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fakir

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  • What infuriates me most is that this actually works on some people.

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  • I'm fully agreeing that climate change is a terrible and genuinely upsetting thing. But know that the animal in you wants to instinctively react to fear, and doesn't want you to listen to reason. Only you can control this animal. Know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum (it's from a song). Our ancestors lived in caves, lived through feudalism, through centuries of egomaniacal kings and ignorant masses, and sword fighting, and disease, and famine, you and I still made it here to exchange messages on the fediverse. I will not bet against human resilience and spirit of cooperation, which incidentally is also something you will realize is fundamentally human when you look deep in the mirror.

  • What infuriates me most is that this actually works on some people.

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  • Depression is a natural state of deep self-reflection amidst conflict, a mirror so to speak that helps you understand who you are, and as an extension, understand what it means to be human. The way out is only when you've figured the underlying root cause of that conflict. What is anger, what triggers this anger, what are insecurities, what motivates you into action and what paralyzes you into inaction. Maybe not depression, but deep self reflection is a necessary path to self actualization. It took me many years in depression to realize the conflict is internal and eternal. That there is an animal in all of us that is that is reactionary and instinctive and is easily triggered by rage, anger, & fear and that all reason and logic hides behind this animal. That when we see the whole world turn into animal, our fears revive the animal in us. Like game theory predicts, when you become selfish, I become selfish. That explains all conflict in the world and I mean all conflict. You may gain clarity and find yourself out of conflict and depression, yet it can still be upsetting to see the current state of the world. And I will say that despite all the terrible news these days, I'm still optimistic about humans doing alright in the long run, afterall we've survived so far and our ancestors have gone through much much worse.

  • I can't count things to save my life

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  • Not sure why that's crazy? Sure you can imagine a teenager making a dumb risky move because they were stuck between a rock and a hard place?

  • I can't count things to save my life

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  • Oh boy, do I got a few things to say - I guess I was never supposed to be good at math, I was too distracted looking out the sunny class windows to pay any attention to the algebraic equations being scribbled on the blackboard by my 8th grade math teacher. Midterms come and I come up with a brilliant plan to cheat through it, I almost feel smug. Since I can't memorize these algebraic equations, I write all these stupid formulas on small sheets of paper and hide them, one under my transparent but tinted writing board, and another in the fold of my sleeve. As I keep me eye at the door to see if the teacher is coming, this sonnovabitch peers in through the damn windows and catches me red handed. As he's walking me to the principal's office, the other cheatsheet falls off my sleeve too. My engineer dad decides to teach me math over the next few months, and he does so with some tough love, but then I realize something - math is a system, and it's very logical and it makes just too much sense, and if you keep following logic and truth, you will arrive at your answer, no matter how hard the problem. I graduated high school with a graduating nickname of math whiz, yes how nerdy, but look at the transformation.

    Three decades later, my autistic kid would stumble and struggle at the same exact gates of math hell in 7th grade algebra like a true carbon copy. I tell her you have it in you to conquer this, but she refuses to believe me. I realize she was in a bad school with a terrible math teacher. I force change schools over the summer. I tell her it's a system and that you need to practice and that is how you will gain confidence. She put in the hard work and understood the system and now tops her class in math. Her friends from her old school on the other hand think they are shit at math and it is because they don't have it in them. It's such a delicate line between being a math whiz and going all your life thinking you don't get it.

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    Why has our society accepted the mantra of "Don't let people take advantage of you" rather than focusing on "stop taking advantage of people"?

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  • 'Supposed to' - yeah, we all wish. 'Reality' is that you are who you are. If you don't recognize this primal instinct in yourself, you'll never understand it in others. To understand the world, all you need is a mirror, and you need to look really deep in it.

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    Why has our society accepted the mantra of "Don't let people take advantage of you" rather than focusing on "stop taking advantage of people"?

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  • The rise of nationalism / individualism world-wide is due to powerful propaganda targeting this exact instinctive behavior of man that tells him that he is superior to his neighbor with the different religion, county of birth, skin color, economic status. There's a reason propaganda relies on rage, anger, & fear because those emotions evoke your animal instincts, bypassing all rational thinking.

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    Why has our society accepted the mantra of "Don't let people take advantage of you" rather than focusing on "stop taking advantage of people"?

