From personal experience, the only way this works for me and my partner is making enough room for the ND related things so that even if you can't help, at least the other will have time and space to reassemble themself. It's not perfect, but it's been working for more than a decade by now.
I don't feel like the recent feedback session had much of an effect on the conduct on hexbear. Some people, sure, but in general, there seems to be little concern about ableist language still.
Here's to another two weeks of keeping going despite everything that comes at us. I believe in us, and I know we'll be alright. Take care lovelies, you got this
On a less personal but more managing related note, would anybody be opposed to me joining the mods of the disabled community? I've been talking to @un_mask_me@hexbear.net about it and have been considering it while I was down with my surgery stuff. I've come to the conclusion that I'd very much like to help out, but I do not wish to become a mod if the community isn't okay with it.
Your stress is too much for you, and that's bad. It doesn't matter if other people are more stressed. Only thing that matters is that you get to relieve your stress somehow or get rid of stressors affecting you. Hope that's possible sweetie
Germany, actually, and they barely have these lifetime positions anymore. I think the official reasoning was actually "cost cutting" but in so many fancy words lol
Hope it's going well!