i find it far less stressful these days
people know i nether give nor would i like to receive presents - i buy little gifts for people to solve problems for them all the time and give them when i’ve bought them
i don't consume much that has ads so i just don’t see much of the commercial aspect unless i’m physically in a place
not giving gifts means im not often physically in places to see the ultra commercial crap
if someone makes christmas socially stressful for me, they get less time next year… i wont tell them: they’re usually too “busy” (in their own world) to notice, and eventually i just don't see them at christmas… or i see them a tolerable amount
i also do “orphans christmas” with friends, even though im from the city i live in and my family are all still here… my chosen family are just as (more: let’s go with more) important to me as my biological family
christmas is an excuse to catch up with people you don’t see very often… it’s up to you to choose to make it only that. don’t let other people’s expectations stress you out
i’d say they’re pretty equivalent
a monorepo is far easier to develop a single-language, fairly monolithic (ie you need the whole application to develop any part) codebase in
(though as soon as you start adding multiple languages or it gets big enough that you need to work on parts without starting other parts of the application it starts to break down rather significantly)
but as soon as your app becomes less of a cohesive thing and more separated it becomes problematic… especially when it comes to deployments: a push to a repo doesn’t mean “deploy changes to everything” or “build everything” any more
i think the best solution (as with most things) is somewhere in the middle: perhaps several different repos, and a “monorepo” that’s mostly a bunch of subtrees or submodules… you can coordinate changes by committing to the monorepo (and changes are automatically duplicated), or just work on individual parts (tricky with pnpm since the workspace file would be in the monorepo)… but i’ve never really tried this: just had the thought for a while