The best one so far was sitting down with my spouse and making lists:
default grocery list
2nd list with low effort meal components in case we can’t manage to cook. (A few are kept in the house but this is more for one to pick up for the other in times if need).
priority chore list, including which ones we need both to keep an eye on because consequences of forgetting are too high, such as making sure credit cards are paid and the foundation drain system is checked.
This means if one of us just can’t the other has a list of things they can take over, they know what can be dropped so they don’t also get overwhelmed, as well as a list of items to grab to help the other meet their needs.
Another one that is very helpful is the ability to pause conversations and come back to them when we’re more able to participate. We agree that conflicts and other serious discussions require us both to be able to listen and understand. If we can’t do that, we are wasting time, getting stressed out, etc. We let the other know, and maybe throw it in the calendar to make sure we don’t forget.
The best one so far was sitting down with my spouse and making lists:
This means if one of us just can’t the other has a list of things they can take over, they know what can be dropped so they don’t also get overwhelmed, as well as a list of items to grab to help the other meet their needs.
Another one that is very helpful is the ability to pause conversations and come back to them when we’re more able to participate. We agree that conflicts and other serious discussions require us both to be able to listen and understand. If we can’t do that, we are wasting time, getting stressed out, etc. We let the other know, and maybe throw it in the calendar to make sure we don’t forget.