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  • I bought femme clothes from thrift stores. It's cheap, I could swap out equivalent masc clothes that I didn't anticipate needing. It got easier over time as a sense of style developed. I'm 3.5 months HRT and 90% of my clothing was purchased pre-HRT, no significant size changes yet. Exception: Bras were mainly purchased after.

    For makeup, even in boy mode a little foundation and blush made me feel cuter. The key with makeup is subtlety. And a lot of foundation to hide shadow, if that's a concern.

    Finally, a skin care routine did wonders for me, especially once HRT began. I use CeraVe cleanser, moisturizer, and a Neutrogena retinol cream between them every other day at night, plus a Neutrogena sunscreen in the morning. It had super noticeable softening effects on my face within two weeks.

    What helps me is: you can experiment with all this stuff without necessarily taking it out of your bedroom if you don't want to. You can wash off the makeup. Or you might feel great and go out.

    Good luck!

  • My first slept like this a lot. Lots of folks like you stopped and commented to tell me that it looked dangerous. Thanks for your concern but it's just the way the baby cookie crumbles, sometimes.

  • The anger I could work around, but saying "I can't control it" shows a lack of introspection that would be an instant giant red flag to run away, fast and far. Good luck, friend. We all deserve love.

  • Ah, that makes more sense than "farting during holy month"

  • Webfishing

  • I wouldn't necessarily equate having a good memory or good intuition to intellect / being smart.

    For certain subjects, I opted not to study and did well like OP is asking about. Studying would have helped my grades further. I just simply couldn't be bothered and I have no regrets with how I chose to spend my time.

    In university, I had low emotional intelligence, so maybe that was a tradeoff?

  • OP, read through Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

    And then GTFO of there the second you can. This man will stunt your life and he'll blame you for it.

  • You're allowed to have emotions, and as a kid they're hard to mask or deal with. So letting your kid feel them and modeling how to deal with them is the right way to let them learn, rather than telling them they can't be angry and just having them feel guilty for their "wrong" emotions.

  • The white thumbs up!

  • Try this one, has lots of special characters: a_a_a_a_a_a_a_a

  • Eyeliner pencil.

    Or pick and choose from this very absolute-beginner friendly make-up video

    The euphoria I got from my first application of foundation, eyeliner, and blush was marvelous.


    Second suggestion: jewelry. A cute bracelet, subtle necklace.

    If you haven't gotten your ears pierced and want to, go to a piercing studio. If you have them pierced, dangly earrings!


    Skin care routine! Cleaning and moisturizing your face every night is very femme.


    Get your nails done. If you have a friend who can do it, do that. Or go to a nail salon, a basic polish will only be 20-40 bucks and you get to choose from hundreds of colours. Start with just your toes if you aren't comfortable.


    Pluck your eyebrows. You just need an eyebrow tweezer. Makes you look cleaner even if you're still largely presenting masc.


    Wear women's underwear, boyshorts are a nice option if you're not ready for a bikini cut.


    Start getting rid of extra boy clothes that you don't foresee yourself wearing in the future. It can help relieve a burden you didn't even know was there.


    Sorry, I'm 3 months in and these are some of the things that I've done. I'm full time, out at work and with family -- I moved quickly I guess.

  • Ah, yes, my reading comprehension is apparently poor today.

  • It's up for me

  • Even if you want to be snarky, at least do something like:

    I [googled it](searchresult.com) for you.

  • I wear toe socks exclusively for this reason.

  • Congratulations!

  • I have encountered a lot of this mentality on Lemmy. Sometimes I go to engage, but it's simply not worth it.

    You won't be able to inform folks with these opinions in a content aggregator forum, it's just not the place for learning (and 196 is much less so).

    Also is this OC in 196? Isn't that sort of against the spirit of the community?

  • Better name?