although honestly, the guys need unsettling compliments once in a while. they need to shake their entitled sense of security and to learn that they are loveable
although honestly, the guys need unsettling compliments once in a while. they need to shake their entitled sense of security and to learn that they are loveable
i rlli wana believe thad making dudes in general the “kind of person to watch out for and have a higher defense against” feels evil and bad.
i say dis cuz i am unfortunateli still masc presentin n i always specificalli look away from women to destroy thad vrri idea. i try and keep my distance, to not make it seem lik im followin anyone. i try n show that men arent the
first-person-shooter-playing, porn-consuming, aggressive, loud, angry and capitalist rapistssome people think they r…i imagine most peeps r reasonbl. n i feel havin to put up a barrier cuz som peeps r supr dupr evil, feels sad n unfair…
(also i guess id alsuu say these things to not-guys so lik-i guess i cud hav made it mor unspecific)
I’ve never fully understood the mindset that compels some guys to be so awful, but some guys really are shitheads. It does seem largely social, but it’s also extra enticing to cis guys over other folk. Being told you’re special and deserve to be in charge for being yourself is a seductive message, just like the argument for white supremacy or ultra nationalism.
It doesn’t mean all men will get roped in or that any need to stay in, but it is still a real threat that it isn’t your responsibility to solve. Keep yourself safe before sacrificing for others.
The affirming experience of being harassed as a woman!