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  • We still possess our primal instincts, we still have fight flight response involuntarily to something new or unknown, we still fall in the us vs them trap, we cheer for our team, our country, our religion, and shit on the other team, other county, other religion. It takes wisdom to rise above labels, but it's definitely not instinctive.

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    Why has our society accepted the mantra of "Don't let people take advantage of you" rather than focusing on "stop taking advantage of people"?

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  • When you reframe the whole world as a jungle with 8 billion animals, your mantra translates to - don't get hunted, but it's okay to hunt, because that is survival instincts.

  • Trudeau tells Trump: Tariff war will shut American factories

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  • Any sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice.

  • Kill 'em with kindness 🫶☺️

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  • I'm referring to kids before even going to school. Ego / identity develops in kids by around age 5, that's when they see the I separate from the rest, they see the difference between what they have and what others have, they find this identity that only belongs to them in this sea of identities and they adjust and they react. I'm not sure if you've talked to kids before age 5, I've raised a few kids, and so I'm talking from experience.

  • Kill 'em with kindness 🫶☺️

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  • Humans by default want to love one another unconditionally. It is how kids are, it is how our pets are. It is our biases and prejudices and labels and insecurities and traumas that have made our love for one another conditional. The whole world needed a big hug after the pandemic. We didn't get one. We saw powerful propaganda being an effectual tool in sowing discord, and it worked by appealing to our individualism, incorrectly overriding collectivism. With the visible rise of individualism worldwide, we're all shriveling in our lonely corners, unloved. Everyone is, not just those choosing the individualism. The world needs loving. Here's a hug for everyone who reads this comment. I love you unconditionally.

  • Am I a bad person?

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  • You are a very good person, because you are reflective of your past, conscious of your actions, and have morals that gave you the guilt that you feel. You're alright little one.

  • Trump tells DOJ to prosecute teachers who “unlawfully” support trans or nonbinary students

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  • Nobody is saying your emotions are invalid. Your feelings are very valid. Here's a hug from me to you to prove the point (I hope it counts, lol). All I'm saying is that anger is instinctive & it clouds our judgement (like we literally can't process any other thoughts while angry). If you calmly think about it, you instantly reacted and insulted me and other poster above you, you put us both in the 'other team', while we were both in your team all along. That my friend is anger leading to more individualism (you alone in your room) over collectivism (same team). That is the exact same weakness that is exploited by those doing the propaganda. And that is why we all need to rise over it.

  • Trump tells DOJ to prosecute teachers who “unlawfully” support trans or nonbinary students

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  • I feel the mad in you, I sincerely do, but when the whole ocean is moving in a certain way due to underlying currents, it is incorrect to place the blame on any individual droplet, for none of them individually are responsible for it or have the power to control or alter it. Understand that the droplets themselves are moving because of the said currents. The best you can do is accept reality and plan your course ahead. The mad only burns you from inside without solving any problem.

    PS: to everyone commenting below me, now mad at me -

    1. everyone is accountable for their individual actions and I'm not absolving anyone of their individual responsibilities.
    2. I'm not telling you that you shouldn't feel the mad, rather that I get the mad that you feel. I'm just as mad as you.
    3. After being mad at all your friends and family for say about a decade, you come to realize that most of them are simple minds susceptible to propaganda, and that propaganda works, and that it works because it appeals to the human instinct of individualism (incorrectly overriding collectivism) using tools like fear and anger. We need to rise over our own anger and other instincts to see all this so we can better move forward.

  • Why do some people think others are troll just because they don’t like what they have to say?

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  • these 'trolls' are just regular users.

    Umm, every human is a regular user. Every regular user comes with these defaults - 1) instinct to react, and 2) defend their worldview. It takes patience and mental effort to not instinctively react, but rather shut up & ponder & reflect. 49 out of 50 want to win the debate but only 1 out of 50 wants to solve the problem.

  • 'Doomsday Clock' moves closer to midnight amid threats of climate change, nuclear war, pandemics, AI

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  • Sorry, why is that 3rd man the villain of the story, and what do you mean humans fumbled the ball?

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  • And how does one let most of those thoughts go unsaid?

  • Where does one buy second hand bicycles ?

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  • I bought 2 used trek bikes in the pandemic from a bike rental shop.

  • Federated Dating App?

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  • Not owned by a corporation driven by a profit motive.