I get your point. I guess I made some assumptions there. Still feels like a big red flag that he handwaved a very big difference in their desired outcomes.
In other words, it doesn't sound like he respects her wishes at all.
You tried to cancel, he refused to accept that. Huge fucking red flag! He also ignored your clearly started desire for no kids.
The rest of it sounds like love bombing, a really disgusting tactic mostly used by abusive individuals to get you to doubt your own thoughts and feelings. But really, I strongly suggest you do some web searches regarding love bombing.
Reality check: there is no three seconds. You don't get anywhere appreciably faster, you just put everyone around you in danger because of the foolish and reckless need to be "one car ahead".
Bawls