There’s no berating here or superiority being touted. At least that is not my intention.

The entire point of the question was to provide an example of something that is understatedly more harmful to us than originally presented.

I said alcohol and it hasn’t a “net” positive; meaning whatever benefits people think it has is outweighed by the fact it may give you cancer. Your response— as I read it, as it met my statement with a smile— was dismissive of that because you’ve made friends.

I’m now just arguing that that positive benefit is not exclusive to alcohol and should not be in its “pro” column.

At no point have I meant to imply someone is better than others to abstain from it; however, perhaps this is an example to clarify what I think your point was that this is a negative of being sober or opting to not drink, is that you cannot make friends with some people because they will feel judged by your abstinence.

I did say I wouldn’t want to be friends with those people, but that’s more because I don’t enjoy the social pressure or situation in which someone else in my immediacy.is uncomfortable by my personal choice that only affects me.