Yeah, dating is 100% a numbers game. You cast a broad net, and then pick through the ones who show interest. There’s no way to find the right person without failing a few times. The people that end up with their high school sweethearts are the exceptions that got extremely lucky, not the standard to strive for.

Don’t take the failure personally. Unless you’re blatantly going around cheating, being misogynistic, racist, etc., it’s likely not anything in particular that you did “wrong”. It simply means you weren’t a good match. The best thing you can do is simply be the best version of yourself. By that, I mean to avoid just sitting around on your hands, expecting someone to land in your lap. The “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” mentality is extremely toxic; Be the kind of person that your ideal partner would want to date.

“Just give the bully your lunch money, and they’ll stop asking for it in the future. It definitely won’t result in them coming back tomorrow to shake you down again.”

Or even worse… Supporting Palestine.

A lakh is 100k. So 5 lakh is 500k. Converted to USD, that’s around $5900 USD

It’s funny because I’ve seen almost the exact opposite; Trans femmes are choosing beautiful gorgeous names that fit them perfectly. Then trans mascs are just like “oh hey, I’m Steve.”

It can be, yes. One of the largest complaints with Docker is that you often end up running the same dependencies a dozen times, because each of your dozen containers uses them. But the trade-off is that you can run a dozen different versions of those dependencies, because each image shipped with the specific version they needed.

Of course, the big issue with running a dozen different versions of dependencies is that it makes security a nightmare. You’re not just tracking exploits for the most recent version of what you have installed. Many images end up shipping with out-of-date dependencies, which can absolutely be a security risk under certain circumstances. In most cases the risk is mitigated by the fact that the services are isolated and don’t really interact with the rest of the computer. But it’s at least something to keep in mind.

Or just get into CB radio. You can get a unit for like $100. No license required, and it makes road trips much more interesting, because it’s still used by a lot of truckers. Channel 17 for north/south travel, and 19 for east/west.

Some of us are old enough to remember when the entire point of cable TV was to avoid commercials. Over-the-air antenna TV was supported by ads. But then cable came along, and went “hey, what if we offered a paid TV service, without the ads?”

Then they realized they could just fucking double-dip and show ads anyways. And now they’re charging extra to skip those ads.

And we’ve seen streaming services start to take the same route. Some have started showing ads to paid users, then charging extra to avoid the ads.

According to .ml, anyone even slightly right of outright communism should be considered fascist. .ml is one of the more extreme hard left instances, so comments from the instance should be taken with that in mind. It is very heavily censored, so their users only ever see the “China and Russia did nothing wrong” type of rhetoric.

.world has issues, for sure. It’s the largest instance, and that comes with its own issues. But it’s definitely not fascist.

I mean, he switched to Linux and has advocated for gamers to do the same. So… Maybe?

It’ll be specific to the app you’re using. Tags aren’t natively supported by Lemmy, so they’re just something that the app makers add in. Sort of like RES on Reddit.

Yeah, they were exposed so quickly that the only explanation is that it was done on purpose. Russia literally had access less than 15 minutes after the accounts were created. That’s not enough time for a brute force attack, unless the password was literally “password”. And even then, Russia would need to know the usernames in order to begin the brute force attack.

Something something “the best time to plant a tree…” Yeah, it was needed then, but it’s needed now too.

Exactly. It feels performative, because they didn’t take it far enough. Cyberpunk 2077 handled it very well, where you can separately choose whether or not your character has breasts, which genitalia they have, voice type, pronouns, etc… Since every single individual part is independently editable, there’s very little room for misgendering.

Yeah, I love my catch-all email domain. If I start getting spam addressed to “Target@{my domain}” then I know Target sold my data; I can burn the account by auto-spamming everything addressed to it, and move on.

Yeah, this can be an unpopular opinion on Lemmy, because there’s a giant Linux circlejerk. But the unfortunate reality is that changing to Linux does have some major stumbling blocks. The “switching is so easy, just do it” crowd totally glosses over it, but that’s kind of rhetoric doesn’t help long term adoption. Because if some new user has only heard “switching is so easy” and immediately runs into issues, they’ll be more likely to go “well if it’s super easy and I can’t figure it out, I guess it’s just not for me” and abandon things.

There’s also a very vocal (and toxic) part of the Linux community that basically just screams “RTFM” at every newbie question. New users shouldn’t be expected to dig into a 350 page technical document just to learn the basics of their new OS.

I installed a bidet like two weeks before that entire shortage started. I have never felt more smug about a decision.

Yup. Your new best friends are rice, beans, white sugar, molasses, (did you know that brown sugar is just white sugar plus molasses?), salt, all purpose flour, oatmeal, and lentils. Bought in bulk. And use your local ethnic markets for spices and bouillons; They’re often 3-5 times cheaper than your local grocery store.

You can just buy one or two things per paycheck, if you can’t afford all of them at the same time. Or hell, get some friends together and split a bulk bag. I have a 10 pound bucket of rice (split from a larger 25 pound bag) that I have been working on for literal months. A 20 pound bag of rice can keep you full for so fucking long, as long as you store it properly.

Then you just add extra things when you can. Maybe you have potatoes, an onion, a clove of garlic, and some pork this week. So you make a loaded baked potato soup. Also, learn to dress up instant ramen. A scoop out of a giant bag of diced frozen veggies will do a lot. If you can afford it, add a soft boiled egg too.

“Nobody has time for flour, cuz you need to wait for it to rise!” Use baking powder recipes, or flatbreads instead. Learn to make biscuits and scones, if you want to bake. Tortillas are stupid easy to make; They’re literally just flour and water, pressed flat (fucking use an empty wine or beer bottle if you don’t have a rolling pin) and cooked on a flat hot surface like a skillet. I could literally fit the entire tortilla cooking process, from raw flour to finished tortillas, into an uncut 5 minute TikTok tutorial if I wanted to. Congrats, now you have tortillas for 2¢ each, instead of a 10 pack for $5. And they’ll fucking taste better than the store-bought ones, because they’re fresh and hot.

“I don’t have a rice cooker so I can’t make rice!” Do you think people have been using electric rice cookers for thousands of years? My brother in Christ, people have been cooking rice using the “just put a fucking vessel over fire” method for over nine millennia now. Will you likely fuck it up the first time, and accidentally make porridge? Yeah. But that’s a learning opportunity, and you only spent like 5¢ making that mistake because the rice is so fucking cheap.

“I can’t afford fancy cookware!” Go hit your local thrift store. I guarantee they have an entire shelf full of cast iron cookware and baking sheets for like $1 each, that you’ll be able to hand down to your grandchildren.

It’s easy to say stuff like this, but the harsh reality is that disability (especially if it’s sudden disability later in life) is a massive stressor for everyone involved. Suddenly going blind is an instant and massive lifestyle change for everyone surrounding the victim.

There’s also all of the co-morbid stuff that follows a sudden disability. Depression, anxiety, resentment, PTSD, etc all have the capacity to drastically change a person’s attitude and outlook on life.

I seriously doubt the breakup was instant. My bet is that it was a slow wedge that got driven between them, as the husband also had to adjust to the new limited lifestyle and began to resent her disability for it. Plus with the associated depression and trauma that inherently follows situations like this, the relationship 100% has the potential to be slowly strangled.

Source: Am married to someone who was left disabled by a sudden disease. We’re still married, but that’s largely because we were both willing to do a lot of therapy and work to remain together. And I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss my social life before my partner’s disability.