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Azzu

@ Azzu @lemm.ee

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  • Makes me think the same. I personally believe that no, the concept in the sense that "anything can change and could theoretically happen" doesn't exist, but... I also believe it doesn't really matter either. If there is free will, then anything can happen, if there is no free will, then not anything can happen and it is determined, but since we currently can't predict the future and determine what's going to happen, both situations have the exact same outcomes.

    For me, most of these philosophical questions that are (currently) not definitively answerable I liked to ponder for a bit, but dismiss relatively quickly. I don't really care if there is a free will or not, if there is any meaning to anything or not, basically whatever. What I care about is the current situation as far as I can discern it, and my actions that I want to take in the current moment based on that. My biology determines that and I just let it happen.

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  • I've never said that anyone "should" have that much control. In fact I literally said almost no one can do it. The controversial thing is me even suggesting that it is possible.

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  • Yeah but you can not suffer and still act to get out of the situation is what I'm saying.

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  • See :D told ya it's unpopular. Yeah, it's "victim blaming" essentially. You might not believe me, but I have been a victim most of my life in many situations. I also have or have had mental disorders.

    In the end, you can only control yourself. And so while it is of course not my fault if I am being abused or whatever (it's the fault of the abuser) it is actually very much my fault if I don't find ways to remove myself from that situation. Of course, every situation is different. The difficulty of "fixing" it, and how to do it, massively differs. But in almost all situations, "suffering" only makes it less likely you'll get out of it. If you feel too bad, most people are more likely to feel powerless, to not think clearly, to be defeatist and so on.

    Life literally always has challenges, things that make you feel bad. No matter how good of a situation someone has, you'll always find people that are miserable in that situation. I'm saying you can actually be fine with your situation, whatever it is.

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  • I mean yeah, that's who I meant with "people"

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  • Obviously, yep. We are all victims of our circumstances and if you never get in contact with this concept or are not in a mental situation to want to believe it to be true, you're pretty much out of luck.

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  • If someone betrays you - you can either be upset at this, feel terrible for a long time

    Or you can be thankful for them showing their true colors, thankful for the opportunity to enhance your people-reading skills, i.e. learn how to prevent this better (or identify that it simply happens sometimes, even with good prevention skills), perform the correct consequences (i.e. cutting them out of your life, minimizing your dependence on them), and then move on with the new state of life.

    I'm not saying one won't feel bad at first - but there's no reason to continue with that past the initial automatic reaction, how fast you can "move on" depends on how good you are at this. After handling the situation properly, there's no reason to continue to feel bad, feeling bad about it is just a motivator to do something about it, if there's nothing to do anymore, there's no reason to feel bad anymore.

    You can extend the same line of thinking to literally anything - you get fired from your job, you go hungry, you suffer some debilitating injury/sickness, you get put in a concentration camp due to be executed ("Man's search for meaning" is an example of this).

    Which interpretation is this, and what is the other one?

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  • You can change your (psychological) reaction to everything. All psychological suffering is chosen by yourself and can be stopped if you choose not to suffer.

    Of course this is simple, not easy. Almost no one can do it.

    Most people I meet don't believe this and hate that I'm saying this.

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  • Good, more people should buy bicycles

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  • With all the interdependence we built up that's hard to remove and would take decades, it's kinda sensible to hope it can weather a few years of stupidity. It's not entirely unreasonable to hope that after people seeing the first shitshow, it wouldn't happen again.

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  • This is one of the funniest posts I've seen here so far. Thanks for that! I unfortunately don't otherwise have anything to add that hasn't already been said, just wanted you to know that I enjoyed it a lot :)

  • Thank you for supporting free content creation!

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  • I think I have not once understood a comic in here. But I like looking at the art, it's so nicely weird

  • Unternehmer in Politshows

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  • Jo Prozesse sollten immer optimiert werden, und werden sie ja auch schon. Zwar nicht super schnell, aber jo. Ich hab mit meiner Gemeinde vor 10 Jahren und jetzt zu tun gehabt, und heute sind se viel besser, effizienter unterwegs. Könnte man Bürokratieabbau nennen.

