Sometimes the base level of aggression or the base level of inflection is way higher than what you're locally tuned for.
Anecdotally I have found even business conversations with people from the US to be over the top. Especially through the sales cycle. There is a lot of hype that I need to adjust for in comparison to vendors in the UK, Europe and Asia.
It's not a bad thing, it's a social standard. I probably appear quiet reserved and shy by comparison.
*"Listen, happy endings is fine if they turn out happy,” said Granny, glaring at the sky. “But you can't make 'em for other people. Like the only way you could make a happy marriage is by cuttin' their heads off as soon as they say 'I do', yes? You can't make happiness…” Granny Weatherwax stared at the distant city.
We do "submit", daily, to a higher power or thing beyond our control.
It's pouring with rain, I need to be three blocks away for a coffee catchup, I don't have an umbrella and I have to walk. I don't have control over time, my coffee date or the weather, so I'm going to suffer. I can't argue with the weather or time, and while I can negotiate with my coffee date, this impacts them.
Somewhere in that I have to accept I'm either going to be late or going to be wet. I can worry about it, beat myself up about not bringing an umbrella or checking the forecast - or I can submit to the factors beyond my control and accept I'm going to be late or be wet.
That is one end of the "give your free will over" stick. The other end of it is a shorthand to saying the above, which is that God or Allah or fate willed it that way therefore there's no point getting hung up upon being wet or being late. It was always going to happen, chill, someone else has this under control.
There is a peace to that thought. Nothing I do matters, it's all pre ordained, therefore I don't need to care. When I read the linked quote I think - oh, you're worried about the kid thinking they can change everything just by fighting back. It doesn't happen kid, best you accept the things you can't control, and get on with a happier life.
Women are more than happy for a walk while the girls were at the moment as they were a couple of weeks ago but I did really have the chance for them in my family
Sometimes the base level of aggression or the base level of inflection is way higher than what you're locally tuned for.
Anecdotally I have found even business conversations with people from the US to be over the top. Especially through the sales cycle. There is a lot of hype that I need to adjust for in comparison to vendors in the UK, Europe and Asia.
It's not a bad thing, it's a social standard. I probably appear quiet reserved and shy by comparison.