I (30M) have this Japanese friend (32F) who splits her time working in Japan and Canada (although she was born in Canada and we grew up together here). Right now she works at the university where I’m studying, and we meet up frequently and chat. Her usual attire is a long-sleeved top over a camisole (I’ve attached a picture of her here wearing those clothes). It gets really distracting when she’s off work and I’m walking her home and she takes off her long-sleeved top completely and just wears the cami. The last time this happened, we were arguing all the way to her door.

  • JigglySackles@lemmy.worldEnglish
    13·
    6 hours ago

    Grow the fuck up. Others aren’t responsible for your comfort. If you have a problem, you need to talk with a therapist and leave her alone.

  • Cousin Mose@lemmy.hogru.chEnglish
    26·
    7 hours ago

    If this post is even true why are you posting photos of your “friend” all over the internet? Too creepy for me.

  • Starya67@lemmy.worldEnglish
    31·
    5 hours ago

    Get a grip. She looks lovely. Now take the picture down or I’ll doxx you.

  • Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.mlEnglish
    20·
    8 hours ago

    Dude this is the weirdest thing to bring up and very inappropriate. You’re not in control of your friend’s wardrobe and besides, what are you actually implying is going to happen when she’s not as sufficiently covered as you deem fit? Additionally, and this is pretty important, did you consider whether or not she would have liked to have had her picture posted here especially in the context of the post you made? I take it you didn’t ask her? The fact that you took it for granted that you could just do that fits with a pattern where you also believe you can tell her how to dress. You’re going to need learn to better respect boundaries.

  • Ledivin@lemmy.worldEnglish
    25·
    9 hours ago

    Sounds like you’re being a weirdo. Stop policing other people’s bodies and clothing, and stop acting like it’s their fault that you’re a horny loser that’s so easily “distracted.”

  • nocturne@slrpnk.netEnglish
    26·
    9 hours ago

    Sounds like you are over bearing, and have some control issues (both wanting to control others, while unable to control yourself)

  • 𝕸𝖔𝖘𝖘@infosec.pubEnglish
    12·
    8 hours ago

    I was going to be snarky, but will, instead, try to he helpful.

    I’m going to ask you some questions. I don’t need the answers, but it’s important you answer them for yourself. ----

    What about her cami bothers you?

    Is it possible that you’re attracted to her, and her cami is bringing this feeling to the foreground?
    If you didn’t know you had these feelings, they could cause irrational anxiety, which would cause the logic part of your brain to attribute a reason, which, in turn, could cause hostility towards the person that seemed to trigger the anxiety.

    Is it possible that you have unresolved sexual oppression (usually, but not always, from childhood)?
    This could cause “excess” skin to be misinterpretted as a personal attack.

    Edit. Also, as an aside. Most people don’t appreciate having their photos publicly posted without their consent. I understand that the image an important part of your post, but I would recommend you black out her face.