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  • So I told my Mom I think I might have autism...

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  • Seems like her initial reaction is from the gut with love and support.And then maybe she searches and "researches" the topic and starts spouting bullshit, and doesn't have the appropriate social filters.

    All I really wanted from her was understanding, but she just gave me a lot of self-doubt and sadness instead.

    Feel free to call her out on these things. Highlight the instances where she has initially been supportive, and then u-turned into harmful communication.Ultimately, this is about communicating these scenarios with her. Hopefully she can modify her behaviours.I know I have changed my behaviour significantly when people have done that with me, and I have noticed the same with my parents when I call them out on things.It's just human.

    It's possible that she has undiagnosed conditions.Might be that you notice some markers of this when talking to her about your concerns.

    Or it's possible that she is researching in the wrong way and in the wrong places (maybe a "mom group" which is actually a toxic environment).Which will also become apparent when discussing the topic ("you said you thought I might have autism last night, but this morning you said I was lazy. I'm trying to figure this thing out and you have a perspective on my life I don't. Saying one thing that validates my concerns, then saying a hurtful opposite thing less than 12 hours later both makes me seriously doubt myself and my experiences and makes me feel really unloved and unsupported. Why did you change your tune?" sort of thing).At which point you have to decide if you:want to try and correct their news/research sources;accept that they will prioritise their shitty "research" over their actual experience - basically not rely on them for support and disregard their opinion, but still love them;or cut them out of your life.

    There is also the possibility that she is toxic, but her initial support comes from biological "love and support".You don't owe her anything, and - if through communication about the issue - you figure out she is toxic, then it's fine to reduce/eliminate your reliance/relationship/contact with her.

    Ultimately, her opinion doesn't matter. She isn't a psychologist or a medical doctor. If you think something is wrong, you need to talk to people that have studied the subject.Talk to a professional, and keep going until you feel heard. Don't give up until you feel heard and understood.

  • My doctor's office now has ads when checking in online

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  • It's pretty much just does it.Default settings are good.I think you can dial in stricter block lists, but might have issues with some websites.But you can pause PiHole for 5 minutes, allowing you to do what you need to. I think there is even browser plugins to give you an easy toggle button

  • My doctor's office now has ads when checking in online

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  • If there is ever a way to continue any process without agreeing to terms, services, data processing etc: that's my default action.I'm not going to check a checkbox unless the form forbids me from continuing without checking it - at which point, I figure out what the checkbox wants

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    They voted for Trump and their green-card son is in ICE detention

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  • I empathise by I don't sympathise.

  • skills for rent

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  • The first draft is fun.The second draft is pain.The third draft is cathartic.

    Figure out features, add add add.Add/change features, realise the spaghetti mess and poor design decisions you made in the first draft.Clean everything up with better design and code.

  • parseInt(5)

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  • Yup. parseInt is for strings.Math.floor, Math.ceil, Math.round or Math.trunc are for numeric type "conversions" (cause its still a float)

  • All four major web browsers are about to lose 80% of their funding | by Dan Fabulich | Apr, 2025

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  • Cutting out swaths of code and features - without breaking other code and features - is not a small task.It's probably more time consuming and complex than just continuing to update at a slower pace.

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  • I have no idea, but that website is a bit of a red flag to me.

    It sounds like it's some sort of file sharing service. So you can upload, share and download files from the RealDebrid servers.A quick Google suggests it's primarily used for downloading/streaming movies, TV series etc. Essentially piracy.

  • Linux as the true Trojan!

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  • And it CAN fix all your problems. But that doesn't mean you don't have to fix the problems yourself.Which is often more than I can deal with. Thankfully - so far at least - all my problems are problems other people have encountered and have documented (and - in many cases - contributed to various projects to get the fix to more people)

  • Cloudflare Tunnel Alternatives

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  • Chisel, Rathole, an SSH tunnel with port forwarding, a VPN with port forwarding.Keywords are "self hosted tunnel" or "reverse proxy over VPN".

    Run a VPS for like $5 a month, your local reverse-proxy tunnels out to the VPS, and your VPS forwards port 80/443 over the tunnel to your reverse-proxy.

  • Soon, You May Be Able To Play Diddy Kong Racing Natively On Your PC | Time Extension

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  • Pretty much, yes.Developers for the older consoles employed all sorts of hacks and used all sorts of undocumented features.Emulators of N64 would develop the emulator for something like 80% of the features of 80% of the games, then put in specific workarounds for the oddities of each game.Which is why some games are better on specific emulators.

    Also, decompilation lead to a greater understanding of the various glitches. DK64 and Mario 64 speedruns benefitted massively from this.And also fun hack/mods like randomisers and hardcore modes, massively extending the games playability.

    But yeh, the things devs did back in the day is bonkers

  • Kanye West joins streaming service Twitch — gets banned after seven minutes

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  • I really enjoy those "tech bros reinvent..." memes

  • Kanye West joins streaming service Twitch — gets banned after seven minutes

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  • Self driving teslas

  • A New Acronym

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  • TBH, it's apt

  • A New Acronym

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  • AI generated acronym?

  • Don't waste time interacting with those who chose to be obdurate

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  • Thank you for doing the dirty work

  • Elections Canada announces record turnout on first day of advance voting

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  • Make voting accessible and more people vote?No, that's crazy talk. Get out

  • Stress-testing and hardware monitoring tool OCCT has officially released for Linux

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  • A LiveUSB that has memory checking, storage checking, gpu checking along with stress testing of these would be amazing.Building a new PC? Slap in the liveUSB, check all the components then stress test soak it to confirm its all good

  • Games that make use of two or more monitors?

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  • I've heard rumours that Kitten Space Agency (the spiritual successor to Kerbal Space Program, considering KSP2 is dead on arrival) will support multiple monitors.I know it has multiplayer baked in at every step of the development (even if it won't be available on release). So maybe I'm getting my wires crossed between multimonitor and features of the multiplayer that sound like they would be great for multi monitor (IE, someone plays as ground control)