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HexaSnoot [none/use name]

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  • How did you make sure it didn't go in either lung, and successfully went straight into the stomach?

    How does a baby feed while sleeping? I didn't know they do that. Why do you disagree with doing that when they're younger? Is it because there's less bonding when they eat by themselves?

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  • When you put it that way, soy sounds like the safest first bet.

    I love that you've done this for multiple babies. That's so incredibly kind of you.

    Sometimes youd need to throw an NG in and gavage the rest of the feed in. Some parents were so exhausted theyd try "dream feeding" (do not recommend) where they leave the bottle next to baby...

    What's "NG" and "dream feeding"?___

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  • As someone with a vagina my whole life, you do not want pain from a penis that's too long or thick. It's best to be too loose and not be felt by the penis haver, than too tight and in pain. And it's better to never have your bf to reach the end of the tunnel, than to have the end of it painfully hit a bunch.

    Don't choose to be what's fetishized by many penis havers to be "too tight" or "too shallow." Their ego will never be worth sacrificing your comfort. If it's penetrative sex, don't choose just based on your current bf. Choose based on what's comfortable for you, hopefully no matter who you sleep with. Especially if there's possibility of injury at stake post-healing. (Only said that just in case. Idk if there's a possibility of injury post-healing. Does anyone know about that part?)

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  • Was vegan baby formula their fave? I didn't expect babies to enjoy vegan formula. This is an exciting turn in baby food.

    I don't want to be doubtful about nutritional value, but was it sufficient nourishment for them when you used it by itself? I guess if things are missing from vegan sources, factories could artificially add certain vitamins, minerals, hormones, plus whatever else they need.

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  • She also thinks hrt can cause your body to stop producing any hormones. Very hard time with her tbh.

    Is this at all true? I heard the body returns to it's original state if you stop HRT.

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  • When the person I accidentally deadnamed freshly started transitioning to she/her, people in my circle would say in stories "when *new name was a still a guy, he..." and it was all so new to me. I didn't know what to say.

    One day I decided, she was probably always a she, even if she didn't know it. And I started saying that when people told me old stories about her.

    I still haven't asked her if that's true. Does it matter that I ask? Did I make the right decision on how to get people to stop saying "he/him" in reference to her before her transition?

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  • Are they doing it without correcting themselves?

    One time I accidentally dead named someone. It was the first person in a social circle of mine to be newly and openly trans. I was quiet for a few minutes, and then asked them if they prefer me to correct my mistake immediately or just be quiet and pretend the awkward moment didn't happen. They said always do the first, the second is worse.

    Maybe your cis ally needs to hear this? If they're really trying to be an ally, I mean.

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  • This anti-mixed shit is so weird and new to me. It doesn't make sense and it makes me sad and a little mad. Doesn't it sound somewhat like a race-based conspiracy theory? Because whether we like it or not, the one-drop rule tells a revisioned story of black history. You can't define all of blackness without adding in mixed black people. Only validating the most "pure" insert race is not at all a 1-to-1 with white supremacy, but it is claiming only "purely" black people are supposedly supremely black enough to receive validation that they're black. It's "disowning the unpures" like white people have done, and I do not get why anyone believes this rule.

    Am I understanding the one-drop rule correctly? Am I too far out on a limb here?

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  • It's so beautiful! When it comes to a genderfluid person with XY chromosomes, I'm very inspired by Sam Smith dressing up in flashy gowns. At times I want to be both, a stereotypically masc person that looks like I have XY chromosomes, and a flashy glamorous one too. I cannot afford many aspects of their glamour, but I definitely desire it.

    I worry someone's gonna use me enjoying masc expression as an excuse to gatekeep feminity from me all over again. "I guess you'll wear ONLY boys clothing, see we were right to not treat you like a real girl." The messaging I got a lot in childhood from my household was "No, youre JUST a boy because you're not a real girl." I had to fight so hard for my fem expression as a way to fight to state that I'm a real human and therefore have all the right to dress and express that I'm a girl. Masculinity was used to dehumanize me before, so I'm trying to form a new relationship with masculinity in a way that's fully under my autonomy. It's scary to choose masculinity almost everyday. I've only walked out the house in masc attire a few times.

    Thankfully I moved out a while back. I have to learn that, nowadays, no one in my current household gatekeeps me from my masc or fem expression now, and they highly encourage my masc expression. Home is safe. Outside, idk.

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  • I've had lots of gender repression, both feminine and masculine. I'm realizing I should no longer hold onto my feminity for dear life when I feel more like a guy in the moment. I worry if I get masculine I'll be "on the outside" of feminity again. I don't want to lose either being masc or fem.

