it means I am focusing my energy on things that are known to be worthwhile, or at least more likely to be
a >50% chance that the person in question is an asshole and undeserving of any sympathy means playing the odds
people get respect when they demonstrate they deserve it
I went to visit a good friend in another city once and was slightly confused when we got to the end of the night and there was just her tiny bed in her tiny bedroom
to this day I have no idea if she wanted something to happen, but I'm not gonna make it weird and ruin a friendship at midnight while somewhat drunk and out of town. I'll get into bed with you, but if you want something to happen, YOU make the move. the move was not made. or I was too drunk to notice, idk anymore, I'd forgotten about this
I'm the one who got out of bed super early and went for a walk by the lake for over an hour