TBF, the struggle itself isn't trashy, but the situation itself is. One becomes part of said trash when/if one chooses to give into it. Treating a toddler like that makes you trash.
You don't need your pain to define you. You can choose to let it, but that's easier than crafting your own identity from scratch. Some prefer it, but it's not the only way, nor is it as durable in the long run.
I say this first to lead into the second part: this psyop bullshit you see in the past several decades has been going on far longer. In fact, it's baked into three class system, if not most cultures down through history.
Now, rather than look directly into that abyss, see it for a positive: we poors (eg. >99% globally) have survived it all for millennia, but the <1% have been dwindling the whole time. At this moment in time, they are the fewest they've ever been.
Who knows what's to come, but we will endure. We always do. Together. 🤘🏻
Ah, so you didn't read past your point of indignation? Classy. 🤷🏼♂️