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  • Who is an actor you can't stand, but everyone likes?

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  • I agree about Palestine, where there was a huge, disheartening cry from America in October - December 2023, when the general attitude was that this was all a terrorist attack, and not the beginning of a genocide. I am definitely wary of celebrities who made pro Israel statements then, but I feel many felt expected to, or were just grossly misinformed.

    He does sort of just suck though. I feel the internet's perception of his soured so fast in the 2020s, from beloved to loathed, and all he did was keep doing what he always does, just with a tiny amount more selling out, which was enough to snowball the hate.

  • Who is an actor you can't stand, but everyone likes?

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  • The internet made him his darling and then turned on him pretty quickly, a similar thing to what most female stars face, such as Jennifer Lawrence hugely had to deal with in the 2010s. Not that I'm fond of the guy, but this his internet attitude stinks and I think has coloured his image since. However:

    He's had a really strange rise to fame. He was in Parks and Rec as the lovable goofball type, then the US army literally put him in Zero Dark Thirty (a film with unbelievable rewriting and military control) to be a recruiting tool, "Even Andy from Parks and Rec can Kill Bin Laden." Even though he was put on the map by nationalist military propaganda, I don't blame him for that.

    He also attends a church (Zoe Church) which was modelled of an openly homophobic church (Hillsong), and founded by a former pastor of the homophobic church, although this church specifically has no open statement on LGBTQ+ people. This church and it's pastor are absolutely suspiciously absent on this stance, to the point many assume it's homophobic and transphobic but in LA and not wanting the backlash, particularly as the pastor has funded a Christian film, The heart of Man, that has an openly homophobic messages.

    There was also a controversy with his wife and ex-wife that I think was more of a fuck up than anything else. He parted with his first wife who he'd been with since before his fame, not long after she had a baby that was born premature. He then married again and announced his gratitude for a healthy child. Obviously people didn't like this, but I don't think he meant it how it comes across. People also feel he showed disloyalty to his first wife in leaving her once famous, but even if fame did change him, that's still a forgivable reason for parting ways with someone.

    Although I don't avoid movies with Pratt, I feel he wants to be funny like Robin Williams, and a hero like Harrison Ford, without the charm or wit to come close to either. What we're left with is a bland, typecast actor who feels he'd abandon any tolerance and compassion in his image if it stopped being in vogue, but maybe we just want to see him fall from grace.

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  • I feel that's old enough not to be in the Tom Cruise produced issue area. In the 2000s, he was in War of the worlds, Collateral, The Last Samurai and even showed he still had range in Magnolia, Vanilla Sky and even Tropic Thunder. It wasn't quite the same as the 90s where he was cast in a huge range of great roles, and it definitely became less common over the 00s.

    I'd say from 2010 onwards, he's stared in 0 films that don't feel warped to be an advert for his specific style of masculinity. Even if one was good, Edge of Tomorrow, it's still a Tom Cruise movie.

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • It's going to suck. There's no getting away from the fact it's going to suck. You are going to have a lot of pain ahead, and so is he. You're going to see people who know you both, and need to choose between which of you they're seeing, you'll drift away from some people who he was closer to, and he'll drift away from people you were closer to. Eventually you'll date someone else and he will too. You'll have photos, trinkets and many other things that are bound to him as memories. You likely will never get closure, and just have to let the pain fade.

    When I reflect on memories, I often feel that the good ones change how they feel to think about after six weeks; they start to feel that they happened to someone else, a very long time ago. Maybe this is how memories feel when they change from short term to long term, I have no idea. The bad memories take longer, it's different for each one. You are in mourning, in a manner of speaking, and that's okay to acknowledge. Give yourself a time to mourn, to leave those items up that make you think of him. Get rid of the photos now, put the digital ones in a folder to be forgotten, change your lock screen, if it's him, to something you love, a friend, pet, parent etc. Let yourself otherwise have a mourning period and let yourself feel the emotions. Set a date, perhaps a month from today, or a month from the breakup. On this day, clear away those little trinkets you bought together. If they're valuable or you'll miss them for another reason, don't bin them. Don't go overboard, just because that dress was his favourite, or he bought your favourite book or whatever doesn't make it his, it's yours. But some things will only bring pain to dwell on.

    A poet, Richard Silken once said "Someone has to leave first. This is a very old story. There is no other version of this story." You are going through something that is nearly a universal pain that every adult faces. Mourning, without closure, about someone who is still out there, who you may see at parties, in the street or with your shared friends. This is a pain we all have experienced, that colours so much of our happy memories with pain and despair. There are people I wish I could hold when they cry who I'll never speak to again, and there's people I wish could hold me who I'll never see too. They may hate me more than the last time I saw them or have forgiven me and wish things went differently, but they definitely have not forgotten me, as I haven't them.

