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I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada@blahaj.zone or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • Believe it or not, you don't speak for all everyone who isn't' cis.

    The only person in this conversation trying to speak for all trans people is the person you're defending

    It's telling that the only fault you see is in the voice of a trans person defending themselves, and not in the voice of the person saying that trans people don't actually exist, they're just people confused about stereotypes

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  • Go and re-read the post of the guy you're defending.

    His opening sentence was literally "Being mtf or ftm trans is conforming to gender stereotypes with extra steps"

    He is quite openly saying that without gender stereotypes, trans people wouldn't exist, and that trans people are really just folk who are too caught up in gender stereotypes. He continues to express that opinion even after trans people directly and openly talk about their identity and how it is distinct from stereotypes.

    I've been having these discussions for a decade or more now. I know red flags, I know dog whistles, and I know why those things are problematic. And to be frank, you don't.

  • Is this a blue, gray-blue, or gray eye?

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  • Hazel has to have brown in the mix somewhere though

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • What I care about is people who aren't trans, trying to erase trans people, by blaming them for the system that oppresses them, whilst letting themselves off the hook for propping up the same system.

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • No, what he's saying that being trans is "conforming to gender stereotypes" and that if we got rid of stereotypes, trans people would be able to express themselves how they want, without having to be trans.

    Which is to say, he's suggesting that trans women are all trying to be feminine, and if there was a way for men to be feminine without societal push back, trans women wouldn't need to exist. He doesn't explicitly state the last bit, but that's what he really means, and it's why he considers his position controversial

    When I made a post going in to detail about the lack of relevance feminine gender stereotypes have to my day to day life, despite the fact that I'm transgender, he largely ignored it, despite that being the basis of his "opinion"

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  • It was absolutely a judgement, because it's an opinion you shared in a "what's your controversial opinion" thread. if you didn't carry judgement within your opinion, you wouldn't be sharing it here.

    I will also highlight that you ignored pretty much the bulk of my post, where I expressly highlight my rejection of stereotypes, and my lack of understanding them, and their implicit lack of relationship with my identity, to focus on a single sentence that provided literally no detail to exclaim the veracity of your claim.

    You came in with an opinion that puts the onus for fixing the harm caused by gender stereotypes on trans people, despite trans people being less in a position to challenge that system than you are, whilst being more aggressively punished for challenging it than you are. You ignored the voices of trans people telling you about their experience and relationship, whilst never owning your own responsibility and involvement in the system.

    So no, you were not "observing". You were judging and holding trans people to a higher standard than you hold yourself.

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  • I'm trans. I'm a woman. I don't have my ears pierced, I rarely wear makeup, I don't do my nails, I haven't shaved my legs in coming up on 2 years. I don't understand femininity, and I perform it to the bare minimum standard, because if I don't, I face extra exclusion, hostility and questioning.

    What I'm trying to get at, is that I don't really care about "expressing myself". Abolishing gender stereotypes would absolutely make my life easier, and I guarantee I'm doing more to undo the power they hold over people than you ever will, whilst you sit there and judge trans people for upholding the system that punishes them far more than it will ever punish you.

  • I'm sure a good lot of you, like me, had been anticipating/dreading that moment when we say, oh fuck this is it, for real. Like the BIG oh fuck. My question is, how ready are you?

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  • Sucks that I wouldn't be able to shitpost about it, though.

    That's what mesh networking is for

  • How university life in Australia has changed

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  • I really hated the forced face to face time they wax nostalgic over in that article. Lectures that you had to attend in person and couldn't easily access after they were done, tutorial sessions where part of your final grade was received just for turning up, creating tutorials full of people who didn't want to be there and tutors trying to juggle so many people they couldn't meaningfully tutor anyone, effectively making it an enforced private study session...

    I did not love my time at uni...

  • How does genital nomenclature change as a person transitions? Edit: answered. Thanks all!

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  • You know your friend better than we do. Do what you think is right, and make sure you're open to accepting that you'll get it wrong sometimes, and then self correct.

