Yes, this is unprecedentedly embarrassing. As a citizen of a historically closely-allied country I feel like I need write to my local MP and tell them exactly how embarrassing it is.
The idea that society is the problem could be true from the point of view of an ND person, but I don’t feel it’s the whole picture. I think there is a more helpful way to frame it.
ND naturally think and act in ways that are different from NT people, and may need different things, just as NT have needs and ways of thinking and acting that are natural to them.
So a better way to understanding the problem might be as miscommunication and lack of understanding. Sometimes the problem is ignorance and lack of empathy. This can happen on both sides.
A diagnosis gave me language and understanding to identify ways I’m different from other people, and helped me understand and communicate these differences.