I definitely agree with your main point.
I need a husband who isn't dealing with emotional baggage
Good fucking luck, every human has emotional baggage. I think the point you ought to be making is you want someone who deals with their shit in a mature and healthy way.
who can be supportive for me
Don't forget that relationships are a two way street, everyone needs support, some more than others
rejection has to be performed with male emotional fragility in mind.
Eh, not really. If we rule out physical violence (hopefully) you can reject folks however you want. If you're a jerk, sometimes people will be mean back. Sometimes even if you're nice people will be dicks. Stay safe, disregard what people say if you don't care about them, and move on.
This is the first thing I thought of too, would be neat to shoot once, super impractical.