  • Scientist from all over lemmy. What is or was the most scientifically correct movie or at least made an honorable attemt?

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  • Oh, I include all of that in the woo! And the time dilation planet, where the time dilation was more intense than that found on the surface of a neutron star...

    It's all woo!

  • Scientist from all over lemmy. What is or was the most scientifically correct movie or at least made an honorable attemt?

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  • As I said, I didn't like the movie, and that's exactly why. It tried to pass itself off on its scientific authenticity. It certainly lured me in with that, and then it sprung an endless stream of hand wavey science fiction woo.

  • Scientist from all over lemmy. What is or was the most scientifically correct movie or at least made an honorable attemt?

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  • As much as I hate the movie Interstellar and the magic woo woo it tried to pass off as science, one thing it did get right was the Black Hole visualisation. They generated the visualisation by using detailed, highly accurate models and data to show what a black hole actually looks like, before we'd ever seen one. The movie version isn't 100% accurate, because they dumbed it down for the movie, but even so it was still very accurate, and they also had the more accurate non movie version as a result, which generated scientific papers of its own!

    Edit - Also, not a scientist, just a passionate nerd

  • am i racist? anglophobic?

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  • The test is, are you punching down? That is to say, are you, from a position of privilege, ridiculing someone that lacks your privilege? If not, you're ok.

  • What is a common stereotype about your country or your ancestors’ country(ies) that just isn’t true?

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  • That we're all descended from convicts (though I am)

  • Waka Waka

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  • I use Cachy for the same reason :P

  • What's the best way to (start) learning a language?

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  • Comprehensible input will be useful for both of you, but particularly for your wife if she already has some Spanish. Dreaming Spanish is what I've been using, but there's also plenty of comprehensible input channels on YouTube.

  • [Art] Shadowrun art by Mark Zug

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  • I don't know that for sure, but it certainly feels that way to me

  • [Art] Shadowrun art by Mark Zug

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  • Yep, that was 4th edition. The first completely non FASA edition. I think the cover was very much meant to be reminiscent of the Shadowrun 1st edition cover. Different style of course, as the 1st Edition cover art was by Larry Elmore, and done in his style, but 4th edition, like 1st (and 2nd) edition both showed a group of runners in a dingy alleyway, mid action. The two covers look like two different artists takes on the same designers prompt.

  • FediNSFW the announcements community for the lemmyNSFW replacement

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  • The issue isn't the adult doing adult things, the issue is the viewers that are looking for content that is deliberately designed to look underage.

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Rule 3 - Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.

  • Nonbinary @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    This community needs new mods

  • Superbowl @lemmy.world
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    Tawny Frogmouth (Not technically an owl, so don't tell the mods :P)

  • birding @lemmy.world
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    White-bellied Sea-Eagle (Icthyophaga leucogaster)

  • birding @lemmy.world
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    Planning a heist

  • birding @lemmy.world
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    Nesting Ospreys (Pandion haliaetus)

  • Transmasc @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Transmasc needs mods

  • Brisbane @aussie.zone
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    Kerala’s first-ever light tram project, inspired by Brisbane model, proposed for Kochi’s non-metro areas

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  • DRONES @lemmy.world
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    Mavic 4 Pro details confirmed!

  • Photography @lemmy.ml
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    Variable Oystercatchers (Haematopus unicolor) - Carters Beach, Aotearoa/New Zealand, February 2025

  • Photography @lemmy.ml
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    Did someone say ducks?

  • 196 @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Community made 196 alternative - !onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone

  • unixsocks on fediverse @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Updated: Unixsocks no longer needs new mods

  • pics @lemmy.world
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    Carancho (Caracara plancus) - Reserva Ecológica Costanera Sur, Buenos Aires, Argentina - Deciembre 2023

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    Nicolás Mihanovich

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    Riverfire 2024, Brisbane, Australia

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    Meanjin

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    Riverfire, 2024 - Brisbane, Australia

  • Transmasc @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Blahaj Zone matrix space for gender diverse folk (now with corrected links)

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Blahaj Zone matrix space for gender diverse folk (now with corrected links)