parts of himself for decades.

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  • My partner and I are right there with you. Could never understand why so many people were so enamored. I tried really hard to like his writing, and there were a few that were ok, and some had a neat concept, but that was the best I could dredge up to say about them.

    I doubt I was subconsciously seeing something in them, but I do think there’s a stylistic thing that never resonated with me. And now I’m glad. I am grateful to not feel the grief of losing an artist who meant something to me.

  • There Is No Safe Word: How the best-selling fantasy author Neil Gaiman hid the darkest parts of himself for decades.

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  • Yeah, that’s occurred to me as well. For context I haven’t brought myself to read the specifics yet, so I don’t know all the details. I don’t like to comment when I’ve only read the title, but I’ve seen enough trigger warnings to put this one off until I’m ready.

  • There Is No Safe Word: How the best-selling fantasy author Neil Gaiman hid the darkest parts of himself for decades.

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  • Side story: I have a number of dear friends who were huge Gaiman fans, so I tried to be one too. And I just could not. I could hardly get through most of his books. I liked the concept of American Gods but didn’t care for the story and Neverwhere was ok, but I didn’t see what my friends kept going on about.

    Then I read Good Omens and loved it. Finally! I was enjoying Gaiman.

    Years later, my now-partner introduced me to Discworld. Then I reread Good Omens and realized that everything I enjoyed so much in it almost certainly came from Pratchett, not Gaiman. When you know some of each’s writing, some parts start to stand out as one or the other. And I have no doubt what made that book so great (to me, at least) was Sir Terry’s influence.

  • There Is No Safe Word: How the best-selling fantasy author Neil Gaiman hid the darkest parts of himself for decades.

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  • Is it awful that a part of me is glad Terry Pratchett is gone and doesn’t have to face this about someone who was a friend and co-writer?

    Given how progressive Pratchett’s stories were I would have a hard time believing he was a bad person or could support bad people, and I imagine this would be hard on him. Then again perhaps I’m just selfishly glad that I don’t have to know if he didn’t respond appropriately by distancing himself.

    Don’t know if I’m even making sense. This is just so disheartening given how many people I know absolutely loved Gaiman.

  • Dancing Rules!

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  • Why did “Eye of the Tiger” immediately start playing in my head when I saw this?

  • Ohio enacts 'shameful' 'Don't Say Gay' bill as Gov. Mike DeWine signs

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  • Sorry, I’m curious what the “us” here is? I had my first suicidal ideation in 4th grade as well.

    As a kid/teen I never thought I’d live past 30. Not necessarily by my hand, but I just felt so sure there was a cut off point for me. Yet I did and I’m still here.

  • New York Times rejects Quaker ad for calling Israel’s actions “genocide”

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  • I’m wondering if that may be the Mennonites? Like the Amish, they don’t have social security numbers so the tax code is definitely different for them. I can say with confidence that Quakers don’t have that exclusion.

  • New York Times rejects Quaker ad for calling Israel’s actions “genocide”

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  • You and I may know some of the same people! Does the name Max Carter mean anything to you?

    Small correction though: the taxes thing isn’t actually true… there were (probably still are, but I’ve not been actively involved in enough years to feel justified making the claim) Quakers who chose to hold a percent of their income tax in escrow rather than give it to the government under the argument that their conscientious objector status should keep their money from going to the military.

    It is not a legally recognized stance, and these people risk fees, interest, and legal action for their withholdings. And yet they choose to risk that as a form of peaceful protest.

    Your comment dredged up all the memories of a workshop/talk I attended by one of these folks when I was in probably high school? It was not something done lightly or without effort.

  • New York Times rejects Quaker ad for calling Israel’s actions “genocide”

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  • It’s making me really happy seeing how many people in the comments here have nice things to say about Quakers!

    I don’t remember the incident you’re recalling. Sounds like something my people would do though, lol. What I do think of in terms of Quaker activity at the time is a lot of protests and also Tom Fox, a Quaker taken hostage and killed in Iraq. He was there representing the org Christian Peacemaker Team, which goes to places plagued with violence to do service and good. Unlike missionaries and despite their name, they do not try to convert anyone.

    I did not know Tom, but I know many people who did. And despite the very personal loss, the response was doubling down on the efforts to bring peace and stop the war. I think it was a pretty widespread assumption that most Friends organizations were on watch lists.

    Leftist Quakers are pretty radical, and pretty awesome.

  • New York Times rejects Quaker ad for calling Israel’s actions “genocide”

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  • I mean, they wanted to cash in on the positive reputations Quakers had in business. While not being Quaker. And not implementing any of their business practices AFAIK. Plus their logo is of a traditional Puritan and has nothing to do with Quakers.

    I think “deceptive” is a fair word.

  • New York Times rejects Quaker ad for calling Israel’s actions “genocide”

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  • There are also multiple branches of Quakerism. I greatly appreciate the person above speaking about it because they truly covered the way the Quaker meetings I was raised in are and the kinds of people I have spent so much of my life around.

    However, there are other branches that don’t deserve the same praise. There are evangelical Quakers and while they aren’t as bad as what that word usually implies, they also aren’t exactly deserving of the description above. Nixon was born into one of the evangelical Quaker branches.

    Source: grew up Quaker. Literally have a minor degree in Quaker studies, lol. (It’s been a while and I’m not active in any meetings or organizations these days, but I’ll always be grateful for the values it instilled in me and the community I found from it.)

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    how do I show a coworker that I care about her after her mother died?

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  • Yeah, and that’s also the time that people who are grieving are likely to feel like they should be moving on, but that’s rarely the case. Having someone else acknowledge that it’s still ok if it’s still a difficult time can be really validating.

    I recently reached out to a coworker whose dog died and said, “I’ve been thinking about you and [Dog’s name]. I hope you’re finding moments of comfort and are doing as well as you can. I just wanted you to know you’re in my thoughts.”

    I recently lost my cat and know when a couple people reached out with similar comments it meant a lot.