vestmoria

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

a strange, convoluted way of admitting you're angry and I'm the reason why :D

vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

A few words in and I could already tell who it was

no, it's because several users did that before you

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

Why don’t you tell these two “experts” to shut up and leave me alone?

I don't know if each workplace is like this, but at my hospital people are very, extremely thin skinned and if somebody feels offended because I prefer to keep to myself and to learn instead of talking about their boring lives they start acting like teenagers: he is unfriendly, he doesn't talk to me, he thinks he is better than me, can you believe that? and much worse stuff. It's usually a minority but this minority is large enough so most of the neutral ones within the group are cowed into saying nothing, because otherwise they're the ones being talked about and suddenly considered not a team player, not a good employee...

very sad but true.

It doesn't make sense to work in a group that behaves like this, not worth my peace of mind.

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

It’s a common form of hazing.

jesus chirst, I just read the wikipedia article on hazing and now I'm scared.

You can’t control them, but you can refuse to engage at their jr high level.

they'll badmouth me all the way to management.

better to stay where I am. Holy crap.

Why do people have to be like this?

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

and having to manage personalities full-time is not in my bandwidth

precisely, neither in mine.

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

That answer could gain you enemies even if you don’t even interview if it’s not kept confidential.

for sure. nurses can be this vicious

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

then you really have no idea what you're talking about.

oh, you're an moderator. thanks for not deleting this thread because it bothers you I guess.

what do you do in healthcare?

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

why does my post trigger you so much? calm down.

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

This is gen z...

ok boomer

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vestmoria @linux.community 3mo ago

So right up front, you want to inform your supervisors

they're not my supervisors, they MIGHT be, though.

And you think that’s going to go well for you?

I don't know how it's going to go. What I don't want is to work with those 2. Peace of mind is more important than advancing a career.

You call me weird for not wanting to work with people who drain me... well, all power to you.

Are you angry at me because I actually get to choose the people I work with? My actual gig is very light on the drama side. If somebody pesters me I get to leave that place.

and choose another candidate for the job.

good luck with that. You clearly don't work healthcare. Are you a manager btw?

You don’t get to choose who you work with

actually I do, everybody does, you can quit, you can work part time, you can start looking for a job that better fits you and then either 2 week notice it or quit on the spot. You mean you've never met people who quit not the job itself but a manager, a charge or certain coworkers? I don't know if YOU cannot choose the people you work with or you're convinced you cannot do that, but everyone has a choice: in my case, either advance my career now accepting I have to deal with those 2 moronic gossips or either keep my current job and look for the next opportunity. A third option would be to fake give them the attention so desperately need for a minute and then go back to learning and ignore them. And a fourth one, do nothing, stay where I am without thinking about advancing my career. I'm sure you can choose as well, it's only you're convinced you cannot. Maybe you think it's easier for you to stay where you are or you think changing might be too much of a hassle. Doing nothing and claiming you don’t get to choose who you work with like you do is also a choice.

Who told you that you could go through life without the minor inconvenience of having to deal with conflicting personalities?

Now you sound like a granddad or a mother who didn't have it too good fully convinced everyone must have it as bad as you. Ironically, this happens way too often in nursing: you remind me of how old nurses act with the new grads.

Are you calling me entitled for wanting a quiet life? knock yourself out, but, are you implying you don't want that? why?

you don’t get some protective bubble from the icky, inconvenient parts.

You're being conformist. If everyone thought like you nobody would have changed jobs ever.

You sound angry. Are you angry?

vestmoria @linux.community 4mo ago

it's actually very sad that your post gets the most upvotes, it simply shows how disconnected, entitled and delusional you and those who upvote you are regarding healthcare.

Nothing surprises me anymore.

You don't seem to understand that people have lives to live and not everyone has the luxury of pretending to be an armchair doctor or nurse like you. If you've never worked a 12 hour shift without pauses, with people blaming you for things you cannot change nor are your fault, with people trying to punch you and raising your voice when they feel inconvenienced you should shut up.

Go back to your ivory tower. No wonder nurses are looking for alternatives elsewhere.

happy downvoting

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vestmoria @linux.community 4mo ago

you have several good points but this ruined a good message:

where several people have failed her in a serious matter.

where did you get that from? an elective operation can be postponed if there are no doctors or anesthesiologists who can operate or if an emergency arises and somebody from the ER must be operated within minutes. She was told several times the new date for her fathers operation, she was told the hospital is not operating at full capacity due to doctors calling in sick but she didn't want to hear it, she even tried storming the nurses room.

If my coworker gives in to every entitled relative who yells at her and treats her this way, either my coworker will resign or take leave due to depression, a coworker who was simply doing her job to the best of her abilities managing the 20 something operations that had to be readied for Monday next week. And she gets abused for that? And you condone the karen? This part of your post seems very tone deaf. My coworker didn't even do her pause. It is her the one who deserves empathy, respect and my support, not the karen.

As a matter of fact, next time something like this happens I'll stop working and be there for her ready to call in security and the cops. f*ck the karen.

I don't know if you're aware how nurses complain of being treated like crap, burnout, losing the empathy they had when they first started working, but people like this karen are the reason why. You only need one to ruin your day.