
I had one of those marriages where it was more roommates than mates. Just very blah. No infidelity, no abuse, but… nothing super great about it either. It took me two years of working up the nerve (and secretly hoping my partner would actually listen and put forth effort), before I ended things. In the end, I admit, that the comfort and stability of the relationship had me thinking of going straight back to her, but we had a fundamental difference that stopped it; I wanted kids, or at least to adopt if we had the means, and she absolutely didn’t. Yes, we discussed it before we got married, but she said she’d “think about it,” and I think we both thought the other would change their mind. I still love and care for her, but we weren’t meant to be married. It hurt so much to split, but was the right thing to do.
My single life has been actually pretty great since then. I’ve gone to therapy, really focused on myself, really healed a lot. I’ve traveled, learned new things, tried new things, and never once felt ashamed about dancing. But dang, it’s hard dating again, especially when I’m 40 and still trying to find my perfect partner that also wants children. Dating apps means that everyone’s attention is constantly being pulled back to the prospect of finding someone better. Like, you meet, and everything is cool, but the dating app is like an unscratched lottery ticket, you never know what you’ll end up getting by going back in.
So while my single life has been great, I’m ready for my forever partner, and I fear that maybe, I’m just not good enough to keep my perfect partners attention.













bro thinks funko pops are a hobby 🤣