Met my wife at a dungeon. Shot my shot at two women at the same time and the fool who thought it was charming even managed to get tricked into marriage.
Met my best friends by answering an ad looking for other lesbians to play d&d during the pandemic. Those of us who showed up and stayed wound up forming extremely strong friendships.
Jane sounds lovely, and based on what you've said, it's unwise but not wrong to go for her. Dating a coworker is shitting where you eat, but it's usually mild.
John seems like a good kid, but he needs a conversation about professionalism. He put you in an uncomfortable situation by telling you he's romantically interested in a coworker who's been hitting on you. You probably shouldn't know he's a furry either. Hell, you shouldn't know he's so unhappy he's looking for other work. He sounds neurodivergent, and that's cool, but non judgementally, he needs to be aware that that level of openness with coworkers can cost jobs and possibly even risk sexual harassment claims.
Like let's remove the you and Jane leg here. A generic friend of yours is telling you that he thinks he screwed up, he told his boss that the only reason he's still working there is because he's trying to date the head of another department. He's asked her out, but nothing seems to have come of it, but it's ok, they're friends. Somewhere in this conversation he mentions that everyone at work knows about his mental health struggles and that he's in therapy. How fucked do you tell your friend he is? Because I'll say this, I'd be terrified that friend is misreading the situation with the woman, she's afraid to say no (if they were actually friends he wouldn't need to see her at work to pursue her), and she's afraid to turn him down directly lest he hurt himself. And barring all that, he's still given them reasonable cause for firing. That's not necessarily the situation or even the most likely scenario, but it's a plausible one.
I'm sympathetic to John. At my first few jobs when I was his age I was far too open about myself and my life. I never hit on coworkers, but otherwise relatable. It fucked me hard, and I really benefited when I learned to create a professional boundary and barriers.
Also, figure out your liability in all reasonable scenarios. Not from strangers on the internet. If John's advances on Jane are unwelcome are you going to be in trouble for knowing and not reacting.
Hell beyond sexual violence in conflicts, H. sapiens has a long cross cultural tradition of using marriage to seal peace. Sex to resolve conflict is also present in one of our closest extant relatives (the bonobo), though not in their closest relative. We know very little about Neanderthals' behavior. We don't even know to what extent their behavior was cultural vs instinctive. If prior to reestablishment of contact sapiens were sending daughters as part of peace (as we did until relatively recently) while Neanderthals were sending sons and nobody wanted to fight over this difference you could wind up with an entirely cultural reason for this split.
Topics like these greatly sadden me as I think of all the cousins we killed before we even had the technology to write about them. What a fascinating world it must have been to have other members of our genus around, and how sad none were in any of the places we reached last.
No, it's actually hard to find subcompacts these days. Which sucks as someone who prefers them for reasons beyond price. I like having a tiny, super maneuverable vehicle. I can u turn easily, parallel park without problems, and even see children and wheelchair users crossing the street in front of me
That truck cost more than my bachelor's degree and car combined… And Acura is just luxury Honda. Japanese automakers like to have luxury brands separate from the main one. Buying an Acura (Honda), Lexus (Toyota), or Infiniti (Nissan) should be assumed out of the question unless you can afford a BMW, Cadillac, or any other classic luxury car. And honestly pickups that you don't need for work should be seen the same way, but moreso. And yeah even if it is for work like here it should be analyzed as a business expense not a nice car that'll definitely actually make you money, no, you run the money like any other capital investment for heavy machinery, with a bit of extra leeway as it's also your company car.
On one hand I agree with a lot of the replies about how all cars have gotten massively expensive, but also I do generally agree with you. Like, yeah, it's absolutely awful that Americans can't buy a reasonably affordable station wagon with decent mileage to haul around their 5 kids these days, and the light truck loophole needs to be closed.
But also, I swear to fuck, the number of people I know that are lower/middle class schmucks who scoff at the idea of driving something that's small, boring, and efficient is part of the problem. It's a weird situation where it's getting harder and harder to live within one's means, but also so many people seem adamant not to.
Yeah my reasonable vehicle isn't able to do everything I might want to, it wasn't new, it's not the fanciest car, and it isn't engaging in the arms race that our roads have turned into. But I paid cash, I get good mileage, and it's good enough. I'm what would be considered lower middle class to the boomers. I don't make enough money to get the nicest, fanciest car or to drive a giant expensive suv and also have good finances.
I will say though that many Americans simply cannot pay cash or go without a car. When for most of the country busses in a major city come once an hour (and if you live in the affordable suburbs, it's a single commuter bus) it's often either vehicle ownership or unemployment. And cities with good public transit are generally pretty expensive. But you need to actually develop the financial literacy to understand what kind of loan you can take on and what kind of car you can have. You need to stop thinking of a car loan as a fixed cost that once it's paid off it's time to buy another car, and instead once it's paid off it's time to start putting that money aside for your next car so you take less of a hit. Americans don't save even when we can, we take more debt than is reasonable and buy above what we can afford. Until that pattern stops we're going to continue moving towards longer loans with more expensive payments.
Yeah, now don't get me wrong, you can get some deals on cars when dealers see the lot space as increasingly valuable compared to the car on it, but they're salespeople, they'll swear up and down that that's the case no matter what the situation is.
You want to know how you can tell you got a good deal? You compare it to what similar vehicles are being sold for at other places, you have an independent mechanic check it out (an honest dealer will be perfectly happy with you doing that), and you ask a trusted financial institution (ideally a credit union) what they would loan you for it. In general you trust that everything a car salesperson is doing that sounds good is to keep your eyes on the hand that isn't in your pocket.
Yep. Going braless can be a fashion statement outside work (very 90s), but it's seen as pretty unprofessional to have visible nipples. It's also generally something that less passing trans women (especially early in transition women) get way less social leeway on. That said, before I got mine pierced I typically went braless socially, but since then it's just too visible to do outside the sort of contexts where it's socially appropriate to flash my high beams.
They absolutely do care who it is. Notice how they never bother dealing with car noise complaints, coal rollers, or violence committed by right wing demonstrators?
My father had a car with that when I was a kid and I still remember how much he loved it.
As someone who's never had it it's always seemed like a nice to have and like it's silly it's not standard. Though it does look like you can get aftermarket ones at a reasonable price and that is tempting
Also the years you lose/gain don't come from the end, they come from wherever you are now. If you're 30 and start exercising you feel better and younger longer in addition to living longer, the inverse if you decide to start smoking.
As a tall lady, yeah my short ex was way stronger than me. Like, I'm generally pretty strong, but she was built like a longshorewoman. And yeah she was vicious and scrappy.
Hell adolescence to 32 is pushing green into purple territory. At a certain point you have to just accept that early adulthood involves a lot of growth, maturing, and continued development.
Idk. Sure compared to 25 years ago, it's better, but autocorrect on phones is much worse than 10 years ago.