I’m interested in the viewpoints of gay men on this. I’m happy to retire the term (I don’t even know if I’ve ever actually used it), but it would be good to know if folks are actually getting offended by it.
In modern times I take it to be derogatory in an “involuntary submissive” context. One who sucks cock not because they want to, but because they are in some situation where they must.
That’s what I find so absurd about the “humans need variety in their diet” mantra. If we need some vast unknown combination of things, how is it that letting people loose on supermarkets and choosing their own recipes somehow achieves that, compared to at least some first pass attempt based on macro nutrients?