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Indeed, the behaviour does need to be examined. You are actively confusing that examination if you are inaccurate when calling out the behaviour (again, with no intention of defending the situation in the OP, purely disagreeing with your "I dont care about being accurate when calling people out" statements)

It's not about making a value judgement on a person, its about calling out a specific behaviour. As a thought experiment, would you have engaged with me if I came at you like "you're an idiot" (making a value judgement on you as a person) rather than specifically addressing the behaviour you exhibited that I disagree with?

To be clear, I have no negative opinions of you and I absolutely do not think you're an idiot. That was posed purely as a hypothetical to illustrate the difference in communication effectiveness between making a value judgement about a person and addressing a specific behaviour.

Yes, it would. It's also not related to the comment I replied to, in which you stated that you dont care about being accurate when calling somebody out. My point is that you should care about accuracy when youre calling out bad behaviour, I'm not trying to defend Mr "actually it would be spontaneous" from the image

You kinda should. The entire value of shaming people is to show a person that somebody else or a group of somebody elses do not approve of their behaviour. If you dont care about being accurate in calling out antisocial behaviour, how do you think the person expressing said antisocial behaviour will understand that interaction? Do you think they'll be able to understand what they did wrong? Obviously thats not always relevant, some people just want to mudwrestle and they'll never hear you no matter what you say. It's worth it to be accurate in case they are the type of person who might remotely consider your words though

What would you consider a traditional male space?

Huh, I had not considered that. This is by no means an exhaustive list, but pulling from my experience I'd list places like comic book shops or sports teams or garages/autohobby shops. I guess like, not places that specifically exclude women, but places where its more common to see groups of men than it is to see groups of mixed gender or groups of women.

In my experience, guys just see me as some gay femboy instead of a trans man

Wild. Do people like, openly treat you like that and acknowledge it, or is it more subtle than that?

Once again, I have to ask you to forgive my ignorance. Are "being a femboy" and "being a trans man" mutually exclusive? Like, is it dysphoric when people view you as a femboy, or does it bother you more generally because its a pervasive stereotype being applied to you?

Some dogs are just like that. My last dog was a lab who would eat himself to the point of exploding if he could, and I had to very carefully monitor his food intake. My current dog is a supermutt who looks kinda like a blackmouth cur, and she also perfectly regulates her own weight. She even leaves her meals alone if she feels like I've been too generous with treats/she's been too successful in begging for my food that day

both sides of the original meme are wrong, cmv

Yeah, I was a defense contractor. I grew up periodically wondering if this was finally the deployment my dad wouldn't come home from, and getting the chance to work in radar jamming to keep american aviators alive felt like a dream come true at first.

I am afraid to try to change the world again. I already know that I have the capability to change things in the world, I spent plenty of time doing it. I also know that I developed my values and morality while being raised as a white supremacist, and that I am gullible enough to be misled into doing evil. I dont remotely trust my own judgement on what would make the world a better place, and I trust anybody telling me what I should do even less. I've already had to see and smell the consequences of trusting other people who justify violence to me.

Appreciate it, but I stopped looking a long time ago. I was raised in a military family to be an attack dog for fascists, and i realized that everybody i ever looked up to or trusted would rather support fascism than accept even a mote of discomfort in their personal lives. I dont trust another soul in the world and honestly im not sure i have the capacity to; ive only ever experienced cynical monsters of human beings vying for dominance, and I got extremely good at that game. If there even is anything worth living for in this faustian existence, the weight of my sins is such that I don't deserve to experience it

A weird combination of electric, radar, computer, and hardware test. I used to do technique development and operational testing for radar jamming equipment on a strategic bomber for the airforce. I tried going back to school for a bit, but I learned that academia is run by pathetic cowards who can and will build weapons for fascists in exchange for funding. I came to the conclusion that the only thing I was changing was how likely I was to have to see the piles of corpses I was helping create. Now im just not looking anymore. I still get a daily deluge of emails from war profiteers looking for somebody willing to be a principal engineer in shithole towns like Huntsville or Abilene

That's where I'm at. I graduated college at 22, got an engineering job right out of college that put me in the top 0.5% of income earners for my age, then did that for 5 years. At no point was I even close to being able to afford a down-payment on even a shitty condo where I lived. Now im unemployed, smoke weed all day, and im basically waiting to either participate in a revolution or run out of money and die. I am strictly unwilling to participate in capitalism anymore, I've got enough blood on my hands for a lifetime and nothing to show for it other than than the experience needed to realize how much of what I grew up believing was nothing more than cynical propaganda.

