Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they’d be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?

Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It’s a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don’t appear on mobile).

Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn’t purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I’m not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I’d see what y’alls opinion on the matter is.

  • communism@lemmy.ml
    6320·
    2 months ago

    I think you shouldn’t assume everyone on the internet to be a man. It is misogynistic. I don’t think there would be anything wrong with e.g. referring gender neutrally to someone who turns out to be a woman because you didn’t check her profile which says she’s a woman, but it is annoying to see people assume everyone on the internet to be male. I’ve especially experienced this in more techy communities which definitely seems like sexist stereotyping to me.

      • Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]@hexbear.netEnglish
        697·
        2 months ago

        This is deeply shitty. If you’re right that >80% of people on Lemmy are men (I’m not sure I buy that), then it’s even worse to assume everyone is a man. What you’re doing is chasing off the already extremely outnumbered non-men. If you want this place to be welcoming to people who aren’t men, then you need to change your behavior.

            • Zoot@reddthat.com
              69·
              2 months ago

              Right right, which is why a good majority of instances have entirely defederated from hexbear.

              Is it me who’s in the terrible instance that most people hate? No, no, it must be that they are all the hated people!

              • nat_turner_overdrive [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
                455·
                2 months ago

                Weird, all those instances are perfectly content to allow fascists on their instances. I wonder if these two things are related? No, no, better just keep posting like a redditor and never bother with introspection.

                • Zoot@reddthat.com
                  68·
                  2 months ago

                  Yeah no, hexbear is simply an awful place to go which gets closer and closer to a echo chamber every day. But do keep on telling people to have some introspection without any yourself.

                  • nat_turner_overdrive [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
                    354·
                    2 months ago

                    This is going to be embarrassing for you but don’t be afraid - have a deep think about the world you live in. Realize us here at Hexbear also live in that world. Do you get any actual communist or anarchist news or media in the real world we all live in? Or does the majority of the media, the politics, and the people of the world we all live in reproduce the liberal worldview you yourself have?

                    In closing, now that you have realized that your entire world is an echo chamber reproducing the liberal capitalist worldview, I hope you can amend your statement about Hexbear, a place that exists in defiance of that status quo, is in fact the opposite of an echo chamber.

          • BzQ [she/her]@lemmy.mlEnglish
            395·
            2 months ago

            It’s sexist because you assume male to be the default, just like the assumption that white is the default skin color is racist. The behavior outlined by the user above you follows from this thinking. Driving non-men away is a result of this behavior, which is the result of the sexist attitude that it’s okay to assume everyone online (or on Lemmy) is a man.

            The only people driven away by eir comment are misogynists.