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  • UPDATE: Kitty was rescued and is safe! This poor cat has been stuck for 5 days, and Xcel Energy is refusing to turn off electricity so the cat can be rescued

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  • Just adding that these operations are federally regulated to remain in operation. They likely don't even have the choice if they can't justify the liability.

  • Rescued barn cats (all orange)

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  • Cat Aphex Twin Album Art

  • How can we convince Trump voters to NOT vote for Trump (or Vance) in the 2026 midterms and the 2028 election?

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  • You need an argument more compelling than "he fucks children". Good luck.

  • What meditation/chill music do you put on to ground yourself?

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  • Hah! I just started my amanita journey but I've kept my eye on the psilocybins. I know there's good things there but one step at a time.

  • What meditation/chill music do you put on to ground yourself?

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  • Playlist with East Forest, Porangui, Aphex Twin. I call it my KetaMix.

  • Percent of Americans who depend on cars to get to work

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  • ##Percent of Lower 48 Americans who depend on cars to get to work

    FTFY

  • Not to get all religiony but why in the old testament God was all fire and brimstone and fatal consequences? But the new testament God is all about forgiveness and such??

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  • Lol, DnD types are the test case of outliers. If nothing else, it taught me to never assume someone isn't a player.

    Like, one campaign from an OCD person where even the scents and smells were planned. And then a different campaign where the smells were not. Just a pure dichotomy of human prototypes.

  • Not to get all religiony but why in the old testament God was all fire and brimstone and fatal consequences? But the new testament God is all about forgiveness and such??

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  • Oof, my apologies, subject matter expert.

  • Frequent Lying

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  • Speaking for myself, I grew up in an extremely toxic environment. Honesty, misunderstandings, and dishonesty were punished equally. So telling the truth about three transgressions guaranteed that you received the punishment of each. Getting caught lying made little to no difference. But getting away with anything meant less punishment. This created an environment where it was ALWAYS beneficial to lie. This made me very good at deception as a young child. That made it very easy to manipulate those around me. I didn't want to so it wasn't that important to me, but it helped me survive and adapt.

    But I got away from that place and met my partner who taught me complete trust and opened. No matter what I say, we work together and support one another. I have no incentive to deceive. Every once in a while I forget that no one is going to hit me for messing up and I start to lie. But even that is immediately accepted and appreciated. Additionally, we also have standing agreements that nothing is obligated. If you don't want to talk about something, you don't have to. And if you want to lie, you can. But after two decades, I love telling the truth. I feel so supported and safe.

    Now, there are times I lie (to others mostly), but it is used as a tool more than a survival tactic. It is something I take my time with and decide to do.

    Maybe your environment is not one that is safe to exist in? That was my issue.

  • bush rule

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  • It indicates low confidence. In this context it is because the response is an absolute hail mary wild guess.

  • bush rule

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  • I love your brain. Lawful chaos icon. Never change. Unless it antagonizes someone, that is.

  • Not to get all religiony but why in the old testament God was all fire and brimstone and fatal consequences? But the new testament God is all about forgiveness and such??

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  • No argument here. Literally. I have no dog in any respective race. Figuratively.

    And I would imagine that the community "no stupid questions" is not intended to be a repository of questions exclusively for SME's. As I understand it is an open forum to ask unspecified questions judgement free. I would presume that since the question is judgement free, the responses should be too. But this comment section is seething with judgements that add very little to the conversation regarding the basic query from OP. So, thanks for the suggestion on Justin. I assume they have a lot to say and I'm sure others will find it invaluable. This is not something I have a significant interest in myself so I'll take your word for it. Thanks.

  • Not to get all religiony but why in the old testament God was all fire and brimstone and fatal consequences? But the new testament God is all about forgiveness and such??

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  • Wow, this comment section... Yikes. Without getting deep in the weeds, testament means covenant. It was god's new agreement with man. In layman's terms, matthew 1:1 starts out like, "here's the deal man".

