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When you were a kid, how clingy were you to your parents? As in: Cuddles? Sleep in the same room? | Is this clingyness normal?

Idk why but I was so clingy to my mom as a kid. Like I think I always had separation anxiety.

Like examples:

My mom would hold my hand when I'm outside. Sometimes I was the one initiating it.

If I'm like on a subway/bus and I was tired, I'd like to rest my head on my mom's lap and I'd kinda feel safe.

I remember when I'm supposed to go to sleep, sometimes, actually very frequently, I went to my parents room and sleep on their bed. (I shared a room with my older brother, I didn't like him)

Also, on public transit I feel very anxious if there is only like 2 empty seats and like they are far apart and especially if the seats are facing a direction when we can't both see each other. So my mom just stand next to me and I sat down. And like sometimes my mom would ask the person next to me to switch seats and like point to the empty seat somewhere else on the subway/bus.

And omg bathrooms are the worst part.

I was old enough so I felt like I can't go with my mom anymore as I had when I was like 6 or something. So I feel like I had to use the male bathroom as a cis-male. So like I finish using the bathroom, then I had to wait for my mom, and she sometimes takes like minutes, which felt like hours to me...

I sometimes worry if like she died or something. Or worse, she abandoned me. So I'd literally call her by her full name and only feel fine if I hear a response from her. (I wasn't supposed to use the full name, especially not in my culture)

Oh and this one is probably gonna confuse you.

So one night my mom got mad at me for some reason, so I cried in the livingroom and refused to sleep. Then I suddenly feel like there are ghosts around me and like... I usually don't feel like initiating conversation with parents after getting yelled at... but I felt scared and so I decided to just tell mom I was scared, even tho I felt the awkwardness of just feeling like I hated her a minute ago, but I felt like I had no choice but to seek comfort with mom because there are ghosts. (I don't believe in ghosts anymore, but I was a kid and I was scared of everything)

These are just a few examples I could think of on top of my head.

This level of clingyness lasted like... I think I remembered started being slowly less clingy after 12 years old.

I remember one of my aunts pointed it out when I was 8-12, she told my mother: "Wow, you son is so ¹"

¹[嗲 (Cantonese) (of a child, girl, woman, pet, etc.) to act coy, childish, or cute to someone who loves or dotes on them, in order to fulfil their wish or display their affection](I think that's supposed to mean like I act too cute/childish.)

Did anyone else like do that?

Am I weird for being clingy or is this normal?

Context: I'm a young adult now, I definitely don't do the clingyness thing anymore. But I still have the separation anxiety issue. Like heartbeat goes up if I had to live/sleep in a place away from home. (e.g. College Aparments)

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