So a friend of mine who I’ve had a good relationship with for several months told me about a month ago that she wants to stop talking to me all together as she thinks I am too overbearing and bring up unnecessary topics unintentionally. She basically said that I stole her voice from her, that she never can get a word in around me, and that she is a very private person. Yet, she never let me explain why I am the way that I am.
I never meant for this to happen, and I feel terrible about it, it’s all my fault. I want to write her a letter to apologize, as we both communicate best through writing. In this draft, it seems like I’m talking entirely about me, but really, I’m trying to understand how she feels. I need to make edits obviously though lol.
If you are interested or good at writing / editing, I’d love to know where I can improve. There will be three posts as I am only allowed to add one photo at a time 🙄.
not really sure this is an apology at all.
This is more like a story about how your coach has also criticized your communication skills, but it seems like he did that for different reasons. I think he kind of sucks in that story, because he is literally a coach and should be giving you helpful, actionable feedback instead of the nebulous disapproval. Your friend, is a different situation and I don’t think you should confuse what your coach has said with what your friend has said.
Try to think about why you are apologizing. Is it because you feel bad about the situation? Is it because you want to ‘fix a problem’?
Your friend has expressed to you useful feedback on why they feel like they do, and what you’ve written kind of proves their point a bit.