I have seen women glance at and even fully check out dudes. I have talked with female friends about this as well. It might be surprising to hear, but women also have desires and sexual urges.

I definitely had a phase like that. I also was quite disgusted with myself and tried to rein it in as much as possible. I wouldn’t intentionally walk somewhere to see more girls. I also started to fight the urge to glance, because it just felt wrong to me. That went on for a while until I got tired of fighting my own body. I briefly stopped, but quickly noticed that the more I indulged, the stronger these urges got. So, I started to rein them in again to a level that felt good for me.

I think it’s okay to glance at a pretty women, but that’s it. No staring, no trying to get more glances. It takes some willpower, but the more I practiced and the older I got, the easier it became. Also it does feel a little rewarding to notice the urge to peak at the girl in the short skirt, but to keep your eyes straight until she is gone. Makes me feel like a little superior to the other men I see leering.

One simple trick is to look around and check out who is glancing/staring instead. A lot of people do that, men and women, though mostly men (at least at women). It’s probably normal, but can be interactive for some. I think it’s important to accept that part of yourself, but also to not indulge it too much. If this seems impossible, I think consulting a therapist might be the way to go.

Erstens ein emotionaler Aspekt - Internet beruhigt viele. Die Probanden leiden unter Stress und psychischer Belastung. Sie wollen sich besser fühlen und haben gelernt, dass beispielsweise Computerspiele oder Online-Shopping ihren Stress erstmal abbaut. Alleine der Anblick einer App könne dann schon ein starkes Verlangen auslösen.

Zweitens: Die Automatisierung. Wir merken oft gar nicht mehr, wenn wir das Handy aus der Tasche holen. Auch Gewohnheit spielt eine große Rolle. Viele kommen stundenlang nicht mehr vom Netz los

Der dritte Mechanismus ist der Kontrollverlust. Betroffene können schon bei der Entscheidung, “Spiele ich, oder spiele ich nicht?”, nicht mehr stoppen. Ploppt der Gedanke an eine bestimmte Internetanwendung auf, wird unkontrolliert konsumiert. Egal ob Social Media, Online-Shopping oder Pornografie. Hängen Süchtige einmal in der App, kommen sie oft stundenlang nicht mehr los. “Auf Tik Tok werden einem automatisch immer neue Videos zu einem Thema, das mich interessiert angezeigt. Auf einmal sind ein paar Stunden rum”, erzählt eine 22-Jährige. Und dann immer wieder diese Werbeanzeigen zum Online-Shopping.

I bet The Owl House would work great. Fun, weird, inclusive, magical, fantasy world that is parallel to ours. In a similar direction: She-Ra and the Princesses of Power.

To larp? How do you larp niche media?

Are you gatekeeping gatekeeping gatekeeping?

Yeah, I don’t see that as gatekeeping. The gatekeeping I’ve seen, is knowledge checking newbies, then dismissing and griefing them for not already knowing everything as “fake fans”. Demanding streamers play a game a certain way, because that’s considered the optimal/correct way. Generally being elitist and smug towards any newcomer in the community, actively pushing them out.

Maybe you have a different definition of gatekeeping, because for me it always meant fans keeping other fans out of the fandom for various reasons. I don’t see how that prevents other developers from developing similar games or the genre from shifting with new trends.

Bucky OHare and the Toad Wars! Although, IT was called something completely different in German

Also: Samurai Pizza Cats!

You might be expecting too much nuance from online communities. It’s easy and fun to oversimplify and dunk on a perceived common enemy. Lemmy has a very AI critical community. I imagine on reddit you might get less backlash, at least depending on the community. You might also find more AI friendly places here. In any case, trying to fight against a community bias is often a fools errand. I’m sure your code isn’t slop, but I don’t think you’ll be able to change the minds of random, biased people on the internet with no incentive to really listen to you anyways.

I’m sure you already know all the reasons why people are against AI and are sick of having to defend yourself. Still, I want to add that even if you use AI as a tool instead of vibe-coding, as a consumer I wouldn’t trust any privacy/security critical software that’s developed with the use of AI. As a layman I can’t check how secure your software is, so I have to rely on simple signifiers to make my judgements. At this point in time, AI is a red flag for me for security reasons alone. I know it’s not “fair” or “accurate”, but I don’t have the time and knowledge to individually check every software to that extend. I know allegedly every programmer now uses AI in some form to code (I personally don’t and most people I know don’t either, but I’m sure it’s just my bubble), but it’s not a sign of quality code in my mind.

Another thing I want to add is that your hammer comparison should probably include how the hammer was produced and how much resources your hammer consumes to function. There is a strong ethical argument against the use of AI for most use cases. I’d include coding and code reviews. Again, that doesn’t make your code slop, but it might help you understand why so many people are ready to dismiss it as that.

That’s hilarious!

German movie Titel Translations are so bad, I feel like it could be its own community

Some people are also consciously or subconsciously looking for a younger partner, because they will put up with their bullshit, while someone more experienced would not. Definitely look out for that, but it’s hard to tell in the beginning.

So, you’re 18 and he is 33?

It’s said if you divide your age by 2 and add 7 you roughly get the youngest age you can date. That would be 23,5. Personally, I’ve come to the believe any gap of 10 years or more is too much. Your just in too different parts of your life. There is often a bad power balance and simply different needs.

Go on the date, have fun, but I wouldn’t get serious.

Your absolutely right!

My bad. I meant the cornea

There are no idiots, but the idea persists

I forgot the exact quote, but the gist was that wealthy people don’t need to actively collude, because their interests naturally align: Lower taxes, less oversight, less restrictions what to do with their wealth, undermine any effort that might threaten existing power structures.

That also explains why they naturally seem to support authoritarianism and facism, because those systems offer exactly that.

Reverse Pizza aka Hidden Pizza: Put the toppings first then the dough on top

Switched to Tidal. It’s cheaper and better quality. Also no AI music bullshit. They even have a tool to transfer your playlists and so on. Although it’s not perfect and I had to remove some tracks it identified incorrectly, because the real track isn’t on there. But the vast majority of music is on Tidal as well. There are just a few albums that a handful of artists haven’t put in tidal. Not sure why they didn’t, because they have other albums there, but I can live with that.