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fracture

@ fracture @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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  • Men Born in the Summer Are More Likely to Be Depressed, Study Finds

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  • i don't understand what the implication is here. is more likely to report depression symptoms meaningfully distinct from having them? do we think that men born in the summer are just more honest about their mental health struggles?

  • Transmasc needs mods

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  • thanks, i'll do my best!

  • R/trans is a fucking mess

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  • i'd like to see more than "i don't know if it holds water", especially since you don't couch it nearly as well in your previous post bringing it up

    a thesis is on the onus of who brings it up to substantiate it; if you can't defend it, i would question the wisdom of bringing it up in an already contentious conversation

  • Transmasc needs mods

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  • yeah i'm interested (also i'm transmasc), i'm around pretty often on this account now, it's the main one i use for browsing lemmy nowadays

    it would really be better for me if moderation stuff works on the boost client, idk if you know if it does or not (have never moderated before)

  • affirmations please? [vent] (kind of vent)

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  • idk i use emoji all the time, if someone told me they would think i was a girl because of it, i would... look at them like they were fuckin idiots and ignore them LMAO

    but i'm quite a bit older, if i had to guess (altho i am being a bit presumptuous here)- this reads like something one would hear from some insecure teenagers who haven't really unpacked gender roles. the concept of "passing" over text message is quite funny, i won't lie

    just remind yourself that you are a guy, regardless of your mannerisms or texting style or... whatever. there's no correct way to be a guy, and i would say that being the way you are, especially if others say it's "wrong", is pretty damn manly, imo

    you'll find whatever feels right for you, as far as presenting as a guy, from there

  • I think this is as done as it's getting - DIY mental health course

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  • well uh, i get an error "cannot complete request", so,

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  • i get the point, but both of the posts there are things that are not only believably true, but i do believe them to some extent, and am only disappointed that they're fake headlines

  • PSA regarding if you have an underbite and would want FMS

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  • instead of braces, you can get surgery and fix your jaw that way, which will also move your jaw forward and (maybe, i guess?) eliminate the need for a chin enhancing implant

    there's not like a problem if you do get braces, but you could kill two birds with one stone instead of spending the time and effort on braces and then getting chin enhancing FMS

    if you like your chin and don't plan to get FMS, just get braces, though

  • fox rule

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  • can a brotha get a sound warning on this piece?

    turned my volume up bc i thought it was gonna be a quiet fox noise and got CLANGGGG 💀💀💀

  • when did you change in your dreams?

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  • this is an interesting question. i'm transmasc and a little over five years since coming out and starting HRT. i'm also pretty old (for the internet, anyways), so i had lived a life while presenting female - i have a lot of experiences, memories, friends, ect from that time period

    i never had dreams where i was a man, pre-transition. even nowadays, sometimes i dream and it uses my past self concept as a woman. it was a little surprising to realize i had dreams where i was a man, actually (which would have probably been a few years after i transitioned). but it varies, and i don't put too much stock in it. it was hard enough for me to figure out that i'm a man, i don't hold it against my dreams or whatever. and, conversely, it doesn't bring me a ton of relief if i have a dream where i am a man, because i am one when i wake up, and that's all that matters to me

    in a lot of ways though, when i dream, my essence is that of myself, with the traits that i largely identify as - not male or female, but rather, determined, persevering, and intent on finding truth. these define who i am much more than my gender, in my dreams

    all that said, the question about self concept is the hardest one for me to answer. i feel like an entirely separate person - albeit one who has the memories of another person's lived life - and, in a way, the same heart. however, there is a definite break between where she ended and i began, which was marked by the moment i realized that i'm trans. so i don't really know how to answer that, maybe it's a slower and less traumatic experience for others? i had to forget everything i had learned, i had to rediscover who i was from scratch. in doing so, i realized that many things i attributed to "who i am" were much more tenuous than i had previously believed

    but i think that's a good realization, to know that you'll still be yourself no matter what changes. it frees you to grow as a person, without clinging to notions of who you were or who you should be

    no matter what you need to do to survive or blend in, no matter what body you have, don't forget or doubt yourself in your womanhood

    i might have had more to write, but i'm too sleepy and thought it would be better to write this out before i forgot. i'm looking forward to reading more of the responses in this thread later though