I hope fatalism is the right word for it. I guess it could be called defeatism, acceptance, arguments from nature whatever.

Hoo boy I hope this doesn’t come across as unintelligible ranting but it’s a huge pet peeve of mine and I hardly ever see it addressed.

Nothing is more anti-life, anti-humanity and anti progress than accepting ‘the way things are’.
This might be a hot take and might even be considered by most to be an unhealthy opinion, but accepting things ‘you can’t change’ is defeatist to me, because how do you even know you can’t change something? You’re not god, you don’t know for sure. There are so many things we thought were an unchangable fact of life that did, in fact, get changed. Yes I understand that stressing about something that doesn’t have an immediate solution right now is not going to do your mental health any favors, but it doesn’t mean solutions aren’t worth pursuing. This type of nihilist fatalism isn’t just depressing, it’s dangerous. It’s the type of attitude that gets millions killed by desease because illness is just a part of life so why eliminate polio?

Like why even bother inventing shoes if foot pain is inevitable, right? Pathetic. Invent shoes, you dweeb. Nothing sadder than seeing this species resign itself to premature extinction.

  • GnomeGodsGnomeMasters [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    6 days ago

    Thanks. It literally took YEARS. After a couple years of “grooming” so-to-speak, I started reading excerpts from Engels and Marx to him, but changed a few words around so as not to raise his hackles. Never told him what exactly I was reading — sometimes I’d lie and say it was a blog or substack I liked. One day I finally dropped that, the excerpt which he had so enthusiastically agreed with, was indeed from Marx. He’s still mad at me for that lol. “YOU TRICKED ME!!! Goldangit you TRICKED ME!”

    He’s not a ML by any stretch, and unfortunately he has real issues with queer folk… but we’re working on it. Love that man to bits, in spite of his more despicable and lamentable characteristics. But I’m one of those goofballs that really believes in the power of radical love.

    • Sebrof [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      6 days ago

      rat-salute-2 no lie, that’s inspiring. At a young age I gave up on almost everyone from my part of the bum-fuck-nowhere woods. I know what you mean about how fascistic they can be. But I sometimes think about what progress, even if little, there could have been if I had tried even just a little bit every day or week with the people I loved over the many years. I like how you frame it as an act of love. It really is. I took the “easy way” of just giving up early on most, but then nothing stops the cycle. And you’re left lonelier. Thanks for sharing.