    If you have a video essay, explanation, or something else on my observations on the way my panic manifests, please drop a link or comment.

    I think when I'm reminded of my own gender bending and my fear of being hurt for it, I panic. Context: I'm genderfluid and have XX chromosomes. I repress my manly side a lot because I was not allowed to be a girl and was starved of expressing my girly side. Now I realize I'd been starved of autonomy over my manly expression too.

    There are times I see very fem men and fem genderfluid people with XY chromosomes, and I think "Beautiful, but oh shit, what if some downpuncher hurts them just for wearing that?"

    For some reason I don't panic this way so much about masc women and masc genderfluid people with XX chromosomes.

    I'm not sure why I panic this way. I think women being masculine is more accepted with the normalization of "tomboys," while femininity in men is downpunched on by insecure repressed men.

    For some reason I dont picture quite as much danger for trans people that stay all the way inside a completely fem box or completely masc box. I feel like they can blend in more to social norms. Maybe because I don't feel it's as gender-bending.

    I often think since I have XX chromosomes, I should feel less relatability with men who are fem. But lately I've been wondering if I'm always both a man and a woman at pretty much all times. And maybe I'm scared to be as visibly masculine as a manly man because it would make it more dangerous to be fem at the same time. It's scary to take steps to style myself masculinely. It's like being on the jumping board at a pool, and I will consider jumping or fantasize about doing it, but I'll rarely ever jump. I worry being manly will be losing my feminine expression all over again. I worry how far I can take looking masculine and if I'll end up hurt by a transphobe at some point. In the face of transphobia, would my feminity become out of the question if I figure out how to look like the manliness man? I just want to go full-man in womanly dress or full-woman in manly dress, and be embraced and never hurt for both.

  • Idk much about India being colonialized. What made India go from that to being one of the major hotspots in the world for spiritual tourism today? It's an impressive feat.

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  • Idk much about India being colonialized. What made India go from that to being one of the major hotspots in the world for spiritual tourism today? It's an impressive feat.

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  • Did they check in on you too much? Seems like they would've gotten covid forever until you chose to stay forever on your own.

    Too bad there's no portugese people left there

    That's sad to hear. Did the Portuguese people mostly get driven out? I tried looking up if they're still there, and the internet says they are.

  • Idk much about India being colonialized. What made India go from that to being one of the major hotspots in the world for spiritual tourism today? It's an impressive feat.

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  • The "work through your issue" part seems creepy to me because why aren't they being direct and ending that phrase with "sex/sexually"? If they really were experts wouldn't they make sure communication is direct to help ensure only fully consensual things happen?

    What creeps you out about them saying "work through your issue"?

  • Did anyone else here get a lot of ire as a kid for refusing to go along with mean-spirited jokes/pranks?

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  • I was shy and passive for a lot of my childhood. Kids who would confidently promote kindness were the ones who showed me another way of living. You did the kids around you the favor by being a good example of refusing to do that.

  • Idk much about India being colonialized. What made India go from that to being one of the major hotspots in the world for spiritual tourism today? It's an impressive feat.

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  • I'll keep in mind that "Stay as much as you want" could be a cult thing.

    Religious messaging saying that that's a follower's job is a total breach of individual autonomy. That's just pimping using fake religious rules.

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  • Ram Dass sounds like an okay guy.

    About the other actual cult you're mentioning: The part that bugs me is "the angel of loves" part. They're just people, and to me it's weird to regard people as angels on any official level, especially in a structure. This sounds like the fetishizing of sex workers that may be brainwashed into being there.

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  • Being black in America is a special case in that if you're completely white passing and have no contact with culture of your own race(es) you're still entitled to reconnect and bathe in your race's culture(s). I argue that one drop of blackness means you're intertwined by blood with American black history. Generational trauma changes you on a genetic and behavioral level, and there's no escaping the generational effects of what your ancestors did to survive. Even when people are adopted, many of the marks of ancestral trauma are there. Ancestors being kidnapped and taken to another country, and being unallowed to practice their culture, means one drop in their descendants is enough to seek out roots and immerse yourself in culture you didn't grow up with. This is very disappointing to hear that some black people are disowning their own and not acknowledging these things.

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  • Was Ram Dass a cult leader or not? My online searches are not clear.

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  • How do you deal with people of your own race calling you a "fake *insert your race?" I got called it and it was very hurtful and alienating. I wanted to know more about holidays I already celebrated, and about other holidays I might not already know of and wanted to start celebrating. It made me feel shame even though having been taught a shallower version of cultural heritage is not a thing to be ashamed about.

    Once someone corrected a person calling me a fake *insert my race, and said "No, not fake. American-born *insert my race."