I had very similar experiences. Let me know if you ever want to talk about it, but I’m also unsociable so I will understand perfectly if you never do, and may even be relieved.

You get it.

14h ago

What are your views on homeschooling?

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Deacon @lemmy.world 14h ago

I was homeschooled K-12 and never went to college, so home school is literally all I know and I have thoughts.

Motivation matters - I was home schooled for religious reasons by parents who were themselves educated but wholly unqualified to teach a single child much less 4 kids. They homeschooled us primarily to avoid the indoctrination of the secular world, where the lies of evolution and gay baby killers reigned supreme. Thus, I was not well educated and didn’t realize it until I got into the work force. I have been battling crippling imposter syndrome ever since I realized how deficient my education was - I’m still in the process of understanding the scope of that deficiency
oversight is not optional. In my situation, we were homeschooled without any government involvement or oversight in any way. My parents told me at the time that this was how the laws in my state worked but they also told me to stay away from Truant Officers so I think they were lying. I had no sense of equivalency or where I stood compared to my peers until I was in the process of testing out to get my GED (because weirdly, prospective employees weren’t keen to accept the “diploma” my dad had printed from MS Word) that I saw my percentile rank in various subject
Unless you are an educator, don’t try to run a curriculum. If you’re going to homeschool, pay a tutor. If you can’t pay a tutor, probably don’t home school

I know that last bit sounds extreme and I don’t think my home school experience is typical so take it with a grain of salt.

Edit: none of this even addresses the social impacts, which are intense if not mitigated with a lot of sports and group activities, etc

15h ago

Prepared for this day

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Deacon @lemmy.world 15h ago

I had a moment of validation almost identical to this and it was just as satisfying as you would imagine.

16h ago

US immigration authorities arrest Spanish-language news reporter in Tennessee

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Deacon @lemmy.world 16h ago

Whoa, whoa, whoa.

Let’s not rush to judgement about the actions of an illegal fascist paramilitary gang until all of the facts are in, okay?

16h ago

Breaking news;

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Deacon @lemmy.world 16h ago

Cats are perpetually one moment of disinterest away from just sauntering off from whatever to whatever else.

17h ago

Senator Jon Husted can't leave D.C. to testify in public corruption trial in Ohio due to the "Iran war," defense attorneys said. He did find time to return to Ohio to attend a fundraiser

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Deacon @lemmy.world 17h ago

Man, I love reporters like this. Not even a comment either way on the quality of this specific reporting, but the first-person, openly adversarial but not hostile, “the people want to know” style of reporting is what we need more of. And it is fast disappearing with the general Bezos-Ization of news in America.

1d ago

Trump shrugs off rising gas prices to reporters – ‘If they rise, they rise’

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Deacon @lemmy.world 1d ago

Username too apt.

1d ago

What is a belief you’ve done a total 180 on?

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Deacon @lemmy.world 1d ago

So many of them. So, so many.

Maybe the only one I’ve kept perfectly intact is my belief that the golden rule is prime.

I was raised a young earth creationist, picketed abortion clinics when I was elementary school aged but don’t worry I was home schooled from kindergarten through high school. Was basically a republican/libertarian until about 2015 when my spiritual leaders, including and especially my parents, began to compromise all of their values.

More recently, probably even until 2020, I viewed myself as an aspiring centrist.

Now I’m an agnostic atheist who is seeing how far left the political spectrum goes, and I still think centrism is a nice idea, in a totally different world than the one we live in, with a totally different meaning to “center”.

Here is the thing I should disclose though, because I suspect it applies to a lot of things.

I was raised steeped in a level of bigotry that was all-encompassing but cloaked in Christian love.

I have intellectually separated myself from that bigotry, but I believe I still have instinctive/subconscious/unidentified bigotries to work through.

I am trying to be very conscious of that as I make my way in the world, trying to love my neighbor as myself, and trying to continuously expand the definition of “neighbor”.

Edit: I also cut my parents out of my life entirely around the time DOGE sent their “fork in the road” email.

1d ago

Waffle House bans Florida candidate for governor, he says

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Deacon @lemmy.world 1d ago

I am so curious to know what your expectations were going in. Had you been to a similar greasy spoon type restaurant before?

2d ago

WTF, a banana is a berry!!?

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Deacon @lemmy.world 2d ago

Man I am glad I tasted fruit before I read this.

2d ago

House Turns Back Bid to Restrict Trump’s War Powers in Iran

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Deacon @lemmy.world 2d ago

Is that the dude that just took a pardon from Sundowner in chief?

2d ago

Trump fires DHS secretary Kristi Noem, replaces her with Sen. Markwayne Mullin

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Deacon @lemmy.world 2d ago

Edit: I deleted a lot of this that made it obvious I did not read all of the comment I was responding to. But,

My guess is that there are/will be two levels of removal:

Moving to another job because you’re a Good Soldier and will Keep Your Mouth Shut about the countless things they aren’t telling us, or
The window method popularized by our President’s real constituent