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Cake day: April 25th, 2026

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  • Yeah disability history should actually be taught. I’m disabled and I work in the industry too. It’s sad how little the average person knows about the history of disability…yet they sure know a lot about over-diagnoses and all kinds of other headline crap 🤔🙄

    I’m not in the US but absolutely, we had de-institutionalisation in the 90s here (Australia). There are plenty of adults who lived during that time and still flinch at certain actions (a harmless high 5 for example) because they’re conditioned to being hit. There are still plenty of adults who are institutionalised in their mindset and will never overcome that sadly (incredibly strict routines they can’t deviate from even though the routines themselves are damaging, no body autonomy or discretion, no ability to voice their opinion, needs and so on). It’s really sad to watch because their routine that can involve going to a day service program every day is obviously causing them distress but any suggestion of change to that schedule is also incredibly distressing. For a lot of people, that part of institutionalisation is irreversible and it affects their entire quality of life.

    Scarily there are still staff in the industry that worked in those places too. I remember really not liking a coworker - I didn’t work with her directly but on the few occasions I’d seen her interact with clients I just thought she was disrespectful and old school. Then I had a client who used to say some things about her that I actually reported to management. Eventually someone mentioned in passing that this worker had worked at one of the biggest institutions in my state - the one that they teach us about in the disability certificate because of how abusive and horrific it was.

    It is current history and the history of disability treatment and institutionalisation, abuse, neglect, murder, abandonment - all of this history has a trickle down affect - disabled people who haven’t necessarily faced all of those things often still know the history and carry the anxiety and fear around it - especially in the midst of these big public discussions that are happening in various countries. It’s essentially inter-generational trauma being handed down.

    It also affects how non disabled people view disabled people - even without knowing it. Disabled people are often told they should “be grateful” for what we have now - even when we’re making a point about having our rights violated. The idea that disabled people are “lesser” is deeply ingrained in society. It’s not even conscious so it’s not always malicious but it’s just deep seated due to history.

    ( It IS malicious and wilfully ignorant if it’s pointed out to you and you double down on your ableist rhetoric. Recognizing and challenging our own prejudices is a skill worth having!)


  • I really wouldn’t be downplaying how the Nazis treated disabled people. They were literally experimented on, tortured while still alive in some of the most horrific ways until they died. Disabled children were taken from their parents (sometimes willing, sometimes not) and abused until they died. Some of the parents would realize that the situation was not what they thought it was and try to get their child back but couldn’t. There are letters from teenagers writing to their parents - “I am going to die here” (in the institution) because the parents weren’t able to get them out. Those kids did die. And we don’t even have the full scope of numbers because documentation was destroyed and deaths were simply labelled as pneumonia when there were clearly other things at play.

    I don’t think comparison is helpful here. Disabled people have ALWAYS been treated like shit by a large amount of society and people in power. Some of it has changed over time, going back way further than the 1930/40s, some of it has improved but not as much as people would like to think sadly.

    There’s still a lot of deep seated ableism that permeates through society which is why any progress in the way disabled people are spoken to, about and how we’re treated in general, is so incredibly painstakingly slow and often feels like one half step forward, whoaaa that’s a bit too much, shuffle back 3 steps!


  • Yeah I think this is an issue in general with any kind of 1-10 scale! People tend to think 7+ is good. I don’t think people recognize 5 as average or they see “average” as less than what it actually means - I’m with you that most media is average and that doesn’t mean it’s not worth checking out.

    Anyone who creates a scale needs to be super clear about what each interval means lol because I think they get misconstrued all the time.

    I do miss the old IMDb review/chat boards though. Before everything just moved to reddit, it was fun to go on there and just talk to people about certain movies. Was so good for when a movie had a confusing/open ending to share theories and stuff. Didn’t get trolls when forums were all separate!






  • Idk, I’m not in the US but if a therapist was found to break confidentiality or to have possession of information unethically then there’d be a media and political storm on it. Particularly since covid, more therapy and healthcare is conducted online. For some people it may even be the only accessible option.

    You are not stupid where I live to expect health organizations to abide by the laws around confidentiality 😅 You would expect health organizations to have the highest secured systems and if they were exposed it would be in a cyber attack from an outside party and the information available for that kind of attack would be limited, de-identified, - it would be an absolute top level scandal, mass class action suit, criminal charges if whole identifiable transcripts of sessions like this were being stored and released in a way that breached the law.

    People seeking out therapy are already vulnerable, not stupid. They may be desperate and unfortunately, there are some shitty apps and stuff that DON’T fall under regulations. It’s important to make sure you’re talking to a real person and the organization is a registered provider ( however that works in various countries) but a person is not stupid for being intentionally preyed on in their vulnerablity and desperation by greedy, unethical people.


