idk, but maybe cause your comment implies that this post has a political agenda instead of just being shared because it’s a legitimately mildly infuriating issue
idk, but maybe cause your comment implies that this post has a political agenda instead of just being shared because it’s a legitimately mildly infuriating issue
I was diagnosed late, two years ago at 26, exactly like a couple of these women! It took me 8 years of on/off college to earn my B.S. I could never keep my apartment clean and felt so ashamed of how gross I was compared to my peers. I could never finish projects, stick with hobbies, I couldn’t even finish video games (except Nancy Drew lol). My diagnosis was such a relief, a burden lifted.
I still experience bouts of grief, imagining the life I could have led if I was diagnosed at a young age. My younger brother is autistic, and my parents weren’t aware of ADHD symptoms, so they never recognized that I was also neurodivergent. My needs took the backseat every time, because I wasn’t diagnosed with autism I was always expected to defer to whatever my brother needed/wanted. My relationship with my mother was severely impacted by her only caring about what happened to my brother, she didn’t care about my needs.
I remember sobbing in my room at the age of 7, because I realized that my mom loved my brother more than me. She came in and comforted me, reassured me that it wasn’t true, and I thought things would change. They didn’t. Every issue, no matter how small, she would side with him, never me, not once. It led to a lot of resentment towards my mom and brother, me and my dad would “team up” because my mom did the same thing to my dad (who was also later found out has ADHD, among other things). My mom now thinks she might be autistic as well, but my parents don’t have the means to get her tested atm.
My relationship with my mom has improved a lot now that I’m an adult, am diagnosed, and have moved out. My mom has realized a lot of the harm she did, apologized, and is working to change it. My brother, not so much.
I find it extremely difficult to be back home for too long, because my brother doesn’t know how to grow out of this dynamic. He still expects his every desire to be fulfilled no matter how I feel. We have discussed this so many times, each time he says he understands and things do get better for a week or two, then we’re back to square one. I’m tired. I grieve a relationship I wish I had with my brother, I wish we could be close and rely on each other, but I am the only one that gives.
Sorry, wow, this really turned into an outpouring of emotion. I’m really tempted to just delete it all but I’m trying not to do that as often. I typed this all up, I must want to share, I just feel ashamed for some reason.
Our cats are sweet little dummies, they absolutely insist on sticking their heads through the handles, then freaking out and running around with the bag caught around them. Now we cut the handles lol
I also sometimes get obsessive thoughts or compulsions, though I fall well below the bar of an OCD diagnosis. OP, this doesn’t sound like an ADHD symptom. But just because you experience OCD symptoms doesn’t mean you have OCD. You can still benefit from coping techniques that people with OCD use to handle their obsessive compulsions.
I tried, my local pharmacies ran out within days. Waiting for them to restock, they can’t give me an estimate. Not sure why they predicted they would need so few doses, we live in an area where most people are vaccinated
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everyone using brand new lemmy apps from random developers: 👀
Two small accommodations that have worked for me as a biochemist working in a lab.
One is that she needs to give deadlines for requests. She cant just say “get that to me ASAP” because does ASAP mean drop everything and do it now, stay late to finish what she needs tonight, or end of day tomorrow, etc. Or “hey I need ____” with no specified timeline, doesn’t work. She knows that my time blindness means I don’t remember how long ago she told me to do something, and I’m so busy with other shit that I easily lose track. I think it’s been two days, it’s actually been two weeks. She now gives me due dates. It’s less stressful than never knowing when she actually needs something.
Another is if I’m running an experiment then I can’t listen in to meetings like everyone else, because I get distracted and fuck up my experiment. My boss knows that if my experiment is the higher priority then I won’t attend any meetings during that time, and she’s fine with it. If it’s an important meeting I have to plan my experiment around it, or just do it another day.
I’m not sure if these qualify exactly. I didn’t have to go to HR to document my disorder and request these accommodations, I just talked to my boss as these things became problems.