    These memories need to fade into that back part of your mind, and that takes time, and every memory that reignites that pain, perhaps the better word is trauma, will delay it. But eventually those memories together will feel like they're not wrapped in the same emotion, but the memory of emotion. Until that point comes, it's okay to let the feelings in, to mourn.

    I hope you read every comment, even the worse ones about finding someone else quickly, to rebound. That is a tool to move these memories into a more distant part of your mind faster, but you won't get to process them. You may never get closure but you'll get even less if you don't let the emotions in. Turn to positive distractions, do exciting things, do things with friends and family. Reach out to those friends you've seen less because you made so much time for him, they will be happy to have you back. Don't mask the pain with drugs, weed or alcohol; nothing good comes of that. I had to avoid drinking when I had similar experiences. Seek process therapy, it's not always too cheap, but this is a terrible pain that deserves professional check in, being young doesn't make it easier, and most of us can empathize with the pain, and know not much is worse. Let yourself spiral today, this week, this month, but don't make decisions that close you off from the world. Don't stop seeing friends and family, do more activities, take up a hobby like the gym that you didn't find time for when your hobby was time with him. Make your guiding light who you want to be next month, next year. You don't have to be them now.

    In a few months, this pain will be sadness, and nothing more. Let it in now but prepare for that day. Forgive yourself, you're going to be okay.

  • What episode/season/movie do you consider as the ending in an otherwise long running franchise, and Why?

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  • In my own opinion, it's Disney good.

    Early Simpsons was slightly edgy, not in a shock factor way, but in a way where it could explore mature themes without any tonal whiplash, while still being entertaining for kids and adults.

    As Fox deteriorated, so did the Simpsons, presumably from bad producing and low funding. Pretty much as soon as the Disney acquisition happened, quality began to climb again, and people have been saying it's good for a few years.

    But I can't shake the feeling that the real feeling isn't that it's good, just that it isn't bad anymore. It's as inoffensive and bland as many Disney IPs, but doesn't carry the true badness of Fox. I don't trust that Disney is able to give it the ingredients for it to be great again.

  • 7 for me

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  • Weirdly I'm always unfairly judgemental when I see someone in very I door wear in public. Unless it's somewhere lawless like an airport, pajamas or super comfort sports wear in public always irks me. But on the other hand, it literally makes more sense to be as comfortable as possible and for some pointless reason, I feel very beholden to the fashion standards that make it feel weird.

  • Bad film with amazing premise and mediocre execution that you can't stop thinking about?

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  • Oops, you're right. It is copying something of its time because it's all my dad would tell me when watching it growing up, but I can't remember which film.

  • Bad film with amazing premise and mediocre execution that you can't stop thinking about?

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  • In time is absolutely an idea that I wish would get revisited for a TV show.

    When I was a kid, for some reason, I loved the original West World movie, which is about 20% high concept and 80% "how do we copy terminator when all we have are a bunch of random Wild West, medieval and classical back lots?"

    Obviously a few years ago HBO picked it up for a show, and that first season explores some of the richest philosophy I've seen on TV, in the way only Sci-Fi can; by building characters and technology directly around their philosophical takes and stress testing them. Also simultaneously it created an incredibly compelling story and characters. All of this stemmed from the idea "what if there was a wild west theme park manned by perfectly realistic animatronics?"

    In Time may not have the cult classic reputation of the first Westworld but it's got appeal and charm, while being basically only interesting in it's high concept, and therefore perfect to pull apart and explore an HBO style branching plot. I bet you could get Justin Timberlake to appear in it again too, for added audience appeal. A show like this can also explore multiple characters in different classes, and those who interact with both. It's just wasn't that suited to a movie.

  • Bad film with amazing premise and mediocre execution that you can't stop thinking about?

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  • Just to ask, nobody understood the full picture of what they were making? Or was there someone who created the concept but intentional obfuscated it from everyone else via bureaucracy?

  • Cloudflare CEO warns AI and zero-click internet are killing the web's business model

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  • Also worth addressing that people are using large language models exactly because the ad driven web was enshitified enough that people clambered for this new option.

    There will be at least one LLM that's good for web searching and doesn't give in to advertising, and in the meantime, we'll just need to keep jumping ship whenever one becomes awful, as we did with the old web.

  • Cloudflare CEO warns AI and zero-click internet are killing the web's business model

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  • I have a surprisingly forgiving opinion on AI. There are many cases that I think it's purpose is stupid or defeats the point but it has the potential to cause such a large break to employability and capitalism in general that it has it's upsides.

