Fix your sleep habits, and start exercising regularly is the short story. That helps immensely.
The big issue is that it's more of a mental game at first, before you develop the habits otherwise. Try to be self compassionate and face your frustrations instead of ignoring them. Focus on saving your mental energy for productive things and not unhealthy mental behaviors like ruminating and self criticism. Compartmentalize and have some goals. This all requires time and mental energy though, so I guess that's the true step zero - find some time when you have the energy and make a plan.
Self hatred is easier than self compassion. It's easier to give up on yourself than to try. There's nothing so wrong with you that you cannot practice self compassion, and there is no reason not to. Try this. We care about you and we know that you are worthy of love
I saw yesterday that they are still updating gmod. Incredible. I last played it in 2012 after a nice long run of dark RP and other fun game modes. How are people still playing it though?
digging trenches is hard fucking work, and I bet it's hot out where you are too. Nothing fun at all about plumbing in my experience, until you're finished of course.
A few of my friends are doing pretty well as drain techs for plumbing companies. No formal training required (probably a high school diploma or equivalent), it can help you become a plumber if you're into that. It's hard work, can be pretty gross, but you make commission on jobs and there is some downtime during the day in between jobs. This is in Burgerland though, not sure about other places.
Will do. It's cool to hear there is someone else here who does BJJ. The idea that someday I could be talented enough to just dump everything I know on some unsuspecting (but deserving!) white belt is another reason the sport is so interesting to me. The skill ceiling is really high. Thanks for chatting
For me, I did karate until I was 14 or so, and I was always interested in BJJ but never pulled the trigger for the sake of time/$$$. Now I have more time and money and my coworker said he started with his kids and they really love it, and all of a sudden I'm deciding to walk in and try it. Being able to handle myself in some kind of altercation is interesting to me, plus having some reason to continue keeping up my strength training and cardio is nice as I get a little bit older.
I have never been twistered, but I did get put into a mounted triangle by a no gi guy at the last open mat, which felt quite crazy lol. I mainly do gi but that's mostly just what I've started with. The fundamentals classes are gi only at my gym. There seem to be WAY more no gi people, though (it's an MMA gym as well).
I remember the first time I had a proper mount put on me. The panic was intense lol. Now, it's just another Thursday. That's the power of jits
That's sick! I have been doing it for about 3 months. It's hard to put it in exact terms, but it feels somewhere between horsing around with my friends as an 8 year old and being able to develop a fulfilling skill. I've been out sick recently but before that we were practicing the arm bar from mount and variations on that topic. My gym does a lot of positional sparring and depending on the class we tend to end with some full rolls.
I don't think dealing with chuddy people is an issue for me, I am a white cis het man. This sport does have a habit of attracting cops and other men who are into violence though, but if you have good instructors you can count on them to keep things respectful, and disrespectful people do tend to be filtered out. That said, I'm not sure how I would fare if I was trans, queer etc. I'm sure each gym has a different culture - I've only ever trained at one.
Real talk I started doing BJJ a few months ago. IMO all able people should give it a shot. With even a little training in grappling you can control someone the same size as you in an altercation. It's also really fun. It does attract chuds though. YMMV
This was from yesterday btw. Today is the 10th