  • I feel stupid next to my sister

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  • My parents are not abusive

    I said this for decades. My parents never drank and were devout christians. My father was a committed husband and my mother rarely laid her hands on me but they were equally abusive. After confronting these things and joining group therapy, I have been horrified at the things they did that I didn't think was "abuse".

    You sound young, and I'm not saying that you are not capable of wisdom or discernment of truth only that you may not have an open perspective on the scope of complex emotion. I would recommend really exploring what you define as abuse before you land on such a conclusory judgement. Because the things you describe in your own words are vile and toxic. Not just the representations of your parents - and I don't mean to reproach - but even your own representations are troublesome. And to be clear, none of that is important to my point or even matters to me beyond the concept that your perspectives do not seem to be that of a healthy, non-abusive relationship.

    So for the purpose of your own self-empathy ask yourself: If you were able to raise the child that you were, would you treat that child in the same way? Would the child deserve to be treated that way? Would your sibling ever describe you the way you have described yourself? Do you deserve to be described that way? Would you describe others that you care about in that same way?

    And if I'm wrong and way out of line then feel free to let me have it. I'm not trying to judge you in any way, but I remember being so young and misguided and some of the things you portray remind me of who I used to be. I wasted so much of my life on anger and regret. Good luck!

  • Posting for the "Now guys he was MURDERED! Don't celebrate!" Crowd

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  • I don't have the slightest clue what concept you are trying to elicit, but regardless you're taking my words out of context. It's in bad faith and I'm not the least bit interested. No thank you.

  • Posting for the "Now guys he was MURDERED! Don't celebrate!" Crowd

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  • But that catharsis is blinding, vile, and destructive.

    My friend, you've got the right stuff. You have a very smooth and relatable style of communication and I really do value when those like you say something that I espouse and would otherwise butcher.

    I won't tell people not to celebrate because I know how disliked that sort of sentiment is on a thread like this. But you're absolutely right and it sucks. They know that they just hit the "not crying wolf" lottery and will never stop banging that drum.

    I'm frightened for whom the bell tolls.

  • Mandatory self-reflection hours

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  • It's a dash the length of M. The smaller one is called en dash.

  • Company Replaces Customer Support With AI, Then Panics and Forces Engineers to Work the Phones as the AI Fails

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  • I am fully spectrummed, so you may be. But I'm also ADD comorbid with a truckload of trauma so I don't where that puts me any more. I mean, other than psychotherapy. Because that is absolutely figuratively where it has put me. And I can't think of an actual place I'd rather be. You are invited to my birthday party.

    OH OH OH!!! I know a lot of really cool bridges. I won't tell you. You have to find them. But you will enjoy them.

  • Company Replaces Customer Support With AI, Then Panics and Forces Engineers to Work the Phones as the AI Fails

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  • Are you kidding? What I wouldn't give to be my company's customer support.

    "Hi-... Wait, hang on. There's a specific thingyyy... we... are.. sup-poooooooost-AHAH. Here it is, okay. [In sarcastic fancy voice] How can I help you? Lol, I should have been like "Welcome to Costco, I love you" right? hilarious. Idiocracy. And we are living it now. Sad. So... How can I help you?"...Oh wow, that's quite the conundrum. Hey, you should get assistance. Hah, jk. Gotcha. No this is an easy one. I mean, you've definitely got a PEBKAC issue but no worries. Let's start by-...Hey, you and me both. In fact most of the people I work with prefer to work with someone else, hah. But hey, wysiwyg, right? So, let's go. Before we start though, just FYI, it's pronounced comfortable....Uh, actually, no you didn't. You said "I'm not comf-TER-a-ble with you helping me." What you should have said was "I'm not com-FORT-a-ble with you helping me - com FORT a ble. See?...Fair enough, but it's not my fault you skipped the first day of pronunciation school. Baby's first grammar lesson amiright? Hello?"...Hello?

    Whoa, that was under a minute! Mark it on the board. Mark it zero! Donny. Remember that? Oh wait, no, it was Walter! Because he would always say, shut the FUCK up, Donny. That's why I got them mixed up. I always do that with Big Lebowski. Walter. Calmer than you are hah. Good movie. Oh shit, was I supposed to answer that?