It sounds like there are more than enough signals to at least not assume at this point :/ Unfortunately, trans people can be be clumsy and shitty about gender stuff too sometimes
Are they someone you would consider coming out to sooner to avoid this in the future?
When I used Tinder, I always found that I had the least conversational people I've ever met on an app. Also people I rarely had anything in common with, but that could just just be a me problem.
Interesting that I still find girl to be the most validating label, woman to be a good label, and lady to be a label of ick. Maybe the latter just feels dated to me? Maybe I still see it as a term for someone older than me? I honestly don't know why lol.
What is your motivation behind posting these generalisations based on AGAB? I think everyone involved would prefer not to be lumped in with that label as often as possible. At best, it's maaaaybe a slight trend in the direction you noticed (probably not) and at worst it creates expected (and harmful) norms where that should be the last thing we think about!
I think I'm at peace with nobody really getting me. I used to think I could explain, but I'm not sure I believe anymore. As long as I can see my transition through, anything can happen after and anyone can misinterpret what they will.
Comfort in the smallness of it all. I'm glad our stories are just a blip.
There's something so insidious about trans people who's goal is to convert you to their particular brand of misery. I try to just do my own thing and ignore people like that, but occasionally I'm reminded of how depressing it can be.
Why would anyone spend all of their time trying to narrow down transition to the most trad definition possible? If it's really just what someone personally wants, fine, but it never really stops there. It's always weaponized against the community.
I hope that goes well!