Same! My current partner doesn't mind and I actually convinced a previous partner to adopt it so there are at least two ladies out there who are neutral-to-positive about it.
Modern dating and the apps and stuff sucks for everybody (except maybe a few) in varying amounts for various intersecting reasons. The fact that our insecurities are priced into a company's business plan is no fun. It's just a truth that the default answer to the question, 'is this a good match' is 'no', and it's probably healthy to limit the influence that has on your self image in whatever way seems sustainable while also being open to serendipity. It's hard to feel good after being ghosted, but dang if it's probably better than getting any closer to that kind of person.
I'm glad someone else got this vibe. Except I thought it felt like Ocean's 11 but with the film making skill and sensibility of Power Rangers. I didn't get past the scene where they get to their ship and introduce the crew. I had to turn it off. ...And I loooooove love love star trek. Even the pretty bad stuff.
The N thing gets me too - it seems to be within the last couple years that it's been an issue for me. I just chalked it up to the ergonomics of big phones, but now I'm wondering if there might be a software component. Like I don't remember it being a problem at all in the past, but now I gotta be super careful with my typing to notndonthisnallnthentime
If they could just stop autocorrecting correctly spelled words to other words I did not intend, that would be great. Had to turn off the whole dang feature because it behaves so poorly.
Back in college this kinda thing would happen to me a bunch. The fear of forgetting would stress me out so much I'd lose sleep and compound the whole mess of problems. Ended up keeping a notepad by my bed to scribble my thoughts onto so I could give my poor brain a break for sleep.
Whatever happens, I hope you two can get back to hiking without the madness. There are tons of ways to address it tactically that others have gone into, so I won't make any additional suggestions but I can say that as a diagnosed adhd-haver I can super duper relate. I hope you get the diagnosis outcome and support from your partner that you need.
Agreed and welcome! Be prepared to engage in or create a new space for the communities you care about. Things feel like they're just getting started here, but that's ok. Good luck and have fun!
When medicated I feel like it's easier to stick to a task, but it doesn't help me with picking the right task so I think I understand some of what you feel. The Time Timer has helped me sometimes when I just need the extra bit of external help. The act of picking it up and deciding to use it helps reaffirm my intention of working on a thing, and then the visual indicator of time passing helps my really really bad time sense to be moored to reality a bit better. The mental UHG of beginning the work task seems to melt away pretty quick after that initial step. Then the medication helps to let me proceed without my mind wandering. Other stuff is a necessity like physical activity and enough sleep. Getting out of a misdirected focus is tough, so I feel for ya.
Same! My current partner doesn't mind and I actually convinced a previous partner to adopt it so there are at least two ladies out there who are neutral-to-positive about it.