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the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]

@ the_itsb @hexbear.net

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more likely "an ill-tempered sea bass" than "the ill-tempered sea bass" – surely there are others

42f late-dx AuDHD cis bi married parent of trans kid

  • the effective altruist club came to my restaurant last weekend

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  • my parents are those people and it is mortifying to be out with them, I would rather cook a giant meal myself for them than do it

    if I forget to bring cash to make up for their shitty tip, I have to sneak away and pull the server aside, give them my debit card, and ask them to please order me a small dessert etc so I could tip them, while apologizing profusely for my parents' attitude

    they weren't like that 15-20 years ago, idk what happened – both of them had difficult, public-facing, service-oriented jobs that they were good at, and they used to be really kind to other working people

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    We here at Beanvel® are thrilled to announce the latest addition to the Beanis™ Cinematic Universe (BCU©) - our focus groups suggest that long-time fans of Beanis™ will love this new character...

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  • As a former IDF soldier and historian of genocide, I was deeply disturbed by my recent visit to Israel

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  • Since I returned from my visit, I have been trying to place my experiences there into a larger context. The reality on the ground is so devastating, and the future appears so bleak, that I have allowed myself to indulge in some counter-factual history and to entertain some hopeful speculations about a different future. I ask myself, what would have happened had the newly created state of Israel fulfilled its commitment to enact a constitution based on its Declaration of Independence? That same declaration which stated that Israel “will be based on freedom, justice and peace as envisaged by the prophets of Israel; it will ensure complete equality of social and political rights to all its inhabitants irrespective of religion, race or sex; it will guarantee freedom of religion, conscience, language, education and culture; it will safeguard the Holy Places of all religions; and it will be faithful to the principles of the Charter of the United Nations”.

    this was a devastating read

  • sphynx electrolysis development journal entry #9: i have ✨issues✨

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  • I'm sorry about your struggles and impressed that you're still making progress regardless!

    a nice little light to moderate menty b

    fucking hilarious and seems almost friendly when you put it this way. I think I'm gonna try talking about mine like that ❤️ thank you!

  • some of these taglines are utterly inscrutable to me

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  • Thank you!!

  • some of these taglines are utterly inscrutable to me

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  • This is a great question! I would love to know too, but idk who to even ask.

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    the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them] @hexbear.net

    some of these taglines are utterly inscrutable to me

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  • Take a look at the apps 3D Human, and 3D Bones and Organs. They're on both iOS and Android, both free.

    aaaaaahhhhhhhh this is a WONDERFUL recommendation, thank you so much!!

    My husband has been struggling with a back injury since early March, and trying to find good anatomical diagrams to help him understand what he's feeling where is often a challenge. This will be so helpful!!

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  • it super does! switching to another practice is going to take weeks, during which he is suffering and making little progress

    America has the best healthcare system in the world, and that's why we pay so fucking much for it

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  • Did anything happen before it started? Did you overexert or fall or otherwise injure yourself?

    I've learned enough from going to my husband's back appointments that the tingly pins-and-needles thing indicates some kind of nerve involvement, but it might just be getting squished by swollen tissues caused by other irritation (that happens to him every now and then). You probably should get it checked out. 😕

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  • PTs are usually good for a basic diagnosis.

    This depends on what state you're in, unfortunately. Here in Ohio, they legally can't see you without a referral from a diagnosing physician. They also can't help you work on anything outside the scope of that diagnosis, so if your doctor half-assed your exam, you might not get the help you need.

    My husband is dealing with this right now.

  • Silly but mildly insightful (for reddit) post

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  • Ranting about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and ADHD

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  • The terror of inbox notifications!

    versus

    The horror of no responses!

    every time 😂🤦

  • Like that’s not even a design. That’s an actual human. A GORGEOUS human woman. And they’re like “nah this isn’t sexy enough”

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  • spray me too, right there with you 💦

  • Like that’s not even a design. That’s an actual human. A GORGEOUS human woman. And they’re like “nah this isn’t sexy enough”

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  • My coveralls are baggy af in the seat because they have to be, so I can bend and stretch with tools and parts in my pockets.

    The thought of trying to work in latex pants is very upsetting. So sweaty, no storage, no free movement 😞

  • Anti Outside Aktion

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  • ❤️ really glad you and the kitties have a safe, stable place

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    All I Want For Christmas Is...

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  • This is wonderful ❤️

  • Atheists, is there anything religious that sticks with you to this day?

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  • Me too, this is one of the main things that stuck with me. Honestly, idk how to think of myself except in relation to my service to community, it has really shaped my entire experience of the world.

  • They said the thing

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  • Sincerity Post Alert - Sorry in advance for the cringe.

    This honestly hurts my heart.

    I'm an atheist now, but I grew up in church, I attended a tiny, private Christian school from 8th grade through 11th (and only left because they weren't chartered to give diplomas), I literally had formal Bible class 6 days a week and happily attended evening services - because I was a naive kid who truly believed that "love everyone" and "do unto others" stuff was as important to everyone else as it was to me.

    I was always a weird kid without many friends my age, and the kindness and friendliness of the adults at church was a big deal for me. Coming to terms with the hypocrisy in the adults around me - realizing how judgemental and shitty most of them actually were - made my late teens extra lonely.

    Nobody's perfect, but - Jesus Fucking Christ, I don't know why, but I still get surprised at the depths of awful behavior done in his name, and the ways his message of empathy and compassion gets twisted to justify it.

    His message of empathy. That is the core of his message. Mark, Chapter 12:

    28 One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”

    29 “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[e] 30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[f] 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[g] There is no commandment greater than these.”

    32 “Well said, teacher,” the man replied. “You are right in saying that God is one and there is no other but him. 33 To love him with all your heart, with all your understanding and with all your strength, and to love your neighbor as yourself is more important than all burnt offerings and sacrifices.”

    34 When Jesus saw that he had answered wisely, he said to him, “You are not far from the kingdom of God.” And from then on no one dared ask him any more questions.

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    Enticing Empathy: How Satan Corrupts Through Compassion

    This is truly evil. The antidote for the prosperity gospel brainworms is empathy and compassion. Honestly, I truly, deeply believe in my stupid little naive heart that the antidote for most societal ills is empathy and compassion.* How do you actually, really solve the diseases of greed and selfishness without them?

    This demonization of caring is just evil. How do I talk my evangelical boomer parents out of their brainworms if they're getting this kind of messaging in church? Idfk. I guess I just keep reacting with the appropriate level of disgust to this sort of thing and ask questions and hope they're not too lead-poisoned to someday see the contradiction between the message of Christ and the message of church.

    This is a real bummer, but I guess it's better to know than not. yuck.

    /* - I understand there are also problems that require math and/or guillotines.