    People are right to take issue with the fact that it is causing people to lose their jobs or be unemployable by no fault of their own, but underlying that issue is the fact that society shouldn't function on the employment being necessary (which I am aware is an opinion).

    Even in its absurd energy and water usage, this is largely an issue with how we currently get our energy and water. Having our technocrats suddenly more invested in new and better forms of energy, even just for powering AI has the potential to be a path to better clean energy options.

    AI is fundamentally a neutral tool, but as much as it may be sued for evil, it may accelerate flawed economic and environmental systems to a breaking point where a redesign of those structures will be required, which could be the greatest opportunity to implement better structures that we've had since the industrial revolution.

  • Anyone else hating Shorts (the videos, not the pants or financial instruments)?

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  • Tragically when I first switched to Lemmy, my friends convinced me to get Instagram to stay in better contact with them.

    The difference in how much I engage with Instagram reels Vs YouTube shorts is huge. YouTube shorts suck and I get cripplingly bored or annoyed with them after 2 minutes, where as Instagram reels suck and I lose multiple hours to that fucking app. Fortunately I run a version of the app without ads etc so I'm only rotting myself and not contributing as directly to the end times.

    I never tried tiktok and I'm too low willpower to stop using Instagram until they make it too shit to put the effort in, but I do feel that YouTube shorts sre the worst interation of this shitty format.

  • It was actually more efficient than EB (Against a group of 50 CR1/4 peons)

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  • Green flame blade is a great horde killing spell while still feeling cool. IMO everyone picks booming blade because it's more useful against single targets, which is more fun against a larger range of enemies, from bosses to your equals, plus thunder is rarely resisted compared to fire.

    Some people implement minion rules where overflowing damage from killing a weak enemy flows on to the adjacent enemy, which of course is simplified and incorporated into green flame blade. One of the hardest things to capture in the standard D&D rules is that in fantasy, the warrior (Aragorn, Holga, Achilles) typically cuts down hundreds of mooks while the mage battles the giant powerful monster who cannot be defeated by a sword (Gandalf Vs Balrog). In D&D, either it's totally inversed or the mage is better at both, largely because spells like fireball suit both situations better.

    Green flame blade is a very easy option to balance this scale, albeit via magic.

  • Today: many Protests in Europe. Serbia, Hungary, Romania & Italy.

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  • The main thing I've heard online is that it's a pro-europe movement, particularly in support or rearming the EU, particularly in response to current US actions.

    I was speaking to an Italian guy at the pub on the weekend and he said that's totally wrong and it's just protesting general government corruption. I don't know if he's more credible than the internet, being Italian is a big plus but being a man at the pub means it's likely wrong. Maybe there are protests for both.

  • No one asked for this: Google is testing round keys in Gboard

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  • One thing I did notice a while back, was seeing the 2022ish interface for YouTube and Google search and feeling how dated it was, still absolutely usable mind you, just clearly with a design ethos from an older era.

    Most the time, I feel that changes Google make are absolutely arbitrary, rounding a button and then squaring it again, but I need to give them credit that there is something more, something about staying at the forefront of GUIs. It's still all bullshit of course, the old one looks older but is identically useful.

  • As warming climate hammers coffee crops, this rare bean may someday be your brew

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  • A few years ago in my home town (UK), some people were arrested for making cocaine in their bathroom, by recreating the climate of south America in their bathroom.

    It would be wildly impractical and very silly, but also a great experiment, to set up a coffee plant in your home, simulating the humidity, temperature, light and air pressure of high-altitude rainforests, just to have your own sustainable coffee.

    If locally sourced and sustainable are your goal, there are some amazing mushroom coffee alternatives that do taste like coffee, one of my local coffee shops offers it. But I also understand the tempting voice in our heads that makes us want to do it the hard way, and get the correct product from a 100% self sustained route.

  • The question no one dares ask: what if Britain has to defend itself from the US? | George Monbiot

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  • This is what the US have encouraged Taiwan to do. Taiwan wanted to purchase a few incredibly expensive fighters and ship from the USA, but basically all war simulations just had China target these and secure a fast win. The USA instead encourage Taiwan to take the "porcupine" technique, spreading many small weapons, particularly handheld anti-aircraft type weaponry across the country. The plan is to make invasion too inconvenient. The flip side is that without a reliable way to show a display of strength, anywhere the larger aggressor does pick on (USA to UK China to Taiwan) can focus on one part of the country and reliably cause massive damage there.

  • The question no one dares ask: what if Britain has to defend itself from the US? | George Monbiot

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  • The chances of a future where the UK and USA go to war where those military bases aren't long since gone is nearly impossible.

  • US news channel fires presenter after she calls Musk a Nazi

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