    Das Ding ist halt, dass all die scheiß Bürokratie die wir haben, irgendwann mal eingeführt wurde, weil's irgendein Problem gab, dass fair gelöst werden musste. Und mit bürokratischen Ansätzen; einheitlichen Formularen, unabhängigen Untersuchungen, wohldefinierten Prozessen etc etc etc; hat man halt Probleme (zumeist) fair gelöst. Wenn du generell, ohne genaue Analyse, Bürokratie abbaust, machste nix anderes, als diese alten Probleme wieder zuzulassen. Manchmal ist es logischerweise so, dass die alten Probleme nicht mehr existieren und durch irgendwas anderes gelöst werden, und dann kann man wirklich Bürokratie ohne Verlust abbauen. Aber das ist halt nicht das häufigste Ergebnis, am häufigsten ist, dass die Bürokratie Sinn macht.

  • I'm at the mercy of my own whims. How can I feel more in control of myself?

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  • For productivity, I'm just not productive. I don't care about productivity.

    For wasteful spending, I just don't have money to spend. I don't care about having money.

    Sorry if my solutions won't work for you.

  • If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your day or is your day over?

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  • If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your week or is your week over?

    If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your month or is your month over?

    If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your life or is your life over?

    I clean up and do whatever I still feel like. The arbitrary border of "day" means nothing to me, same as any other arbitrary border.

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  • Of course, you are theoretically completely right. But Greenland has absolutely 0 infrastructure, not even basics like roads between places, and almost no people, and Canada would resist so powerfully (they have nuclear weapons) that it's also completely unrealistic.

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  • But if you can analyze the content and reject the nonsense, then you didn't need it in the first place, because you already knew enough about the topic.

    And when you're using it for things you don't know enough about, that's where you can't tell the nonsense! You will say to yourself, because you noticed nonsense before, that "you can tell", but you won't actually be able to, because you're going from known-unknown into unknown-unknown territory. You won't even notice the nonsense because you don't know what nonsense could even be there.

    Large language models are just that, they generate some language without sense behind it, if you use it for anything at all that requires reasoning, then you're using it wrong.

    The literally only thing LLMs are good for is shit like "please reword this like that", "please write an ad text praising these and these features of a product", stuff that is about language and that's it.

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  • Doesn't the US have plenty of these materials, it's just too expensive to mine it because of environmental protection legislation, wages, energy costs, missing infrastructure for it and so on? This wouldn't change in Canada/Greenland.

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  • As long as it is clearly communicated by him what he's doing and why, any approach is fine really. So as long as he tells her his exact purpose of the break and what he needs to stop it, all good.

    If that is not done, and it's just a one-sided decision of his to stop talking, not even explaining anything, then it is very bad. It'd basically be like a parent punishing their child and not telling them what for, mentally very problematic. Of course it should be able to be implied by her in some way, but it's very easy to come to the wrong conclusions.

    Second question, you simply don't let them. You calmly keep repeating your question, pointing out their intentional ignoring, stating that you will only talk with them about anything else after this question is answered, until they either get so mad as to run away, or they respond to it. But you have to actually stay strong, and not allow them to do it. Depending on other things that need to be communicated, and how stubborn they are, that will hurt yourself as well as them since other important stuff for you might not get communicated. But that is something that needs to be tolerated, because breaking from the original intention is worse for the future, it shows that ignoring the question works, and they'll repeat it.

  • gross either way, but do friends actually talk like this or would this be from people who are dating or something?

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  • I mean, they already said they're being harassed.

    In general and another situation, I can fully see how someone might add someone to group chat in a way of "hey guys I found another one to add to our chat, their kink is to act all indignant about noticing us sexting, have fun".

    I already said my most likely scenario is one person playing two sides.