Sometime last year, I asked my sort-of accepting mom if she would be willing to help me with paying for HRT. She got uncomfortable, and wouldn’t directly say no, but effectively refused. Recently, she approached me and started asking about how HRT was going. I’m really not clear on what was happening, but it seemed like her goal was to give me money. She said what she was expecting me to say in a way that felt like she was feeding me lines. She said that [I didn’t need any help with HRT, but paying for HRT was impacting my social life, and I wasn’t able to have fun because of the financial burden]. I said something vague about how paying for HRT and an extensive social life wasn’t affordable to me, but really at this point I’ve gotten costs down, and I’m mostly fine with socializing cheaply. She sent me enough to cover about six months worth of HRT. Besides that, we haven’t and probably won’t talk about any trans issues or healthcare.
I really don’t know what questions to ask, but does anyone have thoughts about what’s going on there? I already try to minimize her presence in my life, so besides that.
odd parent situation
Sometime last year, I asked my sort-of accepting mom if she would be willing to help me with paying for HRT. She got uncomfortable, and wouldn’t directly say no, but effectively refused. Recently, she approached me and started asking about how HRT was going. I’m really not clear on what was happening, but it seemed like her goal was to give me money. She said what she was expecting me to say in a way that felt like she was feeding me lines. She said that [I didn’t need any help with HRT, but paying for HRT was impacting my social life, and I wasn’t able to have fun because of the financial burden]. I said something vague about how paying for HRT and an extensive social life wasn’t affordable to me, but really at this point I’ve gotten costs down, and I’m mostly fine with socializing cheaply. She sent me enough to cover about six months worth of HRT. Besides that, we haven’t and probably won’t talk about any trans issues or healthcare.
I really don’t know what questions to ask, but does anyone have thoughts about what’s going on there? I already try to minimize her presence in my life, so besides that.