The other person’s reply about how you present it is pretty apt. There’s a big difference between “I have a shitty two-year old spawn I have to see on the weekends” and “I have joint custody with an amazing toddler. He loves the park and Legos, and so do I, so that works out”
But also imagine how you’d feel if you only found out the other person has some deal breaker for you after investing time and effort. Probably annoyed, right? Don’t hide stuff or assume you’re so great you can trivially change their world view, trauma, allergies, etc.
The other person’s reply about how you present it is pretty apt. There’s a big difference between “I have a shitty two-year old spawn I have to see on the weekends” and “I have joint custody with an amazing toddler. He loves the park and Legos, and so do I, so that works out”
But also imagine how you’d feel if you only found out the other person has some deal breaker for you after investing time and effort. Probably annoyed, right? Don’t hide stuff or assume you’re so great you can trivially change their world view, trauma, allergies, etc.