I love it. It gives me a chance to tell some of the deep and storied history of Anonymous Proxy

If this thing is emitting light that appears blue to you, you're about to have a monumentally bad time

This is certainly possible. I've never seen any kind of medical professional about this issue, I just started getting really sick all the time and experimented with my diet until I singled out dairy as the thing that was making me sick. At this point I've got it well enough under control and I've changed my eating habits to the point that I dont think anything would change for me if I learned I had an allergy as opposed to an intolerance

Thanks :) food blogging would be a pretty wild jump for me career wise, but I have no idea what the future holds and I am at somewhat of a crossroads in my life right now. If I ever did start a food blog though, I'd definitely model it after this dude https://www.seriouseats.com/j-kenji-lopez-alt-5118720 He is guilty of the "3 pages of text before the recipe starts" you find across food blogs, but his preamble is usually a mixture of food science and experiments/variations he tried while making the recipe.

As far as fried rice goes, here are the things I wish somebody had told me when I first started making it.

Rice selection makes a big difference. If you dont know where to start, I'd suggest going with jasmine rice. Also, in case you are like me and grew up with minute rice, you have to wash most kinds of rice before cooking it.
Start with day old rice from the fridge. If you dont have day old rice, make a fresh batch, spread it out on a baking sheet, and set it in the freezer uncovered for 30 minutes. Your rice needs to be cooked normally before you can fry it, but the drier it is before you start frying the better it will turn out
Dry toast your rice over high heat. This is the hardest part to get right, it takes a fair amount of technique and practice. The goal is to get it lightly browned and fragrant (rice gets a delicious nutty aroma when toasted). Ideally you want a wok and some kind of fuel burner to get it really hot, but I have a cast iron skillet and a stove top so that's the method ill describe. Preheat the skillet so that its nice and hot before the rice ever touches it. I use medium-high heat (6 out of 10 on my range), but I also preheat my cast iron in the oven so im likely working with a bit more heat than you'd expect from 6 on a range. Once your skillet is hot, spread the rice in the dry skillet in an even layer. From here its tough because the rice needs pan contact to toast but you can't let it burn. In practice that looks like spreading out the rice, leaving it alone for 45-90s, then stirring it all up and letting it sit for another 45-90s. Keep repeating that cycle until its lightly browned and smells delicious. The cooking also speeds up over time, so the first cycle you can leave it closer to 90s but by the end even 45s might be too long to let it go before stirring. This is the hardest, but also the most important part; dont get discouraged if you dont get it right the first few times. I think I was 40 or 50 batches of fried rice in before I was completely happy with my rice toasting technique
This is actually all you need to know. Try your rice, maybe with a dash of salt or a splash of soy if you want. Once you've got the technique right, this fried rice base should taste good all by itself. From there, making any variety of fried rice is as simple as "make fried rice base, add in other stuff and stir fry for just long enough to heat everything through"

Hell yeah brother, im glad for you. I've yet to find a non-dairy cheese that I personally enjoy. The cashew nut based ones are the only ones that imitate cheese texture very well imo, but I strongly dislike the taste of cashew so those are a non-starter for me

I dont like the way hard cheeses melt as much. I love varieties like parm or asiago as an accent sprinkled over the main cheese, but imo nothing compares to a 4:1 mozz/gruyere mixture for pizza.

Sadly lactase doesnt seem to do anything for me. I've been lactose intolerant for a few years now and tried a lot of the things people do to mitigate it; ultimately the only thing that worked for me was significantly changing my diet. Silver lining, I make really good fried rice now

I still make them with the same recipe I perfected before I became lactose intolerant, haha. I tried replacing dairy or using lower lactose substitutes at first, but that ended up being more effort for a pizza that I personally didnt enjoy as much. Ultimately I'd rather significantly reduce my pizza intake than compromise on my ingredient preferences. I'd probably feel differently if I were actually allergic, but as is my only consequence is pain and I can handle that

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