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  • It could just do with a UI refresh and maybe some added functionality

    That is actually huge ask.
    Mumble works in an “engineer brain” kinda way. Cause it has been made by engineers making sure the underlying tech is available to be used in so many scenarios.
    Making it work in a “user” kinda way is a huge change.
    And it would either make the code really difficult to maintain, or would isolate the power users by restricting the flexibility of mumble.
    The fact that mumble is FOSS is absolutely fantastic!

    Feel free to fork the project and refresh the UI.
    Or sponsored programmers to do this. If there is actually a market, you would be able to overtake mumble. You can even start from their codebase, the license is very permissive (just make sure you credit mumble!)





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    11 days ago

    Does the right use independent media?
    Or do their billionaire pals that have exploited humanity for decades just own the mainstream media… so they don’t have to bother with independent media: cause they have dozens of not hundreds of full time staff figuring out how to increase viewership.

    It’s not really a question.
    It’s just how it is



  • Seems like her initial reaction is from the gut with love and support.
    And then maybe she searches and “researches” the topic and starts spouting bullshit, and doesn’t have the appropriate social filters.


    All I really wanted from her was understanding, but she just gave me a lot of self-doubt and sadness instead.

    Feel free to call her out on these things. Highlight the instances where she has initially been supportive, and then u-turned into harmful communication.
    Ultimately, this is about communicating these scenarios with her. Hopefully she can modify her behaviours.
    I know I have changed my behaviour significantly when people have done that with me, and I have noticed the same with my parents when I call them out on things.
    It’s just human.


    It’s possible that she has undiagnosed conditions.
    Might be that you notice some markers of this when talking to her about your concerns.


    Or it’s possible that she is researching in the wrong way and in the wrong places (maybe a “mom group” which is actually a toxic environment).
    Which will also become apparent when discussing the topic (“you said you thought I might have autism last night, but this morning you said I was lazy. I’m trying to figure this thing out and you have a perspective on my life I don’t. Saying one thing that validates my concerns, then saying a hurtful opposite thing less than 12 hours later both makes me seriously doubt myself and my experiences and makes me feel really unloved and unsupported. Why did you change your tune?” sort of thing).
    At which point you have to decide if you:
    want to try and correct their news/research sources;
    accept that they will prioritise their shitty “research” over their actual experience - basically not rely on them for support and disregard their opinion, but still love them;
    or cut them out of your life.


    There is also the possibility that she is toxic, but her initial support comes from biological “love and support”.
    You don’t owe her anything, and - if through communication about the issue - you figure out she is toxic, then it’s fine to reduce/eliminate your reliance/relationship/contact with her.


    Ultimately, her opinion doesn’t matter. She isn’t a psychologist or a medical doctor. If you think something is wrong, you need to talk to people that have studied the subject.
    Talk to a professional, and keep going until you feel heard. Don’t give up until you feel heard and understood.