  • Yeah, that whole psychology article reads like something from the old days honestly. The language and just how demeaning it is sounds like the shit I read from when they used to say autism was “child psychopathy” and stuff like that.

    This whole “appear to be articulate, thoughtful…” crap is just straight up ableism right? It’s missing the entire point, which is not that autistic people are pretending to be positive characteristics but may be abusive behind closed doors. The point that seems obvious here is that the NT and their friends don’t understand masking and fluctuating capacity. The point is that the general public still need a lot more education around autism… but instead they’re just like nah let’s just turn autistic people into the abusers, that’s easier. 🤷‍♀️

    Yep, pattern recognition can be fun at times but the other side of it is actually really hard when it’s important stuff with big and harmful consequences.

    Personally, I find my pattern recognition on a lot of things is put down to anxiety, trauma response etc. Sure, maybe that does affect it but that shouldn’t be an automatic dismissal/trivialisation. Discussions are good to have and when someone goes with “that’s your anxiety talking” it doesn’t encourage discussion, it shuts it down. Explore the thread of thought and the pattern collaboratively. Even if you don’t agree all the time, I think even just talking respectfully without those instant shutdowns through trivialisation, is a more productive way to go.

    As soon as people give themselves permission to dismiss something that another person said just because “anxiety/trauma/autism/any other characteristic” we lose a LOT of voices - which sadly, is the exact society we do live in. Where it’s too easy to find reasons to not even engage and just erase certain people from important discussions.


  • Ah yeah I’m still getting my head around the whole instances thing but good to know so thanks for that. I’d honestly never even heard the term of federated in regards to socials/forums etc before looking up alternatives to reddit 😅

    Also what the actual fuck with those military dogs, sickening stuff. Very disturbing when humans are using other animals to humiliate and assault people like that. The dogs don’t have the same understanding of what they’re doing as humans would so, to me, that lays entirely on the people who are training and encouraging dogs to engage in that kind of stuff - the intention comes from the human. Ugh, that was a disturbing read!





  • Good one here. Garage sales were just fun to look through and you could find cool stuff you wanted for the want (not the resale value) for a few bucks. They were happy to make a few bucks and you were happy with your new thing.

    Now stuff seems to either be dumped (in the bins or outside donation places in a rubbish heap) or sold because it has become valuable over time (RIP finding cool pokemon cards for a bargain 😭)

    Garage sales were also just a cool community thing, depending where you live of course. You could be going for a little walk and just wander into a garage sale and chat to people from your neighborhood or strangers. Marketplace is just “my cousin’s dogs friend will pick it up” 🤑


  • Yeah I think when it’s a bunch of adults brigading against a 15 year old who did some dumb shit and it got caught on video it’s gone way too far. Let the parents, teachers whoever is actually involved with the situation deal with the kid.

    I’ve seen some ridiculous stuff on reddit with people vying for kids to be beat up over, honestly, stupid stuff but not dissimilar to crap I did at that age. When I got caught I was just disciplined by my folks, grounded or something.

    Some of that stuff IS funny to look back on - because it wasn’t caught on video and you can choose your audience to reminisce with like jfc what was I thinking, funny but damn that was a dumb/dangerous thing to do. In my 30s and still finding silly stories to tell my folks about shit I did they never know about. We roll our eyes, have a laugh or a omg, and thank god that I grew up alright 😅


  • Yes - the thing about being free to be stupid! I honestly feel sorry for kids these days getting torn apart for doing yes, stupid, sometimes even rude/dangerous shit because it’s caught on video and posted to a forum of (often) adults who were apparently all really well behaved in the 90s and before as teenagers lol.

    I did some pretty shitty stuff too as a kid, silly pranks and being a public nuisance that I can just remember when I catch up with an old friend and be like fuck what were we thinking when we did that man 😅 thank god we didn’t get hurt/get caught/nobody got hurt, etc.

    These days, kids don’t just get disciplined by their folks, if someone posts it online they get all the damn internet calling for them to be beat around and all kinds of stuff. It’s weird.


  • Spending time with my brain and coming up with creative ways to stimulate it. Didn’t have a little device to do it with. Books, writing, daydreaming, drawing, bugging my old sister but also those nice bonding moments.

    Hell, I used to write essays for fun 😂

    Conversations where people didn’t pull out their phone to Google something neither of you could recall and the conversation just went on until hours went by and you were “ah, it was Daniel Radcliffe in that movie!” “Oh yeah!” and then you get to circle back around to it. Idk, just letting the brain naturally rejig it’s own memory!